Why does my friends with benefits do this?

[Frunkiss]

I have been friends with benefits with this girl for a couple of years now. She originally wanted a relationship but I explained that I don't. She said that she only has sex when she is in a serious relationship which is fine with me. We have been going down on each other probably once every two weeks. We talk about all of our life problems but we don't date. Recently she has been having sex with guys in her life pretty casually but she still refuses to have sex with me but I still get weekly bjs. She is always talking about how she fights with other guys and then has sex with them. She seems to be comfortable with me and I always treat her well but she won't have sex with me; which I want to switch to because her bjs are boring. When I ask her why she gives a dumb excuse like "women have to be careful who they sleep with or they get labeled a slut" (but you are sleeping with other guys you've known for a week so?) Also she is friends with my sister which might play into it. Is she trying to get me into a relationship with her in exchange for sex? That seems like it but I don't want that since she is not my relationship type. Her job sucks and she has no ambition. Plus if she thinks she can control me by withholding sex I am a little repulsed by that idea.

[Tamikaze]

She is doing this because she wants to be your girlfriend and you are not having it.

Not many girls can really and truly have detached sex. Most end up catching feelings or thinking sex will cause you to catch feelings.

So, she is withholding intercourse because you are withholding a relationship. That is what she thinks. Accept that. She has feelings for you and is trying every trick in the book to get your attention. She is very misguided but that is what is happening.

You should end this. You are not getting much pleasure from the arrangement and she is wearing on your nerves. What's the point in continuing? I am not a fan of casual sex and this would be a case study on why. Good luck.

[girl3377]

What do you want? seems to me that you don't want anything with her as far as a relationship why not ignore her and let her be with the other guys! un less you care about her but if you don't why not find someone you care for instead of being friend with benefits with her you know ...answer my question PLEASE

[Frunkiss]

I just want sex from her. The other guys won't be in a relationship with her either or eventually cheat on her but she still has sex with them. My issue is, why not me then? I'm looking for someone to care for but the search has been slow, although recently I've found a couple prospects. She breaks it off with me when she finds someone but the relationships don't last long. With her I just want a proper FWB relationship until we both find something else.

[hvannoy96]

The only explanation is these four words:

Crazy. Ass. Delusional. Skank.

[imjustbrittxo]

It seems like she doesn't want to have sex with you because she knows she'll get attached more than she already is, simple as that. and what's the point of still being friends with benefits with her if you know she wants more than that? it'll never work out the way either of you want it too, because she has feelings involved and you don't.

[_ukii]

Poor girl... I mean your FWB.

Your force her no where to go being a slut to f*** everywhere to make herself feel better. Actually, if you do NOT like her, please do NOT take advantage from her but saying that's kind of " friends with benefits".

The rule for FWB is this relationship would finish once one part fall into another. But obviously, from the very beginning, you know she likes you. So your relationship is nothing about FWB, you just want someone to fulfil your sex life.