I just don't understand how a female can have such lack of proper respect for her body. Sex is viewed as recreational activity these days! It's ridiculous. I just don't get it, someone please understand. It's also really frustrating when girls like this try to get girls like me who do not want to give my body to any guy unless he really cares about me and has given me the title, to whore around with them. Why do they do that? Girls, if you're like this please explain why. Guys, what do you honestly think of girls like this? It seems like you like them because hey, they'll give you all the orgasms you want but at the end of the day I've heard a lot of guys are not cool with that. I dated a really hot guy who was really bothered by the fact that his girlfriend had slept with five other guys.
Why are so many girls such whores these days going around and spreading their legs for tons of guys?

I just don't understand how a female can have such lack of proper respect for her body. Sex is viewed as recreational activity these days! It's ridiculous. I just don't get it, someone please understand. It's also really frustrating when girls like this try to get girls like me who do not want to give my body to any guy unless he really cares about me and has given me the title, to whore around with them. Why do they do that? Girls, if you're like this please explain why. Guys, what do you honestly think of girls like this? It seems like you like them because hey, they'll give you all the orgasms you want but at the end of the day I've heard a lot of guys are not cool with that. I dated a really hot guy who was really bothered by the fact that his girlfriend had slept with five other guys.
- 2. Fighting for social equality cont
Okay, so I'm sure you've noticed all the dudes complaining about " gender roles -" as in the guys always having to
Approach
Pay for dates
Be chivalrous etc -
Well, guys feel it is unequal and unfair that only men are expected to do those things - so that societal norm is in flux.
What that means is now women are being actively encouraged to approach men, pay half way or totally pay for a date or two, be as sweetly gestured as men etc -
Likewise, women are complaining about gender roles such as:
Women have to be innocent / pure - are not allowed to be as aggressive sexually as men, or demonstrate a need for sex.
Women have to be submissive to men.
Women have to be the primary care givers for family etc - not able to pursue a career as guys do.
These ideas are in flux as well. Which means, women are being more sexually free, more dominant / head strong in fields of life, and pursuing careers and goals to the fullest - taking advantage of the rights that we use to not have a little while ago ultimately.
What I don't understand is why dudes are screaming for equality for the genders, but then turn around and complain about the idea when women try to get our equality as well?
It's like, men can throw away their societal created gender roles and be fine - but once women try to support and follow through the SAME idea - it's suddenly a huge problem for society.
But that's to be expected - the world is still pretty much male dominated (for now,) so naturally that power and authority would create a favor of rights / advantages for the males :\
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So yea, what your describing has a lot more to do with the rapid changing going on in society - our generation just happens to be the one born right in the middle of such a flux, and supporting them.
Women and sex have always been something society has desperately wanted to control - because face it, no one wants to recognize that a woman who knows her sex and how to use it, is beautiful, has a lot of damn power, and is pretty threatening for the dominative male complex.
We we're beaten for just looking at other guys, beaten by our husbands, spat on, stoned to death, raped, forced into submission, sexually imprisoned -
That's really the life people want for us women? Slaves to our sexuality because men don't agree?
But I thought guys wanted equality? Is not having women be as liberated as guys not equality?
And that lock analogy is a poor representation - sure a lock that can be opened by several is bad - but a key should only be reserved for a few locks to unlock.
That analogy is pretty much saying women aren't as valuable - and men are the master keys that have a right to open every treasure they desire.Is this still revelant?LOL - it's okay :P
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Agreed! :D It's important to be brutally honest and shed light on every little detail if you want progress. So I know I may come off as a self righteous, judgmental a**hole who thinks I'm special because I have some more skin in my vagina but that is not the case at all. I'm a sincerely frustrated girl I am not one of those virgins who truly believes I am the holy grail of women just for being a virgin lmao I hope no one gets that twisted :/
Oh I definitely don't think you are one of those self righteous virgins - your just bothered by the f***ed up sexual reality of modern day society - I'm the same. I don't understand why society has changed in such a way either.
The amount of sex thats had today is ridiculous especially amongst teens which is where I'm truly bothered rewind 50 years that shit would get you beat girls possibly disowned
- This situation usually has nothing to do with having no self respect - actually most the girls who do it are rather confident / arrogant.
Like look at the women on reality shows like bad girls club or jersey shore if you watch them - if not I'll give you the low down.
These women are very beautiful, sexy attractive etc - they can pull any guy they want really. Often they go out and have casual sex with men, just for the sake of sex. Is it slutty? Only because their girls.
The guys of course can go out and have sex with as many girls as they want, and are praised for it.
So for you stressing the point about girls who go out and have casual sex and calling them sluts, your feeding into that double standard and supporting the idea that women aren't allowed to have free sexual choice as men are. Why not?
There's a fine line between being a slut, and having an active / healthy sex life.
Often most people fail to see the difference.
A slut obviously goes around and has sex with several different men, at different times or the same time - doesn't care who the guy is, just wants the sex.
A sexually healthy / active female usually sticks with a boyfriend if she has one, may do a FWB with a very close guy friend (maybe, and only with 1 guy,) or maybe have casual sex with a fling she met on a night out. But that aspect is more rare.
Sexually active / healthy women still have their emotions about them most the time, and would rather have some type of connection with the guy other than sexual. Sluts just want sex, or money / sex, whatever their trying to impulsively gain.
The main thing your describing here however - actually has nothing to do with sluts or sexually healthy women - actually, women and how we express our sexuality is a smaller expression of how society is changing.
We've hit an age where two things are happening; 1 - women are becoming more dominative, and 2 - both genders are fighting for this idea of social equality.
1. Women becoming more dominative.
Over the history of this country, I'd say modern day is the time in which women have the most rights and freedoms than ever. Women have become profoundly more independent, head strong, and ambitious, compared to our submissive ancestors. Naturally, with this new liberated, strong, independent mindset, women are going to do, what the f*** they want to do - regardless of who doesn't agree. Pussy rules the world, so men can complain and other women can complain, but your breath is honestly wasted, as men will continue to date these women regardless.
2. Both genders fighting for they idea of social equality.
Cont in next answer :P ran out of roomIs this still revelant?- Asker+1 y
Woah, I'm loving the long answer! lol Well first off, girls like that are usually not confident. Girls can argue that sex is just purely enjoyable and that's why they want it all the time, but I've never met a promiscuous girl who didn't have issues. Be it daddy issues, self esteem issues, whatever...ISSUES! lol Even when it comes to girls I know, they are beautiful yet surprisingly insecure and I find that tends to be why they go out and have sex. They're either trying to prove to themselves
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Don't make assumptions about me. In nowhere during my post did I support the idea that men should be players. Personally, I think men and women with those actions are both whores. Here's the thing; men are players because women allow men to be players. Women allow men to use them. If women would stop letting men use them as sex objects, then there would be a shortage of players. Yes, there would always be insecure men trying to feed their fragile confidence by stringing women along, but from
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"In nowhere during my post did I support the idea that men should be players."
