if you want to be his girlfriend you need to stop being a friend with benefits.
being in a monogamous casual sex relationship is definitely something people do and it does't necessarily need to reflect any greater feeligns towards teh other person than any other FWB situation. It simply is to say I want to have sex with you and no one else but doesn' t mean that the relationship suddenly becomes boyfriend/girlfriend...essentially friends with benefits and monogamy aren't necessarily mutually exclusive
I think if you want something with this guy you need to just tell him. First clearly figure out what you want with him and then tell him. if you can't only do the casual sex relationship (and I wonder if you can because it seems to cause you a lot of anguish) then you may need to put a a stop to it. but don't simply continue the casual sex because you are afraid to lose him all together.1 0 0 0This is really helpful, thank you,
I'm in a very similar situation currently and I'm you. It hurts like F$%K! But MHG is right. You've got to do what's best for you and you need to figure out exactly what you want the relationship to be, and tell him so and ask. But don't be mad at yourself for your feelings. Feelings are uncontrollable. You have them whether you want them or not. My fwbs and I were monogamous to and I wanted it that way. Mostly because of STD's, health. It's the only way I'd be in a fwbs situation. I don't want to constantly wonder who she's been with, how they've been with etc.
On update: this doesn't necessarily mean that 'you're not girlfriend material", not at all. It only means he doesn't want that officially. It often comes with drama/stress and that's what he doesn't want in his life. It could be you or anyone, it wouldn't matter.0 0 0 0
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0 2What is the big deal here? You're playing with words. You're in a relationship with him, so just get over it and say it out loud. You could even give him a ring and ask him to marry you, that'll set things straight.
1 0 0 0Lol, things are not always as they seam, thanks for your input. =)
You are both admitting that you are having romantic feelings and both want to be monogamous. Just freaking take that leap and admit the truth to him. the whole truth.
1 0 0 0Took the leap, least I know where I stand now. Thanks for your input, =)
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