Why sex work is to be respected, but not loaning money for a profit?

Question

This comes from a discussion I've had with a certain someone. This person used to work as a prostitute, while a couple of years ago I used to learn money at an interest.

We both left our old professions behind, but a big contention between us is that she considers her former work as respectable, while my own was "iffy". I don't agree - I was no loan shark, I never hurt anybody and most people walked out happy from our deals.

I don't agree with the double standard here - if sex work is to be respected, then even lending money to folks who needed it should, both in a social way, and in a political way.

mattclark242 · Accepted Answer

I don't do not like sex for money most people that do that are bad and have been hurt or just want easy money. if you spend time with someone for money it ok. Both people are being used. I had sex with someone for money till I stop and lie to her. she use me for money and I use for sex. But I want her to be my girlfriend but that not what she is. I could told her I did not like doing it. I could stop be for I lie to her then we still be friends. She need money for her kids I don't know why she dose it or why she dose not get a normal job or help from the dads of the kids or money from the government. I regret it. If the government made it ok they have make sure they are not on drugs and are not sex slaves or robing people., that they are ddf and do not have lice. they have to be fair in how much per HR and they have to pay tax. I see it as wrong and she gave me lice or crabs. I almost had a son with her. I don't know how to help anymore as she dose not seem to want it. The only thing I can do is give her more money or forget about her. I do not want her to sell her body just her time. I wish some would help her. Sex work get respected BC they are seen as poor girl in a bad life trying to get out some time they get it and sometime they do not., Sometime they are seen as peple just trying to live life off there look and they like sugar baby , gold digger , and ring girls , cam girl and cat fishing. loaning money for a profit is respected as long as the person not a shark and the person get the money is not leaching off them for it. they are both seen as people that want easy money and do not want to work hard but sex work do work sometime and sometime the people that take loads do not they just want money but sometime they do. Some time the sex work just take the money and run. I be more happy if this happen to me it be better than sleeping with her. IF any one can help the girl I was with or help me on here that be nice. I just want her get a job and sleep with people cause she want to. I want her get help for the money for her kids and get out of a bad life befor someone hurt her or something I don't know. The cop do not do anything.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

In the US, there are many laws which regulate lending institutions, and there are limits in the interest rates which can be charged. As long as you have complied with those laws and have not made misrepresentations or concealed facts from borrowers, then you were engaged in a legitimate profession.

SOME people think that prostitution should be a respected profession because that attitude is an extension of a progressive/liberal belief that veryone should be able to do whatever they want without suffering any consequences of their behavior. According to the progressives/liberals, EVERYTHING should be respected (except conservatives or anyone else who disagrees with them.)

For most of us, our disapproval of prostitution is an emotional response. In MY life, sex is an expression of love between a man and a woman in an exclusive relationship. Prostitution lowers sex to a mere recreational activity that means nothing more than physical pleasure and our society would be stringer if prostitution did not exist, but I also know that the "world's oldest 'profession'" is not going to disappear.

Smoke-n-Growls · Accepted Answer

Sex work provides tangible benefit and is a service exchanged for money. Pay money, have a good time, leave happy.

Financial instruments like loans don't add anything of concrete value. They're only there to exploit the borrower's temporary lack of funds. And often have near-criminal interest rates.

JessJJ · Accepted Answer

Both are honest and legitimate lines of work. As long as you were offering fair and up front terms with no surprises.

dynamicyandere · Answer

Both professions can be conducted ethically or unethically. Both professions can involve exploitation. As long as no deception is involved and business is conducted with open and honest integrity. Both can be respectable.

I suppose one other factor is the sense of “selling out”. If a sex worker is only in it for the money and their work is not an authentic fulfilling avenue of self-expression, then it’s undignified. However, if they boldly embrace their work and have a genuine passion for it, more power to them.

It’s just an ugly thing when someone is selling their soul for greed, regardless of their profession.

AmandaYVR · Answer

I don't respect either industry.

Adam1978 · Answer

Neither is worth respect. Taking a loan can any fool do, and lowering yourself to sell sex isn't a merit either. Respect comes from doing things that are hard and requires character. So getting through life without taking a loan is more respectable. Wouldn't say going through life without selling sex is much of a merit since that is normal.

slatyb · Answer

That's just her opinion. Most people think the opposite. I think both are fine.

jshm2 · Answer

You both are like thieves arguing over who is more "honest". It's no wonder you cannot see eye to eye or compromise.

WhitneySnow · Answer

I respect both. Sex workers are cool. So are bankers.

Miristheiss · Answer

I sure as hell don't respect sex work. That disgusts me. I consider anyone who's ever done that permanently rotten.  Those that "buy" it too.

Dargil · Answer

Saying sex work pulled the trigger

jamesgoldman · Answer

I've lent more both to close people for no charge and clients as brokered deals for a fixed rate (they need cash but don't want to sell their jewellery so a brokered deal is better because I'll charge 10% and the pros charge 150% a year)

AsaKyo · Answer

Sex work is disgusting

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Neither industry is respected in reality.

rabbitzzz · Answer

Because you are a small fish. If want respect you need capability to print your own money too before you loan them.

MisogynisticPig · Answer

I don't respect sex work.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I agree with you. It depends on what kind of loans you did. But even if they were predatory loans, that isn't worse than prostitution. One is preying on people's need for money. Another is preying on their sexual addiction. ... And who knows? Maybe some loan customers actually used the money to pay a sex worker.

OddBeMe · Answer

Good Q. Never understood this. Besides puritan christians on sex…and well puritan christians on Jews.

Guardian45 · Answer

BOTH are business transactions for services provided, and should be legal and regulated and taxed.

Cheerfull009 · Answer

Money earned by prostitution can be given as grant or loan to a needy person, is not bad, Prostitutes are respected as human being, though their profession, some people don't like