"A key that can open many locks is a master key but a lock that can be opened by many keys is just a sh*tty lock."Yes usually the girls who are sluts have the insecurity problem - but often people label sexual active / healthy women as sluts, and think that mindset applies when it doesn't. Majority of women aren't severely insecure to a point where they are going out and having random sex to feel the void. Most women are sexually healthy, and confident about that.
When two people have sex, they're both using each other, if it's consensual of course. To say the guy is the main user - is being biased.@ Sefishstars - I was about to point out the same thing lol :P
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I thought you were loving my long answer? Now I'm talking too much? " I don't support players" yet you post the lock analogy? Can you pick a side please lol :P
Anyway - I had to write a lot because this idea you asked about stems a lot deeper than you and many people realize. There's way more to it than a few insecure girls. So I took the time to explain.
Sorry if it's too much for you to digest :\Anyway, I think it would help if you could understand the difference between a slut, and this idea of modern day women. Traditional ideas such as virginity and marriage before sex, and the traditional roles of male in society - are quickly being thrown away for this new idea of equality.
So I agree - society does not value sex very much anymore. It values equality above all things so it seems - but the reality of equality is a lot more impacting than people realize - hence all the issuesAgree most with this last comment. I don't think it has much to do with 'insecure girls'. Rather, I'd say the driving change is actually that women want _less_ of men beyond that they be fun and sexy, which is why having a FWB (who may have multiple FWB) is a plus. Women have _always_ been able to 'trade up' to a more desirable partner by dropping the need for commitment. Many more women are now opting to do so.
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selfishstars, lmao! :D Ok, I guess that is how that comess of because I didn't explain. For many people, that may be what that implies. But to me, a guy being a key who can open many locks means he possesses the skill of charm and understanding - two things that are very valuable and can get you very far in this world. He would also be very attractive which is something many girls desire. The lock, in my eyes, is not metaphoric to p****. The lock represents giving up and the key is symbolic of..
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having a great, deep skill and understanding to get many people to give up. That is power. Funny how they call it a 'master key', right? :) I guess I should have explained that lol Plus for men, it's harder to get laid. It's easy for a girl to get laid because guys just want sex, they'll even settle for FWB with a girl they're not attracted to just to get it. I don't support or condone the idea, but THAT'S why so many men give other men praise because they view them as accomplishing something
@ Knethosrospe (lol I tried :P)
Yea I've noticed that too - this whole lack of commitment thing is getting pretty bad - no one wants to be tied down, or are scared to be tied down. Naturally, both sides want to date, so I mean, a girl would have to throw away the need for attachment just because that's becoming such a norm for people in society unfortunately.
I feel like the world in a few generations is going to be screwed up because of that - legit relationships will be very rare@QA
So men represent value / understanding / and charm? And so they are gifted with being able to have a right to any lock / treasure they want?
Wtf?
And women are the locks that " give up" to a man's power as a key? WTF? LOL
That analogy was created in a sexual manner - no matter how you try to rephrase it - it's original creation was for sexual correlation.
Either way you present it here, the idea behind it is very biased and f***ed up. It ultimately places women below men in both contex- Asker+1 y
Sweetness, that's exactly my fuel for asking this! I feel like girls who act like that are a huge part of the cycle that is decreasing the potential of relationships and it's not fair. I guess I'm just more harsh on the girls because I expect guys to be pigs, but girls could make or break the change
Men have a right to women - but women have no right to men - and if we do push for that right - we are bad locks, whores, sluts, c****, etc. WTF? That's a terrible way to perceive the genders and how we should interact.
Neither gender is so valuable in that it surpasses the other in anyway - I don't care how charming or understanding - those qualities are severely individualistic anyway. Not all men are charming / understanding and have value as a key so.
Your perspective is crazy girl lol :P- Asker+1 y
...and I'm the one who can't digest information, sweetness? ...really? lol, no the MASTER KEY represents those things, NOT MEN. DUH! Whores or even just girls who fall for players are the ones the master.key is has the ability to get to give in. The original purpose of the analogy was sexual, but that doesn't mean the analogy can't be viewed in any other way possible because of that lol
Lol oh okay -
True, women have a ton of influence over the structure of society and men - and we can ultimately manipulate society into what we want it to be - which we ultimately will - and then men will really be having some problems : O
Anyway - the thing is, since the world is male dominated, women are trained to follow the rules of men, sub consciously by reinforced male created ideas in society. Tis why women haven't completely taken advantage yet -
Think about it like this:Women have the p**** - we have that power over men. Women are the mothers / and bearers of the kids - we ultimately teach and raise them ( dads help of course, but with the lack of responsible fathers eh...) Women who are beautiful have immense power in or superficial society. Every confident woman knows how easy it is to out with and manipulate a guy - there's not much too it.
Women have a very powerful influence - and upon that idea starting to be seriously realized -- Asker+1 y
Read slowly this time :P lol This is my personal view on the analogy outside of it's obvious sexual implication. I'm not saying that MEN as a whole are the master key. Up until this era of women, it took a special type of man to get many women to give into him sexually. It takes a rare, special type of ability to get many women to fall for you. (the ability to get many girls to put out doesn't count anymore because for most of the girls now days, it doesn't take much).
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ok, nvm you seem to understand what I was saying. there is a double standard, but it comes from the fact that for men, it used to be so much harder to get a woman in to bed where as for most women it is not. I don't agree with this double standard. I think it's disgusting and those guys are whores too. I'm just explaining. That's where the "he's the man" thing comes from
Is why your seeing more sexually liberated women, is why women are becoming more ambitious, is why women are dominating in education, is why men feel like women have several advantages in this life - because we honestly do - simply because we're women.
Give or take a few more generations, and we may have a woman for president, and a lot more female CEO's and hard scientist -
The men maintain their power because women simply haven taken it yet :\
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You wrote "Girls run the world" for Beyonce, didn't you? :) :P lol Honestly, all of that sounds great. But it's not being reflected in the actions of women. Idealistically, it sounds wonderful, but realistically, I doubt a majority of women will come to that understanding. Pussy is not permanant power. Pussy will only get you power for only so long. Pussy is powerful, but a fragile power. Many women think that it will make them powerful, but there are more effective ways to manipulate a man.
Wait wait wait lol - so in your take on it - the key isn't men - but you just said, the key makes whorish girls give in to them? aka - the keys a man lol :P
Anyway - yea I get the ' he's the man complex." guys who get a lot of women are seen as being better by male society. A lot of guys try to say that women want men with more exp - but I think the vast majority of girls don't care severely about exp. Other things are more important.- Asker+1 y
The thing about p****? He can get it elsewhere easily. There are many more p****** on this planet that he can find. (I'm sure someone is rofltfao at our convo right now) You have to have more than a p**** to use if you really want power over a man. Like I said, all of that sounds great in theory, but realistically, I look around and see a lot of girls who are nowhere near glory like that
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So men represent value / understanding / and charm? And so they are gifted with being able to have a right to any lock / treasure they want? Wtf? <---- that is not my take lol basically. the key is not MEN as in just any human who has a penis, but a rare type of man who has knowledge that gets him farther than most men. The lock includes whores, but it's also just average women who beleive they finally found Prince Charming, but it's just false advertising...or incomplete advertising
The reason there is a double standard is because it's harder for men to get women then it is for women to get men. It's not an "achievement" per say for women to get partners like it is men. Men to pick up women actually have to have game. Women...basically just spread their legs and can get it from anywhere lmfao.
