What's with straight girls and lesbian tendencies?

[Coolguy708]

i was hanging out with friends today and we were all talking about this because one of the girls says at times that another girl is hot or that she would kiss a girl for the fun of it but not date one or have sex with another women and I said I don't get that if you are straight then you are attracted to men so why would you kiss another girl for fun and she is a barsexual I have other friends who are barsexuals to they go to bars and kiss each other just to get guys attention its like OK if you are willing to kiss a girl just to get guys attention then you might as well sleep with her or date her and she was saying no no I'm straight and I told her I don't get why straight girls always say there straight if they kiss other girls for fun or watch lesbian p*rn or call another girl sexy or hot like saying stuff like that you are bi curious that's what I said to her and she kept saying noo I like men I have a boyfriend and I love having sex with him so I said then why were you willing to have a threesome with him and another girl and she said because he wanted that but be honest any straight girl only wants to have sex with a man so can someone pleas explain why some not all but some straight girls have lesbian tendencies if they call themselves straight ?

[LaLa19Inu7]

..And what do you mean "act like lesbians"...how does hugging and holding hands equal lesbians? wtf? lol. Just because we girls are not as quiet and uptight as you men...does not make us automatically lesbians. And also...I have heard that guys have more tendencies in having sex with guys on the side (more so) than girls do..lol...you guys who act so tough and macho...but like being with guys in the dark. us girls can do little innocent stuff and it's cool...but you so called 'straight men' have to go all the way. Which is fine...to each his/her own. But seriously...I have heard way too many stories about "straight guys" giving or getting blowjobs from other guys and claiming it's all good..and they are still super straight. Girls don't give casual "eating outs" to other girls like guys "give blowjobs" to other guys it seems. Probs because girls are just generally more open with emotions and stuff I suppose...so they don't feel as compelled to mess around with other girls. See...the labels...make everything so stupid. People should be able to do what they want...as long as they don't cheat, be dumb and not use protection and then carry diseases (guys -gay or doing stuff on the side with men- carry these more than women -lesbian or doing stuff on the side- btw) and pass them on, or bully others to cover up what they do on the side or abuse others...then I say...do what you want. Humans in general love being touched...if it feels good...then they want to do stuff. It isn't a crime.

[Coolguy708]

ok I don't kno any guys who do those things or hear any of those stories and one time when I was hanging out with the guys with my girlfriend and she mention this guy was hot at this party and she said to my friend wouldn't you want to kiss him and every guy there said yuck I'm gonna puke and stuff and she was laughing so yeah I doubt that any straight guy would give another dude blowjob and if they have then there not straight as far as I'm concerned and ill admit hugging doesn't make a women a lesbia

[Coolguy708]

but kissing for the fun of it well I guess it still doesn't but I'm not saying it is a problem I'm just asking why they do it if there straight yes it is hot seeing to hot girls kissing but on the other hand its like why lol if they like men and men only

[LaLa19Inu7]

..well of course not many guys would admit to being curious about guys or doing stuff on the side with other guys in public..lol..especially not in front of girls...but that doesn't mean they might not be in to it...you don't know that...you don't see all of them 24-7. ;P just because they say it's gross...doesn't mean they are being honest. that's why I said "on the side" as in no one knows...like haven't you heard of glory holes and such and such?

[LaLa19Inu7]

...Girls can like men and men only...and also like girls. So what's your point? You sleep with a guy, you marry a guy, you have babies with a guy...but you won't do any of this with a girl. You see? Bisexual or bi-curious isn't it two? two equal halves? lol...it kind of implies you do the same stuff with both genders...but in this case..it's not the same..you'll have sex with a guy but not with a girl = straight. ;P get it? it is not rocket science dude.

[LaLa19Inu7]

Let me make it clearer...person that only does things with one gender and one gender only and never does anything or thinks anything about their same gender = straight. Person who only does things with one gender and that gender only...but is still curious and sometimes does some innocent stuff here and there with their same gender for attention...or Do you see what I am getting at? See why dumb labels suck...because they make things so black and white...and life just isn't like that.

