Cumming and orgasm are the same thing, really. “To have an orgasm” got translated out of the medical-sounding Latin into English, and shortened into “to come”. Here in Holland we turned it into ‘klaarkomen', “achieve” or “finish”. The idea is the same: orgasm is what sex leads to, it is the goal and the end of sex.
Because the orgasm makes a man (sometimes a woman too) ejaculate, the stuff that comes out got to be called “come” as well. Both got to be written “cum” often – but not always. From there, “cumming” got the meaning “producing the fluid”. But the two are really still the same: a man ONLY ejects semen when he has an orgasm, and (normally) ALWAYS ejects when he orgasms. With women, the linguistic rigmarole led to the misunderstanding you describe, because women don't usually spray fluids noticeably when they orgasm, and can produce a lot of it even if they don't.
The orgasm is the ‘trick' that the body uses to get the semen from the man into the womb of the woman. The idea is to get fertilization going and produce a baby. The good feeling is just a lure to make sure that people want to do it. If there was no fun in it, why produce smelly nuisances of bratty offspring? Nature wants us to reproduce, so the orgasm feels good to fool us into getting kids.
The orgasm is mainly a crampy contraction of muscles. The male variant: in order to squirt out the semen fast and far into the vagina, the female variant: to pinch it out of the penis, squish it in deeper and tilt the opening of the womb closer to the jet of cum. The pleasant feeling is in that spasmodic contraction of muscles and in the pulsing relaxation in-between and after the spasms. So how do you define orgasm(=cumming)? By the spasms and the good feeling.
The fluids get produced by sexual arousal. The more excited you get, the more you dribble goo. Both men and women do that to oil the whole process. One you get randy and want to f***, the body starts preparing for it by making a lubricant, women a bit more than men. So fluids don't define orgasm, they define arousal.
Hope this helps.
The word cumming is just a slang word for orgasm. A better proper word for orgasm would be climax. Someone may even say... he/she finished. There are others. But a person will feel exactly the same whether they cum, orgasm, climax or finish. Just a choice of different words.
They really are the same thing, although I've heard orgasms used to refer to the entire thing when "cumming" is sometimes only referring to the fluid that a male or female releases during an orgasm.
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but for us (males) the orgasm and the cumming is the same.
we can have an orgasm without cumming but only after 10 times of masturbating,
when the prostate is exhausted and do not have enough time to generate a new seminal fluid.
I thought it was that guys cum and girls orgasm..
boyfriend said he has never orgasm with me but he does cum every time... I'm confused
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