So the standard is a result of men being unable to get women? That's make sense. It is harder so I guess that makes sense
- I have self-respect, I simply have a different point of view about sex than you do.
I see sex as a natural thing. It's enjoyable, not dirty or shameful, and I don't see it as necessary to limit sexual activity only to long-term, committed relationships.
I don't "accept" a friends with benefits title---if I'm in a friends with benefits relationship, it's because that's the type of relationship I *want*. Is it insulting to him if I don't introduce him to my mother? No, it's the type of relationship that both him and I are CHOOSING for ourselves. How is that insulting?
And for the record, I've never had a friend with benefits who treated me as nothing more than a sex object. They treat me as a friend---and also we have sex with each other.
I don't see having sex with a person as that person "using" me. To me, sex is a SHARED experience that I've decided to engage in.
I have self-control as well, but since I view sex differently than you, I don't feel the need to prevent myself from having sex with a person that I want to have sex with.
"I'm sorry but that just seems like a vagina would be dirty and smelly after that."
This may come as a surprise to you, but the vast majority of people shower.
"A key that can open many locks is a master key but a lock that can be opened by many keys is just a sh*tty lock."
This is a stupid metaphor, but it's especially disgusting coming from a woman. This metaphor condemns women for being sexually promiscuous while simultaneously praising men for the same thing. Why do you so readily accept that double standard?
Obviously there are a lot of differences between you and I, but I think the most important difference to point out is that you judge other women harshly because they have a different point of view than you, whereas I completely respect a woman if she chooses to reserve sex only for someone she loves, or for marriage, or whatever else she chooses. I believe that a person has the right to their own body, and so long as they aren't hurting anyone, who am I to judge? What other people do in their sexual lives doesn't affect me.
I'm not a slut, I'm a person---and a pretty nice one at that. And since you're so interested in other people's sex lives, I'll let you know that I engage in safe sex and treat all my partners with respect and dignity and won't settle for any less from them.
I find it very sad that people feel the need to shame, insult, and stigmatize others like you have in this post.
Is this still revelant?And as others have said, I don't feel proud, nor ashamed. I don't have sex because I don't respect myself nor for attention, I have sex simply because I enjoy it and I want to.
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"Sluts" don't turn "good guys" into "players. If a guy has casual sex or friends with benefits relationships, it means that he doesn't share your point of view about sex. If he believed that sex should only be limited to long-term, committed relationships, he would only have sex with someone he was in a long-term, committed relationship with. If the only reason a guy doesn't have casual sex is because he can't find a willing girl, that doesn't mean he's (by your definition) a"good guy". Wouldn't you want a guy who actually shares your views on sex, rather than a one who hasn't had casual sex simply because he hasn't found a willing partner?
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And please stop referring to yourself as a "good" person, implying that those of us who do not share your point of view are bad.
Obviously she doesn't want a guy who 'simply hasn't found a willing partner' - those guys are still out there, she can have one of them.
When I was single, FWB was not _nearly_ as common as now. To be honest, I never really considered having casual sex only. I wanted love, I wanted sexual activity, ergo I wanted a girlfriend. I assume guys like me are considering their options a little more nowadays. I don't know whether that's good or bad but it is different."Obviously she doesn't want a guy who 'simply hasn't found a willing partner' - those guys are still out there, she can have one of them."
I meant that as more of a hypothetical situation---i.e. if there were less girls willing to have casual sex/FWBs, it would mean that it would be harder for a guy who is okay with casual sex to find a partner, but a lack of available partners doesn't mean that his views on casual sex are any different.You may have meant it hypothetically, but that situation exists in many places, and has existed in most places at most times. If casual sex is rarely available, most guys simply don't look for it much, look for a cute girlfriend, and are happy if they get one.
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Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me :) As I mentioned before, I really do appreciate the longer answers. If you look at my posts on Sweetness' answer, I explained the way I view that metaphor. I don't condone the double standard, but I think women look silly when most guys are seriously using them and wouldn't request their company for anything else if they weren't putting out (which is how most FWB situations are). My honest intention was not to shame, insult, and stigmatize...
"My honest intention was not to shame, insult, and stigmatize..."
Sorry, but I don't buy that for a second. Using terms like "slut", "whore" and disgusting, saying that their vaginas would be "dirty and smelly after that". This post was filled with negative judgement, stigmatization, and insults. Venting or not, your intentions are quite clear in my opinion, and if by some small chance you truly didn't mean what you said, posts like this only serve to add to the oppression that women face inregards to their sexuality.
My feelings aren't hurt---I simply think that this is a disgusting, judgmental point of view to have and it saddens me that people have such a hard time recognizing that not everyone shares your views, and allowing others to live their own lives.- Asker+1 y
You don't have to be a whore and sleep around with a ton of guys to not be sexually opressed. Maybe it was negative and kinda mean, but that's sincerely how I feel. I feel that it is nasty to be letting a bunch of men come inside of your vagina and you're having a bunch of penises in your mouth. that's just disgusting.
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"A guys view on a friends with benefits unless he is actually involved in it himself, won't think very highly of the female, because she is basically pimping herself out for free, and although she may think its a possibility to get a committed relationship out of him, this could not be further from the truth, because a guy would not have a relationship with a girl who has participated in a friends with benefits agreement, so as an all rounder, if the girl does not show she has self respect, she
I haven't suggested that women need to sleep around to not be sexually oppressed. It has to do with a woman's right to express her sexuality in the way that she wants to---her right to make the choice for herself. Insulting, stigmatizing, and demonizing women who decide to exercise their freedom of choice (just because it isn't the choice that you yourself would make) undermines that freedom.
"I feel that it is nasty to be letting a bunch of men come inside of your vagina and you're having a bunch of penises in your mouth. that's just disgusting."
Okay. But why does it matter to you? How does it affect you? I think picking your nose is disgusting---but as long as people do it in private, it doesn't effect me, so I don't care if they do it. It's not like you're watching other women have sex, nor are you going near their vaginas."a guy's perspective on FWB"
You're right---*A* guy's perspective. Yes, there are other guys that share this perspective, but there are guys who have a completely different perspective. Why would I care what one guy says about it? If a guy has a problem with the fact that I've had friends with benefits relationships in the past, he isn't the kind of a guy I want to be with. It either means that a) he has a different view on sex than me; b) he's insecure, c) he thinks that a woman's sexual pastdefines her value (rather than who she is as a person); or d) he's a hypocrite or holds double standards for women (in the cases where a guy does these things, but has a problem with women doing the same things). Any of these things would make him a guy that I'm not interested in.
I'm in a wonderful, long-term relationship with a guy who holds very similar views on sex as I do and doesn't have a problem with my sexual history.Well, I've only had two guys come inside my vagina before, both of whom I had been in 5 year-long relationships with. But regardless, there's this thing called a shower and come and spit wash away, leaving no trace behind. Amazing.
