fwb just like live-ns don't work or turn into anything more because the people involve break principal relationship rules. Without definition on the relationship, you have nothing. And it has to be made early on. Men are linear thinkers, that is why they are often more direct than women. Anytime you get a guy who says, "let's just enjoy the moment," or he does not define the relationship, and likes everything kind of blury or ambiguous, that is a big waving red flag that something is wrong. A man who is indirect means, he is not wiling to tell you the direct truth.
Women can take the long way and be surprised they got to a certain destination, but a guy is not like that. He KNOWS where he is going (or thinks he knows where he's going). So, if you are confused about the relationship, it is only because you are taking emotional cues and are more willing to take alternate routes and "discover" where they lead. Whereas the guy knows absolutely where he's at in this journey and he knows the destination too.0 0 0 0thanks!
Why does BFF/FWB/roommate *say* he doesn't want a relationship but *act* like he does?
Likely because you're placing more meaning on his actions.
Is the affection he shows, even the extra close stuff, just because we are such good friends for so long or what?
Seems like the affection he shows is due to having sex with you. It seems guys tend to like sexualized physical contact however it doesn't mean there are emotional feelings behind it.
"people tell us we are just the cutest couple (which he doesn't correct them on)."
Perhaps he doesn't correct them because it'd be awkward to say:
- 'we're just friends' which may make him look like some poor guy in the friend zone
- 'I'm just f*cking her' which may make you look like some slut or gals with no self-respect0 0 0 0I can appreciate the last part especially because I know he care enough at least to not want to make me feel or look bad ;)
Because he wants to have his cake and eat it too.
Who wouldn't want someone that they can treat like a girlfriend while no ones watching and have all the sex and closeness... then still go out and do whatever you like0 0 0 0
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Probably very insecure himself He wants a relationship he just doesn't know it He doesn't have the balls to say what he really wants A little coward like He's probably also afraid of ruining what you two have. Communication is key here. You have to explain to him what you want and if he's a man he will realize that he needs to formally date you. Good luck!
0 0 0 0He wants all the benefits of a relationship, mainly the physical pleasures, without the commitment aspect of it.
0 0 0 0I'm sure you're right about that, and going into this thing that's exactly what I was after. But it's weird since he keeps talking about stuff like us taking road trips "someday" when we can afford it or what we'll be doing when we get old. That's why it's so confusing, but I guess it's because we are friends.(Altho he never talked like that until just recently)
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