[LaLa19Inu7]

...same gender for attention..or is curious about same gender but never does anything about curious thoughts = straight...

[Coolguy708]

yeah I get what your saying now

[LaLa19Inu7]

Yeah.

[Usemyname]

I fo sho like dudes, but some girls really catch my attention. All of my friends are guys so I've kind of grown into the habit of checking girls out with them. When I do I'm not thinking, "Oh damn, that's nice, I want a piece of that," or anything. I'm usually thinking,"That girl has some perky boobs, I wish mine looked like that," or "that girl has some nice hamstrings, good for her." I don't look at them in a way where I want them, I look at them in a way where I want to be more like them. Don't get me wrong, some chicks are freaken HAWT but I don't want to sleep with them. The farthest I would ever go with a girl is second base because I have an appreciation for boobs. I like them. I would be perfectly okay if guys grew them like girls. But I don't like vag. I think it's icky. I don't even like mine, so I don't want to be around another girls'. If I did anything with a girl it would be out of curiosity. I guess that makes me a little bi curious but that's okay. Curiosity is human nature. But curiosity won't make me want to go full on Lez. It's just not my thing. A lot of girls act lesbianish for attention, and I can understand that. But it doesn't mean anything to them. They do it for the guys, not for the girl. Other girls just want to dip their toes in either just to do it, or to see if they like the temperature of the water. Hope that explains it a little better.

[Coolguy708]

what you just said now is exactly what I mean lol yes its OK if girl says oh she has a nice top I wish I had that top or I wish I had boobs like her or yeah she's really pretty yess that stuff yeah its OK to say stuff like that I just mean when they go on bad like look at her shakin that ass I want her to grind me or I wanna play with her t*ts when staight girls say stuff like that it makes me wonderin why lol if you guys are straight

[Coolguy708]

i have a lesbian friend who even said all girls are not 100% straight and I didn't believe her at first I just said yea right but from observing some of my straight friends and other girls I see at parties I'm starting to think its true but she also said just because there not 100% straight it doesn't make them a lesbian or bi either and I kno that I just always wannted to kno why they do it

[Usemyname]

Ha, yeah that probably wouldn't cross my mind. I will admit to seeing a girl (who was a lesbian) and considering switching teams, but just for her. She was the hottest girl I have ever seen. Not the way she looked, but the way she acted (which was pretty masculine). But that was only once and other than that one girl, chicks don't really do much for me. In comparison to guys, they lose out every time.

[Usemyname]

Your friend is most likely right, I don't know any girls without some sort of lesbian tendancies. But I think that's natural, I mean girls are hot. Sometimes you can't help but notice.

[Coolguy708]

so when you say this are you giving an example or did this actually happen for you and not everything I believe girls should be treated equal with guys like my sister wannted to join the hockey team but they wouldn't let her just because she was a girl if girls want to play hockey then they should have female hockey team or basketball football anything but anyway so your saying you would date a girl if shewas masculine

[Coolguy708]

i know lol I love women my first year of high school I asked this gay guy I said how can you be gay man like how can you not like t*ts and p**** like how can you not like the beauty of girls face and girls ass and he was being honest he said its just not my thing and I said I don't get it man and he said you wouldn't bro your straight lol you could never understand and I just I see

[udolipixie]

Whats with straight girls and lesbian tendencies?

Studies show that gals have a more fluid sexuality than guys.

Explain why some not all but some straight girls have lesbian tendencies if they call themselves straight?

Perhaps because they don't see it as lesbian tendencies:

- some may say a gal is hot as they have ability to evalutae physical attractiveness as they don't correlate seeing a person as attractive as being attracted to them

- watching lesbian p*rn may be due to how it seems gals in lesbian p*rn actually enjoy themselves rather than gals in heterosexual p*rn who seem to be essentially a blow up doll for guys to get off in

- some don't consider themselves gay if they kiss the same gender as to them it's like kissing an object or animal simply a sign of affection not of attraction

Why do straight girls sometimes even act like lesbians there always holding hands and hugging and sitting on each others lap and saying I love you all the time I mean it snot a problem of course just doesn't make sense if there straight?