No offense walk up to any guy and ask for sex he'll probably say yes if I tried to do that i'de probably get charged for sexual harassment. girls who think like you... I dont know how to not be rude I can't you're a slut... you think those guys are your friends while they pound your pussy and blow a load all over your teeth huh? and you can shower but those stretch marks ain't going away.
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"No offense walk up to any guy and ask for sex he'll probably say yes if I tried to do that i'de probably get charged for sexual harassment. "
Asking someone for sex isn't considered sexual harassment under the law, so no, you wouldn't get charged for sexual harassment (unless it was like, at your job, in which case, it's pretty inappropriate to randomly approach your coworkers for sex).
I don't know anything about you and you don't know anything about me, but even if we assume what you're saying is true, what's your point? It's okay to have sex if it's hard for you to have sex, but it's not okay to have sex if it's easy for you to have sex? If sex comes easily to a person, they're a shit person if they partake in it?
" girls who think like you... I dont know how to not be rude I can't you're a slut."
It's actually quite easy---I mean, it's not like anyone was forcing you to call me a slut.@Faulty
"you think those guys are your friends while they pound your pussy and blow a load all over your teeth huh?"
Are things like respecting a person, caring about them, enjoying spending time with them, etc. mutually exclusive with having sex with that person?
"and you can shower but those stretch marks ain't going away."
What stretch marks are you referring to?
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- Basically, its grown out of a few trends
1) shortage of men in certain environments which really destabilizes the dating 'world '. Specifically, inner city areas where a significant portion of young men are in jail, university campuses, especially liberal arts schools where there is a serious female-male ratio difference, and even in some urban areas. Big urban areas actually have more women then men, and those women tend to be pursuing a subset of men with 'good' jobs. Anytime more women are pursuing fewer men, monogamy starts fading. If you have 8 women and 6 men, the two least desirable women don't sit home being sad, they sleep with other girl's boyfriend. And that girl then figures if she's just sleeping with some guy, she might as well sleep with the 'best' guy. And the more that continues, the more the most sought after guys start being totally uninterested in relationships, which reinforces the whole thing.
2) female empowerment. Women used to look to men as providers, etc. A lot of guys with weak social skills who may not have been good looking could still have a decent job and be a decent husband by old definitions. As women are more able to take care of themselves, they view men as an enjoyable add on. Fewer men are that much fun, and its likely that many women now would rather have sex and fun with a super fun exciting guy (who is also sleeping with three other women) then have a stable relationship with a boring guy. She doesn't need the stability, so she doesn't _really_ need monogamy. Most guys can only financially support one woman, but if all a woman wants is sex and fun, she can 'share' a guy.
The long term impact if girls do this during their peak years of attractiveness, then decide they want to flip to monogamy is unclear. The most sought for guys are loathe to embrace monogamy, and when they do, many seem to prefer to pick a girl who has not slept around - and they can do so. Meanwhile, there's a pool of guys who were ignored who are not that excited about settling down with a girl who's had her fun when he's just ready to START having fun - and quite often now has a better income, and in fact can more easily get women then when she was ignoring him.Is this still revelant? - Your a rare breed, I only wish more girls had your vision and mentality, because your right, girls are being used, left right and centre, but they don't believe it, and they think its cool to only have a friend if she sleeps with him, otherwise the bloke wouldn't want to know her, so by a girl doing this, not only is she showing other men how easy she is, but the reputation she gets, is going to stick with her as she gets older, and guys will remember, that she had yoyo knickers and a buttery crotch and dirty oven. Not something a girl wants when she is 25 plus, because that's when she will be seriously thinking of settling down, but what will she have to offer? nothing, she would of shagged all her talents away, so any nice guy worthy, won't want to touch her with their mates penis, let alone his own, so I admire your vision, a lot of girls have a lot to do to come close to being close to your mental attitude, you have talent, and that won't go unnoticed, good luck,xIs this still revelant?
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that's what I've been trying to say! I am around a sh*t load of guys ALL THE DAMN TIME! More guys than any girl should ever be around! As if I don't already have enough male cousins, but they seem to think they're my damn brothers and like to be in my house A LOT and bring their male friends then before you know it, there's a sh*t load of guys surrounding me D: including all of my male friends too. I know so many guys who express the things you just said. It's like girls wanna get so
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offended hearing it from another girl who's a virgin, but it's not just something I'm saying; I've heard it from so many men! Many women are adopting this view of more or less going out and screwing who you want when you want as much as you want, but the reality is that a lot of guys share your opinion. Buttery crotch? Yoyo knickers?...I'm such a virgin :) lmao by the way, thank you for the lovely compliments :)
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So, if a guy and a girl willingly participate in FWB, mutually agreeing that it is no strings attached, how do his friends view her? Or even if there's a guy that her FWB knows that she may be interested in or he may have been interested in her,does his perception of her change once he finds out she's had a FWB?
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A guys view on a friends with benefits unless he is actually involved in it himself, won't think very highly of the female, because she is basically pimping herself out for free, and although she may think its a possibility to get a committed relationship out of him, this could not be further from the truth, because a guy would not have a relationship with a girl who has participated in a friends with benefits agreement, so as an all rounder, if the girl does not show she has self respect, she won't get respect, and your welcome,x
Thank god this post was created 4 years ago, things have changed. Feminism is gone and women's right are controlled by the government instead of a construct. I've seen men holding hands with their woman as relationships are starting to "glow".
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1219- Anonymous+1 yThe woman asking the question has found the answer, in my opinion, in her question: 'How can girls show such disrespect for their own bodies?' Exactly correct. When I was growing up, there were two kinds of girls--guy friends would tell you--the girls you want to f*ck and the girls you want to marry. It's all about self-respect.
Women ought to know three very important things about guys, which will be true forever: One, guys don't respect girls that sleep around and brag about it--no matter what he says or how he acts, and no matter how attractive the girl is; Two, guys only truly fall in love once or twice in their lifetimes, and mostly not at all because they may never run into a woman who has all the things he is looking for--if he is truly in love, he seems like a new man; Three, sex does not affect men very much emotionally--unless, as I say, he is actually in love.
Girls who waste their 20s spreading their legs because feminism says that females should be sexual 'any time and any place' are passing up the real men who would make good husbands and instead 'dating' bad boys or sugar daddies who will never commit to a relationship because they can just move to the next younger, prettier girl when the one he is currently f*cking is used up--sad, but true.
Many poor, hardworking 'losers' in their 20s will become alpha males and bad boys in their 30s with the power of a job and resources. And who will they 'date' if they did the hard work to know themselves and life? Certainly not the less attractive, angry, and demanding women who are in their 30s (tick-tok). No, it will be the more attractive 20-something girls who will 'sexually express' themselves for nothing more than a nice evening out--money for honey.
