I have a girlfriend, but other girl kissed me and now me and my girlfriend have split up, help!

[Anonymous]

Hey guys/gals, Me and my girlfriend had known been with each other for around 8 months, however, before we got close, her friend contacted me. Her friend had opened up to me, tellin me that her dad had died, they are in debt etc. I listened to her to appease her as I felt sorry for her but had no intimate feelings towards her, only to the girl who'd become my gf. However, after she had told me all this stuff she told me that she liked me and wanted me to be with her, I told her that I had feelings for somone else, so she then asked me to be her friend with benefits. I said no. Due to moral reasons. We then hadn't talked for a few weeks and she messaged me again asking me to be her friends with benefits again, I said no, later on me and her had a walk and we were dicussing it, she kissed me. I immediately backed off and walked away. I was planning on telling my girlfriend but after it seemed clear that my girlfriend cared for her greatly and her situation. So I did not. After a while her friend got more and more jealous, and eventually after 8 months told my girlfriend that we had kissed, my girlfriend was near tears and had started to back away from me. I felt like sh*t. After that she told me that she was angry as I didn't tell her, I then explained it was only because I didn't want to ruin their friendship, I confronted her friend and got her to apologize but it was too late ofc. My girlfriend had exams coming up and didn't want drama to allow her to fail, she told me she forgave me but doesn't want unneccessary drama so left me. I had talked to her many times, she claimed she didn't want to hurt her friend, which was what I was trying to do, so it didn't make sense, throughout the relationship she knew her friend liked me. I stopped talking to her after trying hard to fix things, as I didn't want to get friend zoned by her, I could tell she was kinda sad, so one day me and a group of friends had been going to get something to eat and I invited her randomly she came with us and I dropped her off home, after when we were talking by text she ignored me halfway. I left it. A week after during class, I had been distant from her even though she was on my table, I didn't understand why she felt bad after she ignored me. Byt we had a talk and she told me she doesn't want the drama I told her I still had feelings for her and we left it. A week later, yesterday, me and her started having an amazing and fun chat and things were going well. I want to get back with her. Should I tell her that we shuld talk occasionaly in school to avoid her ex friend and get back after exams, if not, what do I doooo?

[KingJR]

Geez...It's not like you have feelings for the other girl since it was freakin 8 months ago! And the OTHER GIRL kissed you out of the blue, and you PULLED AWAY!

Although you should have been up front right away...let that be a lesson to you buddy. Don't hide sh*t like that to "protect her"...

What you can do now? Handle her concern. I'm not even sure I know what the major concern of hers is other than her "not wanting drama"...

...oohhhhh I just noticed you're under 18. I see, the girl isn't mature enough to realize that this kiss of yours was B.S. and wasn't something you wanted. So just reassure her about that and make DAMN SURE she knows how you feel. That other chick probably made it seem totally different than what you think.

[Anonymous]

Her friend doesn't seem like much of a friend trying to pursue you. From this post, you seem pretty sincere. If you've thoroughly and truthfully explained yourself to your girlfriend, I think that's really all you can do at the moment. She was hurt and needs her space. If she can honestly forgive, look past this and your emotions for each other were strong enough, maybe she will re-consider. In all, it was your responsibility to be truthful to her when the kiss happened. Even though you were trying to salvage their "friendship," I think she deserved to know the truth and you should have been looking out for her in terms of how her "friend" was not a true one at all. Her ability to trust you has been affected.

[Asker]

the thing is she said she forgave me, but should I do anythin from here on out?

[Opinion Owner]

The only thing you can do is wait for her to come around. Otherwise, maybe she forgave but she cannot forget. That might deter her from coming back and even if you do come back, there will probably be trust issues. In the mean time, give her some space, then try to reconnect with her/show you that care, if she's not responding in your favor, you may need to move on.