Gals are often physically close and emtionally expressive to their friends unlike guys as it used to be gals could hug and kiss each other without being labeled homosexual.

[LaLa19Inu7]

...Um..because girls are hot..lol. But they don't get me all crazy and blushy and wild like guys can...haha. And obviously having sex with a girl is very different than with a guy = reason why girls won't sleep with girls maybe. So you are telling me you have NEVER been attracted to any guys or thought a particular guy was really hot or whatever? Oh and also...girls are more open with our feelings it seems than guys are...so hugs and stuff are not as big of a deal. Whatever...I'm straight..and guys are f***ing awesome and sweet in ways girls could never be...but girls are f***ing hot and they smell nice and they have great hair and I understand them more and they don't have overbearing egos like guys do. Boobs are awesome...I don't care who or what you are...they are so awesome. I'm not ashamed about my curiosity with women as well as with men. Why do we have to label everything? Straight doesn't mean I can't find a girl pretty..sheesh. Why can't we just like what we like without being judged..like by people like you. And also I'm sure you think it's hot when two girls kiss or whatever...so what's your deal?

[Coolguy708]

nope never I won't even hug a guy friend I only give girls hug and guys I give a hand shake and no don't get me wrong its OK of course if a girl says another girl is pretty but when they go on bad like she's sexy she ha sa nice ass or t*ts it makes us guys think umm is she bi or somthin but saying oh she's pretty or what ever is cool but when they go on bad it just makes us guys wonder and well it is kind of hot to see two hot girls kiss I just think to myself why would they do that if there stiraght

[Coolguy708]

like weather I'm drunk or sober or even if I wannted to get girls attention ther eis nooo what in hell I'm kissing another dude

[LaLa19Inu7]

..Well...I wouldn't do that for attention. I'm talking more about hormones, attraction, and realizing that there is no doubt = girls are hot...and girls and guys can agree with this. haha. "i kissed a girl" - katy perry comes to mind. ;P I would never kiss a girl unless I wanted to pursue her in a relationship..which I probs never will...but am I curious?..sure...will I do something like make out with a girl in curiosity mode..nope. So I'm kind of like you..but I am not labeling everybody.

[Coolguy708]

yeah you get what I mean and I don't mean to label people its not my choice to decide who is considered straight and who isn't or who shouldn't be sorry if I made it sound like that I'm just curious why like I said not one of my guy friends would kiss each other to get a girls attention or walk and hold hands or sit on each others lap or even say I love you I only say I love to guys if they are a brother or cousin or family but to my friends who are girls I say I love you all the time

[LaLa19Inu7]

...well like I said..guys are not as open and honest with their emotions..and they face more scrutiny about being gay or acting gay in public...more so than girls...girls can hug and cry in each others' arms..and no one will take a second look...but for guys...people would be more skeptical. I'm sure if society made it okay for guys to be all touchy feely and stuff...more guys would be more open with their feelings and urges without fear of being labeled or seen as gay.

[kdizzleforizzle91]

It's not that we have a lesbian tendency. It's just more socially acceptable for women to experiment with other women or compliment another good-looking woman. Also, as far as lesbian p0rn goes, it has more of what some girls like to see that doesn't occur often in straight p0rn, such as cunnilingus or more boob/nipple play.

Guys can't really do any of that without getting some sort of "gay" label, unless they don't care and are comfortable enough with themselves and their sexual orientation to be willing to do such things. I give those guys a high five.

[Coolguy708]

so you give the type guys a high five fwho are more open with other guys

[kdizzleforizzle91]

I think it's kinda hot personally, but what I actually meant was that if a guy is simply curious about same-sex experimentation, I wouldn't judge him for trying.

[Coolguy708]

yeah your right but what if a girl isn't trying to experiment and still flerts with other girls I kno that doesn't make them bi or anything but why do you tihnk some girls do that

[kdizzleforizzle91]

I have no idea. I don't do that. Maybe they do it because like I said, they can simply get away with it. haha.

