Should I let my friends with benefits not wear a condom?

[Anonymous]

he says it feels better but I told him I'm not comfortable because I don't wanna get pregnant or any STDs. and he said if he had an STD I already would have it because I swallowed his come and that I shouldn't worry bout getting preggers Because I'm on the pill which is 99.8 percent effective or whatever. im still really worried though but I really like him a lot and I don't want him to stop hanging out with me. how do I get him to shut the hell up about not wearing a condom? or am I worrying too much since I'm on birth control? but then again I've heard stories about still getting pregnant on the pill so him thinking he knows everything is annoying. and when I asked him before if he doesn't wear a condom he said only in a committed relationship which makes me mad Because he hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend so he might not even like me. what should I do?

[islands7]

Yes, it feels better to him - does it feel better to you?

I'll bet he cums faster w/o - is that a good thing for you?

When he cums, feels better to him - do you like that sensation?

He doesn't want to offer marriage = he shirks responsibility for any/all sexual consequences which works great for him - does such a future of potential consequences alone seem bright to you?

You fear he'll cut you off if you don't comply with his joys and bury your self protection concerns - does that feel like love & the right thing to do?

Are you the type that loves to be the servant, bearing all evil just so your master can walk on soft pedals?

DO you trust medical prescriptions 100% - most don't (the pill)

Finally, if you are willing to provide sexual relief to a guy that doesn't include you in his life as wife nor even Girlfriend ... aren't you aware of how powerful an attractant such services are to the guys? Predictably and assuredly you can have 100's of potential suitors from which to select the ones you love as much/more as this current FWB + get many offers to graduate to GF, even wife.

This is a no brainer - take a few days to think about with no arguments ... then comment if necessary.

[AdrianaHB1]

Nice comment.

[Anonymous]

Well, I don't think you should be having sex with someone you don't trust. If I had any suspicion that a girl might have an STD, I wouldn't have sex with her even with a condom.

That said, I couldn't trust someone who makes such a ridiculous claim about STDs. Either your friend is liar, or he's horribly misinformed. Oral sex without a condom is far safer than anal or vaginal sex without a condom. Even if you had had anal or vaginal sex without a condom and not gotten any STDs from him, that wouldn't mean you definitely couldn't get any STDs from him. HIV, for example, isn't transmitted every time an HIV-positive person has sex with anyone. It might take two or three times.

As for pregnancy, the whole point of the pill is to be contraceptive. If you trust using condoms only, you should trust using the pill only, though of course using both at the same time would be more effective.

I would say maybe consider his suggestion, but only if your relationship is exclusive. Maybe make him get an STD test before you go condomless.

[Anonymous]

He is only saying things in an attempt to manipulate you, which you have already realized because you asked him of his previous condom uses.

He is ignorant about STD's and STI's. You can get it separately in&on your (1) oral area than in&on (2) your genitals. For some STD's and STI's, symptoms don't show up on a percentage of people. Did you know that 50% of men don't show symptoms of Chlamydia and 75% of women don't show symptoms of Chlamydia?

Just google : "chlamydia symptoms percentage" if you don't believe me.

Also, it is possible that he could give you one of different types of HPV, which is a Sexually-Transmitted Infection that might lead to cervical cancer.

You're right, he does not like you a lot. It doesn't even seem like he respects you enough to ask you to be in a committed relationship. Some guys respect the girls that only have sex after a committed relationship has started.

Please find a different guy who is not an idiot and try to get into a committed relationship for your health. It seems like you have low self-esteem based on your 2nd to last sentence. There are some nice guys around who would feel lucky to have you as a girlfriend.

[ThenThereWas1]

Stand your ground. Your gut tells you to use condoms. Trust it. Any guy who pressures you to do something that jeopardizes your sexual health isn't even worthy of laying a finger on your body. Not only does he not care about your safety, but he doesn't care about his own either. He could potentially get an STD from you and he doesn't have a care in the world, imagine how many partners he's had unprotected sex with--and didn't even bother to get tested afterward! I know you have strong feelings for this guy, but he's bad news. With or without a condom, he doesn't deserve the honor of being intimate with you. You are obviously a clever young woman and could easily find someone who meets you half way.

Be safe my dear!

[katiesmuff]

I know there is a big difference in the way it feels and he is probably telling you the truth, but you can only do what YOU really feel comfortable doing!

[Jonny_]

No, he's being selfish... Yes it does feel better, but if there was a slight chance of getting a girl pregnant or giving her an STD I'd wear one... As for not having an STD based on the fact you swallow? For one thing, a few STDs are symptomless and for another, contracting one via your mouth is more difficult than via your sexual organs, mainly because your mouth is designed to deal with more foreign things since you eat daily, sexual organs haven't got as much natural protection and are rather exposed.

[TedStar]

Hell no. No glove, No love baby girl. Find another FWB because this guy is being very funny. Go to a clinic and get the right contraceptive advice

[madhatters4]

well first of all swallowing c*m doesn't necessarily lead to STDs. make sure he knows that

I personally would adhere to your rule. The pill isn't 100% and it is only a FWB situation. I don't think you should concede to having sex without a condom simply because you are afraid he'll stop having sex with him.

if he drops the relationship because of that then he is an selfish a**hat

[skinandbones]

NO. he has to wear one. you asked, he said no, time to find a new fwb. he's an idiot.

[Tycho]

Wrap the willyyyy nilly

[yaddayaddayadda02]

You should never let a FWB f*** you without a condom. You should probably not let anyone f*** you without a condom until you are married.

[justincider]

This won't be PC, but while you are not in a relationship, you are having regular sex with someone. In my couple of FWBs our rule was we wear a condom if we sleep with someone else, but not each other. The whole point is we are comitted to continue having sex with each other because it is good for both of us. I'm down and cool with condoms at first, but any amount of regular sex should lead to no condoms. Get him tested, set some ground rules and do what you feel is right

[Anonymous]

If he tells you you'd get a vaginal STD from swallowing his cum, he's obviously not informed enough to have sex in the first place. Don't give him a chance of spreading his idiot seed.

[Anonymous]

swallowing come is not the same as having sex. when you swallow I immagne it goes through your digestive system not your blood stream.

I say don't let him.

[Anonymous]

If you're not comfortable with it, then don't do it. You can compromise by sucking him off more. That way he still gets to have you work his naked penis, which is what he misses when he's in a condom.

[Anonymous]

ROFL! :)