No amount of sitting around the living room drinking Chardonnay, being angry at men, and lying to each other about how 'being slutty is our right', 'looks shouldn't matter' and 'men should be our slaves to make up for past oppression' will change the above facts. When these women get to 35 and up, they are miserable and unattractive drunks--no matter how much 'power' they have at the 'office'. I have seen this many, many times...
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- Anonymous+1 yAs a guy I think you are right on the money how the plethora of sluts has a major impact on our psych.
Why would we work hard for someone with self respect, if all we got to do is stay in shape and wear nice cloths and the masses will put out just because of sexual attraction?
When you get older you want a girl with self respect, but as a young man we dont want to commit for like 6-10 more years and like I said the girls are just GIVING IT AWAY!!!
So yes you are absolutely right, this adulterous and perverse generation is making you "pick up the scraps". Back in the day it was totally uncool to be a slut which means the "good girls" got to pick from the cream of the crop.
Now its cool to be a slut so that means bad girls get to pick from the cream of the crop and good girls get scraps.
Some feminists will call me sexist, claiming why is it okay for men to be whores but not women? You also hit the nail on the head with that one, a key that opens many locks is a master key, a lock that is opened by many keys is a shitty lock.
Men and women are different as much as feminists would hate to admit. Women are supposed to be the gatekeepers of sex, and the man is supposed to be the suitor. Men are supposed to have to bend over backwards and be a complete gentlemen. Like I said today all you have to do is stay in shape and wear nice cloths to get into womens pants. This generation is completely adulterous.
Men are not to blame for this. Women are the ones who are giving it away for almost nothing but mutual sexual attraction, men are just taking the bait.
They do wear it as a badge of honor and call you sexist if you call them out.
If you notice mainstream TV, music and movies all promote having sex with someone based off of nothing but sexual attraction. What came first the chicken or the egg? I think having this media shoved down our throats from day 1 has corrupted our generations. And I think its been socially engineered that way. Break down the family structure and the people will be more dependent on expanding the government. Expanding the government means more power to the 1%ReactLike
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- You're just asking for trouble.
But yeah, I've had some casual sex in my time. It has nothing to do with not having self respect. I don't use my sexuality to try and gain respect, or judge a person's quality by what sex they've had.
When I have sex it's because I enjoy it and because I want it. And the person I'm having sex with feels the same way.
I don't wear my sexual history as a badge of honour, nor do I feel ashamed of it.
Yes, I've heard plenty of guys on here saying they wouldn't look twice at someone with a sexual past like mine (which to be honest isn't bad at all) but I've never met a guy like that in real life. Maybe it's a cultural thing, but guys here seem to be okay with the fact that girls have a life before them, just like they did.ReactLike
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My completely distant and vague impression is that there's more sort of 'even' level of hooking up going on in the UK. The U.S. is a little more '80% of the women sleeping with 20% of the guys'. That's an exaggeration, but there's some truth in that. Its one thing to say 'he's okay with the fact you had a life before them, just like he did', another for some 'nice guy' near virgin to happily settle down to a quiet life with a girl with a wild past - assuming she even wants too.
I totaly agree there.
Having sex has nothing to do with disrespect, even if it doesn't include this whole love thing like the church preached.
Its just healthy having fun =P- Asker+1 y
Asking from trouble? Not intentionally. Telling the truth whether people want to hear it or not? Definitely. Guys, believe it or not, are not all that stupid :P Of course if a guy thinks you're cool or wants to get in your pants, he's not going to blurt out loud "Damn, you've let that many guys come inside of you!? :O You've had that much **** in your mouth!?" but guys have told me personally that's something they don't like. For some guys, it doesn't take away points, but if the girl had...
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cherished her body and was more selective in who she shared it with, that's something they would have greatly respected and appreciated considering most girls these days don't do that. There's a difference between having a life before you met someone and displaying behavior before you met someone that makes bold statements about who you are that may be unattractive
Yes, they may be unattractive to some people - but my point is that they're not to everyone.
But clearly we're never going to agree seen as you regard 'whores' or people who don't necessarily have emotional sex - as not good people.
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"A guys view on a friends with benefits unless he is actually involved in it himself, won't think very highly of the female, because she is basically pimping herself out for free, and although she may think its a possibility to get a committed relationship out of him, this could not be further from the truth, because a guy would not have a relationship with a girl who has participated in a friends with benefits agreement, so as an all rounder, if the girl does not show she has self respect, she
Not all girls enter a friends with benefit deal with the hopes of getting something more out of it.
And again - having sex with someone you don't love doesn't mean you don't have self respect; it doesn't to me anyway.
- I think a better question is why are girls so judgmental and hard on one another? Who are you to judge someone else for their life choices. Mind your own business, and don't try and thrust your traditionalist ideals upon others.
So long as a girl (or guy) is being safe and doing it for their enjoyment - go for it. I don't care anyway. If it doesn't affect me, it's not my problem nor business. I agree with Heatherlu, I've had casual sex and it's not for attention, validation or a "badge of honour". It's because I enjoy it and am comfortable with the people I choose to do it with. I'm not proud, nor embarrassed. I'm neutral. I don't see it as having no respect for my body, I'm just indulging it.ReactLike
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There's an economics answer to that one (why are girls judgemental).
Girls who have casual sex lower the cartel price on sex (which was formerly 'you must be in a relationship' and before that 'you must be married')@update. Get off your high horse. How can you call yourself a "good girl"? Just because you don't have sex? *sigh*
@kheserthorpe: I don't liken a women's sexual history to that of trading goods and services. People are free to do what they like. Other people should learn to a) be tolerant; or b) keep their prejudices to themselves.
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So then isn't the issue that men aren't respecting women? Not that women are having sexual relationships?
If its not clear, I'm not saying I agree that they have a _right_ to be judgemental. But that's likely the rational, which QA then said - she's actually _not_ free to just 'live how she wants', because the kind of guys who might have been ready to marry her 50 years ago are now having too much fun chasing multiple FWB. I'm sure you might say (and you might be right) that 'trapping' them in marriage just because they want a partner is wrong, but the fact is, it happened.
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Don't ASSume that I'm a good girl simply just because I don't have sex. I'm a good girl because I know how to take care of someone's heart and create intimacy on many different levels. I'm a good girl because I'm a good person who is not only sacraficing something regardless of my own desires, but who has an abundance of love, support, understanding and so much more to offer a man. I just think sex can take away from someone being a good person because if you're immature, sex can make you...
Having sex doesn't make you any less of a person. It's sad to see a woman be so devoid of understanding and promote inequalities. You're saying that your being a good person isn't dependent upon your lack of sex - well I say the same. The fact that I have sex doesn't make me a bad person. I treat people with respect when deserved, I maintain my dignity and I'm not unnecessarily malicious (like you are in your post).
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I think sex is a tricky thing. Sex doesn't automatically make you any less of a person, but it can make you much less of a certain type of mate. Sex is something that people can kinda get addicted to it in a way. If they go too long without it, they feel they need it. Sex is a tool. The desire for sex can make people cheat, can turn people into players. That's what I mean when I say it can make you selfish and not selfless and caring towards protecting someone's feelings, keeping their soul in
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I also wanted to address your question "Why are girls so judgmental and hard on one another?" That's such a deep question and it honestly depends on which particular judgdment you're referring to. In this case, I feel a certain type of girl is effecting the fish in the see left for me to go get and it's annoying and frustrating.