[zorn74]

This topic is interesting to me personally because I dated a woman who confided in having "lesbian tendencies." She used those exact words and was serious. Her best friend in particular turned her on. They'd met in nursing school, talked in the evening on the phone almost every night. I remember sitting next to her when her friend sent a mirror selfie of her dressed up and looking sexy. My girlfriend showed it to me then went back to staring at it closely, really looking her over. Over time, her friend bought a vibrator and repeatedly trying to convince my girlfriend to masturbate with her. As in, try the toy out while next to her. They did eventually have sex but very secretively. My ex likes to perpetuate the image of being a good, church going woman to her family, etc. It made for stimulating conversations for sure.

[madiocre]

I don't particularly get this but I have a bit of a theory..

society encourages the idea that only women are hot. You see women plastered everywhere being sold as sexual beings and so I think even women start seeing other women in that light because that's just what we accept them as being. Also its an easy way to gain attn... in a bar there are tonnes of other scantily clad girls to compete with.

[Coolguy708]

that makes sense

[katg4560]

Well there is actually a scale for sexuality. I thinks called the mckenzy scale or something like that. The theory behind it is that there is maybe 1% of the population that is entirely 100% straight or gay and the rest of us fall somewhere in between.

I have friends of all different orientation and can say this is pretty true based off of my own experiences.

[posted]

A lot of girls seem to act bisexual, kissing each other at parties or in photos constantly lol. Never see guys doing that.

[katg4560]

I believe it's because girls are taught that it's OK even hot to do that while with men they are taught the opposite, that it's disgusting and wrong.

[Coolguy708]

i agree when I'm at parties I see girls kissing straight girls kissing but afterward when I ask why they kiss they say there drunk but still and grinding on each other like when I'm drunk there is no dam way I'm kissing another dude

[Coolguy708]

so what your saying katg is that no girl is 100% striaght

[katg4560]

Well there you go. Question answered fully.

[katg4560]

No guy is either but that's just not as talked about because it's frowned upon when men do the same thing.

[Coolguy708]

oh I see

[katg4560]

I hope this helped clear things up.

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

That only happens to me if I drink too much , I love everyone when I drink

[LexiNinja]

Like you stated, I think it's for attention but also the thought of it. Some women may like the fantasy of it but the actual 'doing' of it might be a little off putting. I consider myself to be a pansexual so if the opportunity came, hell yea I'd f*** a girl. I'm attracted to them physically and sexually as I am men. Those women or your 'friends' just seem like a bunch of confused attention seeking young girls, who'd do anything to please their man.

[Coolguy708]

well yeah its normal for pansexuals and lesbians and bisexuals but for straight women its like what are you doing your sapose to be straight its almost like you don't deserve the name you don't deserve to be called straight if you do those things and like I said its not a problem of course not its just weird its almost being hypercritical

[LexiNinja]

@Update: Your assumption of automatically labeling women as 'lesbian' is ignorant. I didn't know being a certain sexuality promoted or limited you from doing certain things. Ok, if a woman wants to hug or hold hands with another woman, doesn't automatically qualify her as lesbian. I think both men and women have different ways of showin affection, it just so happens women are more flamboyant about it, where so men, are ashamed. Any male on male interaction, in their mind(some) is considered gay'

[Coolguy708]

i don't mean all straight women of course and I'm assuming it I've seen it plenty of times and I know doing those things doesn't make them a lesbian and your right about that majority are women who show affection with other women weather there straight or not I don't know any guys what so ever who hold hands or sit on each others laps and your right I shouldn't judge people on it I just always wannted to know because its mostly straight girls who show this affection with other girls then any straigh

[Coolguy708]

straight guys

[johari]

Ya that doesn't apply to me

[Coolguy708]

what do you mean

[JennieF]

People like different things.

[MiseriaCantareAFI]

They're bi. They just can't admit it

[Anonymous]

Its a girl thing

[Anonymous]

ya its gross but my friends don't do that to me but I see people slap each others' butt..but I guess its not lezbo to them since they don't think those sexual ways too