Would you be more compatable in a relationship with someone who loves sex but indifferent to affection, or loves affection but indifferent to sex?

[VIVANT]

Understanding that for most people neither is ideal, and most would probably choose to opt out of either extreme, but if you HAD to choose, which. My guess is most will choose the sex w/out affection. I choose the opposite, but it’s not ideal. I prefer affection but the idea of someone being indifferent to anything physical is concerning, I suppose.

Sone people are repelled by affection or sex and I was going to ask about that but I won’t bc I think in the case of someone hating the idea of touching you in whichever way, it’s not going to be a relationship either can stand.

[NathanDavis]

if I really had to choose then I would go with affection, because affection can be shown in so SO many different ways, and it is also more present and constant through the day... and it is all those little and some bigger details that I would want to have, I would just not like to go without them

and while being with someone who is indifferent to sex, well that sure would suck big time... but maybe there could be a way to deal with, depending on what being "indifferent" to sex actually means... lol

[Jamie05rhs]

ABSOLUTELY, POSITIVELY, 1000%, WITHOUT A DOUBT, *affection* over sex!
I could NEVER, EVER, live together in a relationship with a woman who couldn't show affection or who was unwilling to. It would be inconceivable. That is an absolute deal-breaker.
What is the point of "love" if there is no LOVE? 🥺

[VIVANT]

It’s hard to imagine getting into that relationship, yet people do. I suppose I Jean I’m guessing there just e been a shift? Like it didn’t start out that way, or maybe it was mire if a sexual and intellectual connection possible. But yeah very wayward 👀

[Jamie05rhs]

@VIVANT I don't think it was an individual shift; it was a cultural shift. People started valuing sex more and more and more and making it such a huge thing that eventually people just bought into that idea. And therefore SEX became the goal. As opposed to relationships.

[VIVANT]

I don’t think there’s ever individual shifts I mean there are of course but selling sex is mass marketing not individual It’s not the issue of sex focus it’s that there is no Biden else it’d be like convincing people the only real food is protein powder you tbd up malnourished and stressed

[Jamie05rhs]

@VIVANT "Biden"? (I'm sure that isn't the word you were trying to say. Lol)

[Jamie05rhs]

@vivant

[SecretsofKB]

Seriously, that's a tough one for me. Both are important to me and could impact the relationship.

I would have to go with B though. I think affection is a bit more important to me. Great sex is great, but it loses its luster without affection.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

B with no hesitation. Sex is not super important to me. And i can't have sex with someone that is incapable of being affectionate. My cooter doesn't work that way lol.

[VIVANT]

😂 I hear you sis

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

😂😂

[VIVANT]

Lol 💕

[Julie_TS]

Wow, very tough... although I think when it comes right down to it, for me it would need to be affection but indifferent to sex.

[VIVANT]

Yeah I think I can’t imagine having sex with someone who bit for the sex just wouldn’t care if we ever touched. I understand there are a lot of ways to appreciate someone but I think I need to feel it in a certain way and someone being indifferent to affection, I’d never feel close enough to this person to get to the point of being in a relationship.

[menina]

I would choose affection over sex. To me sex is not the most important thing in a relationship and a relationship based only on sex is not for me.

[OlderAndWiser]

If indifference to sex means she is willing to have sex but won't particularly enjoy it, I would prefer that to having a sex maniac who doesn't want physical affection. I spend far more time holding hands than holding each other's genitals.

[RobT312]

Sex is just a physical act between 2 people it can be as impersonal as a transaction.
affection is what you need to make it great so I’d go with affection

[VIVANT]

Same. I think without affection it goes from boring to creepy quick.

[RobT312]

👍👍

[BeenThereLovedIt]

I've been with the loves affection but indifferent to sex... no thanks ever again, i'll take the emotionless sex goddess tyvm

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Loves affection but is indifferent to sex.

[humanearth]

Loves sex but is indifferent to affection.

What can I say, I like the booty and the booty is good

[VIVANT]

Lol thanks for answering 🤔

[BallSlapLover]

I think I’ll prefer affection more.
Whenever i imagine things, it is always erotic or intimate things like cuddling or dry humping my partner or hot shower without sex, just holding each other, kissing their face, holding them etc. I never think about sex nor see prn’s sexual act to get off. So i guess I’ll go with affection and indifferent to sex :)

[BallSlapLover]

Is foreplay included in “affection” or in “sex”? 🙈😂 Totally forgot about that but yeah i love foreplay lol

[worldscolide]

My wife views them as one in the same. Or rather she does not separate the two.

[VIVANT]

That’s lucky it’d be cool if we all felt that way innately that way there wouldn’t be such a discrepancy between getting certain needs met. I think some kind of flaw in design 😂

[worldscolide]

Or it could be a result of past trauma or upbringing.

[VIVANT]

Hmm yes but if trauma didint churn out detachment it’d be bonus 😊

[worldscolide]

Agreed!!

[VIVANT]

😊😊😊

[Aakash_Hangargi]

I have to experience both in order to be really have an opinion and understanding and chances of that are 0.

[VIVANT]

Fair response. 👍🏼

[DiegoO]

That's Not a tough question. In both cases the relationship would fail. I would rather keep single.

The second option I've lived. It was online, for 3 years, so is not a relation I see as nothing, but it definitely wasn't healthy.

[Samantha_17]

I would prefer someone who loves sex and intimacy :)

[VIVANT]

That is ideal of course 😌

[KostasKouvalis]

The second one. I'm really horny, but sex without affection does nothing for me

[VIVANT]

Right? It’s awkward af like do I even need to be there 😂

[KostasKouvalis]

Oh I see what you're saying. Like he could just do it with anyone, or touch himself?

[VIVANT]

Sure if there’s indifference why not 🤷🏻‍♀️ 😊

[TonyMetal___86]

Can't choose between both cause both are related to each other but if i had to choose one, i'll choose love and affection because love is everything to me and with love comes sex 😁

I'm 100% sure that i'll never choose sex over love and will never have sex without love and marriage!

[Philyouup]

i need both. i can get by with sex for a while , but at the end of the day, i need her affection.

[AimeeKyle]

Probably an even split of A & B…..

[HelenJacob]

I would have both at the same time. Have fun with one, make love with the other

[Juxtapose]

Choice number two because an affectionate person will be more willing to do the thing they're indifferent towards just to make you happy.

[VIVANT]

Fair point 👍🏼

[Jerre]

I voted A. I love to fuck.

[Jerre]

@vivant Thank you for the Like; assume you do as well

[EaterPeter]

Neither

[VIVANT]

Yeah neither is good that’s why it’s not an easy question lol 😊

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[VIVANT]

Sure Peter!