I think it's totally dependent upon the person's personality. I don't have sex just because - I do it because I want to, and not in a way that hurts anyone. It's in a mutual relationship where both of us know what it is. If I were to meet someone I really liked, I have no trouble with monogamy. I understand & accept that some guys are uncomfortable with a woman with a sexual history, & that's fine - I'll stay away from them. I just think it's sad to see a women who embraces double standards.
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Try to view things from my perspective. I am a damn good human being who just so happens to be a virgin. I have so many wonderful, blissful things to offer to a man in a serious relationship. Yet because of girls like you, (and whores lol), most guys out there feel that sex is something they NEED in order to have a serious relationship. I feel that I'm constantly getting a guy who HAD awesome potential but is now just damaged goods because of a whore or a bitch OR I ultimately get outshined by
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girls like you simply because you're willing to lay down and spread your legs or suck some cock. When I know for a fact that a lot of those girls don't even provide a certain type of relationship (well not every single one of course lol, but speaking from aquaintences and friends I've observed). Yet simply because girls like you are oh so willing to put out, it makes it harder for girls like me who aren't. And yes, the guy is responsible for his own decisions to have sex, I just feel like the...
@tohrment she actually sounds like she's insane. 'YOU WHORES ARE CREATING A CYCLE WHICH IS WHY I CANT FIND A REASONABLE DATE!' hahaha maybe its just you, and those 'scraps' you speak of, are just the men who are more on your level;)
So you're saying "whores like me" (let's face it, that's what you WANT to say) are the reason you can't get a guy, because we want to be able to enjoy sex with our partners? Listen to yourself. Men are entitled to want to have sex. Women are as well. If you don't want to, that's absolutely fine - but do NOT blame it on sexually active people. Sex is apart of relationships, & it's natural to want it. I don't "spread my legs or suck some cock" for anyone who passes me on the street. Calm your farm
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lmao, no tohrment, that is not what I'm saying here. I didn't call you a whore. I think you're just offended by my post so everything that comes out of your mouth here is defensive which is really getting old and just plain annoying. I can get a guy but it's a certain type of guy that is so hard to find because of some of the things I've mentioned in this topic. they've effected the type of guy he is
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"A guys view on a friends with benefits unless he is actually involved in it himself, won't think very highly of the female, because she is basically pimping herself out for free, and although she may think its a possibility to get a committed relationship out of him, this could not be further from the truth, because a guy would not have a relationship with a girl who has participated in a friends with benefits agreement, so as an all rounder, if the girl does not show she has self respect, she
Of course I'm offended. I'm offended on behalf of the majority of women. Names like "slut", "whore" and your ridiculous lock metaphor are the things that perpetuate double standardism and disrespect towards women, NOT the women who embrace their sexuality. It's YOUR attitude that creates a problem, not mine or those like mine. As for that statement by a guy, what's the bet he's never had a FWB in his life? Why do you think he uses a third person? I've had FWB, and the guys have treated me with...
...nothing but respect. It was a mutual thing. And it hasn't affected any other aspect of my life. I like a a great guy now, and he doesn't care about my sexual history. In fact, no guy I've been with asks for my resume and sex list. Out of curiosity, what TYPE of guy are you trying to attract and failing to do so? Look at the male answers, seek the ones that have the attitude that agree with you, and find out what they're like. Then you know where to look.
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you're kinda an idiot. of course a guy isn't going to blantatly say to your face "wow you've had a lot of come up in you. ewww" because a lot of guys have accepted that most girls are like that and they don't want to hurt or offend them if they have an interest in them. I have been around a ton of males my entire life and I know for a fact that for most guys, a girl who's been screwing a bunch of guys is not something they like or would be proud of.
No, I definitely know guys to talk badly about women. But it depends on how the woman handles herself. You know, you can have FWB relationships and whatnot and maintain your self respect. The guys I've been with have been people I legitimately care about, and they me - they respect me as I do them. Don't call me an idiot, or treat me as some naive child - you are looking at all of this through a window, completely uninvolved, inexperienced, and a third party. You are talking out of your ass. Bye
Of course you can have an opinion. I'm just saying your opinion is unfounded and invalid.
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hey, I'm sorry for judging your vagina as if it's my business what goes on inside of there anyway. You like FWB? okay, good for you and your vagina. has nothing to do with me and I shouldn't be acting like I'm in some position to tell you what to do with your body. The way I've proposed my opinions is offensive. I'm really sorry
Nah, it's okay. I understand that it's a touchy subject. But you're right, everyone is entitled to to what they like provided they aren't hurting anyone. But you should know that there are so many great guys out there that don't judge a woman by her sexual history but rather her character - THOSE are the guys you should go after. Not the ones who just want to get laid.
Precisely. Whilst I do think some women give others a 'bad reputation' and all that, I think that people who BELIEVE those reputations apply to everyone are being silly. If a guy is disrespecting a woman, it's his fault and up to her as to whether she allows it. But if it's a mutual, consenting relationship - I don't see the problem. Anywho, enjoy!
- Well I lost the will to even search for romance, there's a fundamental problem in that the 'eye candy' guys (who generally are not in the slightest bit intelligent as a rule in the UK) will have four girls on the go at a time. Meanwhile, the shy and retiring types (like me) just get ignored, because we don't let our libido loose once we hit adolescence, nor for that matter do we frequent these parties where these whores have their knickers up and down more times than a lift/elevator. Also they'd think that seeing as we're not beautiful in flesh, we're not beautiful in the mind or the heart.
Generally speaking you'll mostly get the opinions of guys like myself, who bemoan the decline in any semblance of decency in preference to contracting chlamydia.
Even some of my female friends ask, "Have you lost your virginity yet?" My response is decidedly polite, "No, what made you think of that if you don't mind me asking?" Response, "It's been eight years today since I lost mine." Me: "Oh that's erm, nice, then." I'm not even twenty yet and these girls who are months younger than I am are just so comfortable in spouting this crap to someone they barely know!
If it's any consolation, I've not been on a date because these girls are just too interested in getting laid by someone who only wants the one night stand. Me? I'm not too interested in having a burning wizz the morning after, thanks awfully. I'm looking for someone who is similarly of the shy and retiring nature, that way I feel more like I could trust someone, and I wouldn't do anything until I was sure I could trust and love someone and equally that they could trust and love me.
I must say I quite liked your rant about this, it definitely is something only someone with brains and bravery would type. I echo stubbsy when I say that you have talent and an admirable mental attitude.
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- Anonymous+1 yI think that promiscuous people really have ruined romance. Yes guys can be promiscuous too but I'm more disappointed in the girls who are. Why? Women release the hormone Oxytocin whenever they have intercourse, which is the same hormone that's released during breastfeeding to bond the mother to her baby. It's disgusting to think that there are girls out there that would want to share such a deep and intimate bonding experience with a random guy or a fwb. I don't understand how any woman can think that's okay (unless they never want to settle down at some point). A lot of women are claiming it's a double standard if guys can sleep around and not be as harshly judged as girls who sleep around, but males and females don't have the same physiology. So if there is indeed a double standard present, it is one that's created by nature.
