Should I tell my friend with benefits that I had a miscarriage?

[Anonymous]

i didn no I was pregnant at all.. he suddenly started ignoring me so I text him an went off on him.. so we are completely done now.. the very next day I had a miscarriage.. I'm afraid to tell him Because he's gonna think I am lying just to get him to communicate back with me after being completely ignored by him.. I got pics from this happening to me as proof.. but I wanted to no if I should tell him or leave him alone..?

[Anonymous]

I don't think you have any moral reason to tell him. I mean it isn't going to change anything at this point, and it isn't like you have anything to apologize for. Unless you think your pregnancy hormones might have caused you to act strangely around him and that you think you might feel better after explaining that, and getting some needed closure

You might want to tell him that he got you pregnant and might want to be more careful in the future, unless he wants to get his next friends with benefits pregnant as well. That might frighten him into being more careful so he doesn't destroy his future, but he should already know the risks. You have no obligation to him at this point. Tell him if you think you will feel better, but you don't owe him anything at this point.

[madhatters4]

you didn't tell him you were pregnant so I don't see why you would tell him this.

i would just not bother with him. if you guys aren't really speaking to each other I don't think this you should re-establish communication with this as it really wouldn't achieve a lot

[PinkAcid]

i would leave it alone, you're both done completely now anyway and telling him won't bring the baby back unfortunately. he might think you're lying to get him back as you say or trying to blame a fake miscarriage on him to make him the reason the babys gone (as he didn't know you were pregnant and I don't think he'd believe you by a mile unless you had scans and a doctors report for the miscarriage

[lananoel]

tell him nothing... it sounds like you would be using emotional black mail

[BatDoc]

The best question to ask here is what does telling him accomplish?

Do you just want him to know?

Do you want him to feel sympathetic toward you or sorry for you?

Do you want him to be more aware of his actions and the possible consequences of not using protection?

Whatever your desired outcome is depends on whether or not you should tell him. Personally, I don't think you should. I think it will cause more trouble than it's worth.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

As you said, nothing good will come of letting him know.

[Anonymous]

It might help you move past it to tell him. I would tell him if I were you. Besides, if he was the father, I don't know...I think, even though it'd break my heart, I'd like the right to mourn the child I could've had with someone. Like some others mentioned though, it would seem like you might be trying to manipulate him. Simply let him know you're not and that you just thought he had a right to know.