Guys-Do you care if your friends with benefits gets off?

[Anonymous]

So I have a friends with benefits-we used to date. I can't finish with just penetration, and I love receiving oral to finish. He never did it a lot before (and he was pretty clueless about it), and now he's asking for specific instructions on how to get me off. I asked him if he had ever gone down on a girl before, and he said yes but he didn't care before. Also just putting it out there, I can enjoy having sex with someone without getting off every time. I thought from a guys perspective a friends with benefits would be like a booty call, and mostly about the guy getting off. So do you guys actually care if your friend with benefits gets off? Like REALLY care-constantly asking how to make you cum, etc. Thanks for the responses

[Anonymous]

I think the most important thing of a friends with benefits is to make sure the girl gets enjoyment and full satisfaction. To me, that is always foremost. So I always make sure my girl orgasms even if it's just from my going down on her. There's been times where she didn't feel like having intercourse but only wanted me to eat her out to orgasm, and so I did very willingly. I really get turned on giving oral to a girl and have already come spontaneously right after I made her orgasm. It's just so overly exciting when a girl orgasms while I'm eating her out that I find it hard to contain myself. So to your question, I REALLY do care about my friends with benefits girl and how she's doing when we're having sex because I know if I don't please HER she will get tired of our relationship so I always make SURE she's enjoying the experience immensely. Most often I go down on her first to get her wet before we have sex and she gets so wet. That's when she often puts her hand on my head with a little pressure which is her signal to me to take my time but finish her off good until she can't orgasm any more and then moves my head away quickly. Some times we'll have sex a little later and sometimes we won't depending if she had any multi-orgasms. But I'm OK with that because I enjoyed the oral sex I gave her. Needless to say, we're great friends only but have our little flings quite often. She has a couple guy friends and they do hang out, but I think that's as far as she goes. I don't feel it's my business to ask her about her personal life because she's asked me not to get too attached to her. She's 18 and so hot but right now she doesn't want any relationship. She said she wants her freedom now and to keep it like it is. We'll will be in our friends with benefits relationship seven months in one more week. Just let him please you however he wants and teach him all he wants to know about doing that.

[stubbsy]

Pleasing the girl we are with is important to us, if a guy shows no interest in pleasing you, then he really has little interest in you to start with, so regardless of being (what you call a fwb) guys generally have a need to please their woman,x

[heatherlu]

Yeah.

It's an ego boost.

Plus they just want you to enjoy it - for guys sex without climax isn't really satisfying, and so they assume the same applies to girls.

They want it to be good for you too - friends with benefits is a mutually beneficial agreement, and if you don't feel like you're getting the benefits, you might call it off thus ending his. So you know, it pays for him to make it as good for you as possible.

Besides most guys (even guys who have friends with benefits and/or casual sex) aren't a**holes who see women as sex toys. They like us to enjoy it too. I mean, I'd be disheartened if a guy didn't come from sex or you know ... whatever it was we were doing.

[peace-love-couture]

The more pleasure the friends with benefits gets the more she'll go back and be at his disposal

Any good friends with benefits knows that...plus, the whole point of friends with benefits is sex

[Kiran04]

Yes. The more she enjoys the experience, the more she's likely to repeat it, thus I have a vested interest in getting her to orgasm.

[larry69]

I Want To Make Women Cum Multiple Times Each time

[Anonymous]

Yes, of course. When engaging in sex, it's always my goal to make her cum.

[Anonymous]

Yes, definitely. At least once every time. Not just to be fair but also because it's a huge turn on for me when she cums.