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- I hate that people always assume if a girl isn't having sex with a guy she's serious with, "she's being used" whenever she has sex with someone. Some of us like having casual sex because as enjoy it, and as long as we use protection and know what were getting into there is nothing wrong with that! I love friends with benefits and I don't feel like I'm being "used" because I wouldn't want the guy to meet my parents or anything! Sex CAN be recreation and that's the reality for some, girls who like the sleep with more than one guy don't "ruin" romance, if a guy is truly "pure" and only sleeps with people he loves no "slut" is going to change thatReact
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Wow, I've slept with 2 people. And you're an uptight bitch have fun being wife material when you're like that! I want a guy who will love me even if I'm not a virgin, and I'm not planning on f***ing 20 guys or anything. When I find the right person, I'll be faithful to them and devote myself to them, because I don't care about petty things like numbers, whereas you will have a hard time finding someone to live up to your tight ass perfect standards
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Bitch please, you don't know me either so obviously you have no right to call me sleazy. And you are a tight ass, it's obvious because you think any girl who isn't oh so idealistic like yourself and only has sex for love is a whore, when in reality, sex can be whatever you make it, who are you to say those who do are sluts?
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lol, awww, wounded much? :) You can call me a b*tch all you want but it is meaningless coming from someone with such a meaningless, nonexistant place in my life :) Stop telling me what I think because in reality, you don't know how I think!
Your actions sound sleazy. That's what I think. Accept it. Get over it. Move on with your life and stop making a fool of yourself with this petty, high school like behavior trying so hard to fight with a girl who doesn't give two sh*ts about you If you care so little, and your life is so important, why are you still commenting? I didn't comment trying to change your mind, I did it to point out that your narrow-minded view of sex isn't necessariy the right one, every one has the freedom to do what they want I'm going to be one of those "sluts you hate who steals all the good men and turns them into players" when in reality I'm not a slut, I'm just someone doing what I want to do!
Yup its so hard to ignore them! I mean its not like you can't just read it and then ignore my comment... but you care too much not to respond. I just enjoy pissing you off because you're dumb, so I hope you enjoy all these lovely notifications! XD
link ? And I don't really care you are just my excuse to put off doing my homework and it's not like you loom any more mature or grown up than I do... Look at your first comment, you automatically attack me for my opinion just because it's different than yours. I am actually a lot more mature than you, I respect others' opinions and if you want to be a virgin go ahead but it doesn't make you better than me
Someone's getting pissed... I'm not that upset about it, I'm just pointing out you are very immature! And that you seem disrespectful of others in general, and by this I'm referring to how you respond to other people's opinions in their comments and how you rant about how "sluts" are taking all the "good men" away from you and changing them. It's just funny to see how upset you get over something you can't control, poor you having to deal with all those "robberies" and the "scraps" left over
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lol, I'm really not getting pissed. And didn't you practically just repeat that entire paragraph? Look, if you want to go whore around and get your vagina loose and stretched before you've even reached adulthood, by all means; GO AHEAD! I really don't care :) I'm getting tired of all your lame b*tching and whining, trying to start sh*t. Get a life!
I have now posted a lot on this thread... And honestly sex shouldn't be recreational it is and always was ment to be a romantic thing shared between someone you love not some god damn friends with benefits bull shit that term is disgusting filthy makes me sick anyone I mean anyone because I am very close minded on this subject ANYONE who has friends with benefits guy or girl I typically shun consider them a whore slut skank idc man hoe girls nowadays are so easy and stupid... thinking guys are your friends while realistically they just wanna beat your pussy.
- Anonymous+1 yReally really love this question asker. Am 19 and fucked 3 bitches. I say that because they weren't real women.. I was just being a drunk high school boy and I'll tell u what I could have had more.. actually had to weed out the "less advanced" whores tht wasn't as dick hungray as the rest because I've always been repulsed by this attitude of it being OK to suck off a guy n fuck Em at the end of a party.. Every weekend.. a lot of these same girls go on to college and party every other night. I had a bitch a really really liked... fucked like 19 guys.. ya.. Junior year. Telling u guys even the most popular girls and seemingly good ones are dick craving loony bins talking about empowerment n shit but get upset when u say there crazy but will go fuck somebody the night you breakup. It's ridiculous. I stopped fuckin wit them completely. Haven't had sec in like 2 years. I am truly discusted at the current state of affairs. Who wants some fat bitch with a short haircut every time you say men and women alike should have decentcy and morals yelling in ur fuckin face talking about equality. What is equality? U have the same rights as me. Not more. Not less. If I think ur a fuckin wacko bitch nut job promoting the misdirection of women into self destructive behavior calling it empowerment I have that right. Fine let them open there legs every hour like they need a cigarette. and ruin thare chances down the road! Fine with me. HOWEVER. This type of behavior is so permissive and mainstream that there are seemingly no decent women left. This asker might be th only one left in the usaReact
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- I just think all girls are different and they have different beliefs and morals. A girl that has had over 70 partners like one girl on here that posted a question is pretty sick. I don't think that these girls don't have respect for themselves though but just want to have fun and enjoy their life. The truth is that most guys don't have respect for girls that do that but they do it themselves so f*** them. If a guy wants to mess around and have fun then he should be with someone like himself. There are guys that have their fun and then marry a virgin which is wrong. Promiscuous girls do make it very easy for guys to cheat and I don't respect home wrecker's. I'm not into fwb's and take sex very seriously but I don't judge girls that do it as long as they don't mess with guys that are taken. I also think that your question should be addressed to both guys and girls. Everybody should have a certain amount of respect for themselves regardless of their sex.React
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I completely agree with Amillia! Both guys and girls have that responsibility and its fair enough when its likeminded people fooling around with each other. I respect the act of sex and feel its something done between 2 that love each other. Not just when. A guy wants to use a girl, cos A LOT of guys think like that! All my friends sleep around even thought they have wives/ GF's. And in a lot of those instances, the girl helping the guy cheat, knows full well that he is taken!
- Anonymous+1 yI am a girl like you, I mean I can't have sex without being truly in love with a guy so I just had one sex partner...
I do think its insane how girls can suck so many guys, much more than intercourse actually ...
HOWEVER it's not fair only guys be slutty and sleep around, girls can do it to if they feel like it...
In my opinion people whether a guy or a girl should be more involved to have sex...
but you can't judge the girls and not the guys...its not fair I admire somehow this girls that make guys as objects...
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- Hmm, I don't think its necessarily a lack of self respect, I actually think a ot of women noawdays are just more open and willing to admit that they also want casual sex without necessarily having commitment sometimes...and I don;t think there's anything wrong with that as long ad they're responsible and safe about it...and don't tell eveytne about it!React
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- Well I can see your point , ofc it goes that way for guys too .
But its people that decide what they want and what not .
And I don't really think that we actually can change this world , after all it was a rotten piece of sh*t before we were even born .
And after all we still are the animals we was from the beginning or worst , so the more adaptive will survive .. That's how it goes and probably how it always was on the background .
So hating among each other does not really change a thing .
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- My whole opinion on the sexual reliance of todays teens well im disgusted to the point of where I hate current society hell if I could nuke this shit I would, start the NWO for all I care and the ladies who think its okay omg... I pity you I truly do you're practically a symbol of sexual indoctrination you think your making your own decisions while realistically your getting played harder than a noobie at a blackjack table... You think the guy cares about you... Oh hell I have a bunch of stupid player friends who rip on you whores right after they fuck yah close your legs so you can have meaningful sex for years instead of pointless pleasure until you're viewed as a whore by every decent living man.React
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- Anonymous+1 yNot all FWB are like hooker clients who just walk through the door for five minutes and then just leave. I've FWB's myself, though because I'm bisexual the guys know they're not going to elevate to boyfriend or husband status with me. Though there are guys who are okay with that, it does complicate things which I don't want to go through with at this time. And the trouble with bf's is that they sometimes start to take you for granted, for all lack of competition, and just "screw you" because they don't have to do more than that. So you start to feel used like with the FWB status you mention earlier in your topic, where guys just have sex with you.
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Even though I'm harsh when I'm trying to get my point across doesn't mean I lack compassion :( I'm really sorry you've felt used. I have insight into FWB because of my close male friends and male cousins! I've seen how my female friends view FWB and may think it's just casual sex then heard my male friends and male cousins talk about those girls like dogs to their friends or make the worse facial expressions when someone asks if that's their girlfriend. I've seen what it's like when a girl...
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that he actually has an interest in pursuing something serious with comes along and guys usually feel they have no use for their FWB. You truly believe they can go back to being buddies after messing around? No. FWB is asking for a messy situation. I've seen it happen dozens of times. The whole boyfriend thing, you just have to find a guy you have a certain level of chemistry with. He'll appreciate you so much that he won't act like that. to be honest...
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It's sounds like you've being used by FWB. Why does it have to be that way? Why can you use the guy and have fun yourself? Or just share it up? Trouble with bf's is that they suspect they're the only ones going to be with you and so eventually start to fade away. It's great at first but that doesn't last forever.
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one of the reasons I kind of hang onto my virginity is because I never want to feel like I'm being used for sex. And in all honesty, that can inncoently happen then become selfish. Like if a guy or girl really liked you at first, but as things progressed, they realized your personalities weren't all that compatible but they loved the sex so they strung you along (that's where it becomes selfish and f***ed up). but yeah...with my virginity, I always know the guy is in it for me and not my sex
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oh, no no no! lol I have never had a FWB and I would never do that because I'd be afraid I'd get attached and I really just don't want to share my body with any man I don't love who doesn't love me and a guy who would give up on me. The thing about FWB is someone will always selfishly proclaim "I'm single. I can do what I want." and date someone else or hook up with someone else then it will all fall apart. I don't know maybe it's just me, I don't like feeling like a side entre, I wanna be the main dish!
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- What is the difference between the male and female perspective of friends with benefits?
You said a friends with benefits for a guy means, "I'll screw you because you're an easy piece of ass but take you home to meet my mother? Introduce you to people who are important to me? Take my time and money to get to know you then give you the title of being my girl? "
Guess what? It goes both ways. The girl is saying the exact same thing to the man. He's hot, he's a good screw, but he is not husband material.
Women are not the innocent, reserved and naive people you make them out to be. I have girl friends who feel their mission is to fuck as many guys as possible before they get married. Just like guys add notches to their bedpost, so too do girls.ReactLike
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- Anonymous+1 yI think the problem is women that sleep around with a lot of guys and that is seperate from women that have fwb. Sleeping with many people is wrong in my opinion. It is not safe and it is just pointless. Having friends with benefits is healthy though. It is the situation where you guys both like each other just not passionately enough to want a serious thing out of it. Maybe she has a great booty and awesome boobs but not my preference in face, maybe I am built like she wants a man to be in the sack but not exactly her type when it comes to other factors. So we can still have physical attraction and have fun. I have had several friend with benefits and it is a simply good sex and not much else.React
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interesting perspective. yet you don't think that's insulting and maybe even a little degrading (not totally though because you didn't say it to her). "You have great t*ts and a nice ass, but you're not all that pretty and I can't see myself seriously being with you so lets just f*** from time to time." Maybe it's just me...but that's like saying she's a sex object and she's only valuable because of what she'll do for you sexually and because of her t*ts or ass. it's disgusting.
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Hey I am a realist. I like sex and I know women like sex. I also know that because of our media the most desirable traits are usually a certain face and certain look. I have a very diffrent look from the people around me cause I am not from the UK. I feel I am very biased over the typical white guys. That being said latinos have the lover thing going for them and I guess I would rather fill that gap than be bitter and single all the time. We are all sex objects nowadays.
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oh no no no, don't get me wrong. I'm not trying to scold you. I appreciate you being real about how you feel. I'm just saying, genuine thoughts like yours support the idea why I think FWB is insulting in a way. No matter what anyone says about FWB, at the end of the day, a guy has decided that he'd rather have you as a piece of ass than a girlfriend. Maybe it's just me, but that would be hurtful. I wouldn't be okay with that. I'd feel dirty and I'd want a brand new vagina after doing that!
- Lol I understand what you mean by "ruin the good guys"
My boyfriend had all his prev gfs give him everything
without asking f it
When he got to me it was like a complete shock to him :/ReactLike
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- Anonymous+1 yRant rant rant! I didn't even bother to read this! It's the same sh*t every time!
If you are ugly - go under the knife!
But don't tell you WOULDN'T love to look like one of those "leg-spreading sluts"ReactLike
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lol so I can see a streched p**** that may have warts on them? no thanks :P Just because I feel this way doesn't automatically mean I'm ugly. I get plenty of male attention lol too bad you'll never know ;) For you to claim that only an ugly girl would feel this way just shows that you're small minded and stupid lol
- Totally agree. It's mind boggling how many whores there are. It's sad that most girls degrade themselves to that level, I know plenty of girls that are 16, 17, 18 years old that have banged 20 or more different guys, have had sex close to 100 times, and see nothing wrong with it. that's why I've never had a girlfriend, most girls are only care about how "hot" you are, and if you have a big penis. I want nothing to do with girls like that, and it's harder than ever to find a "good" girl nowadays, and it really is sad.React
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- "Why do they do that?" - Insecurity and a lack of a belief in a better purpose in life.
"...what do you honestly think of girls like this?" - I feel bad for them and do my best not to get involved (although once or twice in the past, I've fallen victim to lust and my own weaknesses).
"It seems like you like them because hey, they'll give you all the orgasms you want but at the end of the day I've heard a lot of guys are not cool with that." - I'm very cool with it when I'm on the winning end of it, but I never respect it and would never get serious with a girl who uses her body and sexuality as a bargaining chip.ReactLike
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