What would you think about a girl suggesting you being fuck buddies?

[Anonymous]

So, I'm currently single and want to stay that way, not really have the time or strength to be in a relationship right now, but of course we all get horny from time to time haha... So, I met this guy a few months ago (haven't had sex with him yet) but we've been in some dates and kissed, I think he's probably expecting for us to get serious at some point, but I'm not. I was thinking about suggesting we just be f uck buddies, like no strings attached and just whenever we're in the mood and no drama. Would you think of a girl that suggests that as a whore or you wouldn't change your opinion about her?

[3gmoney3]

I agree that you should find out what his stance on it is before you ask him.

As a guy, I don't think of a girl as a whore for wanting a sexual relationship with no strings attached. There are many guys that want that too, and as long as everyone is on the same page, there really shouldn't be any judgment of what two consenting adults choose to do.

The trouble that I find with FWB situations, though, is that it's rare to find two people who are legitimately on the same page. Often, people who want something more serious will agree to be FWBs because they think that over time they'll be able to convince the other person to be in a relationship. Other times, people start out on the same page, but sex has a way of causing feelings of attachment (like, chemically) and one person will end up wanting more. There's no way that either of these doesn't lead to someone getting seriously hurt.

So to answer your question, I don't think that he'll think you're a slut, but I also think you should consider his feelings more than his opinion. If it seems like he wants something more serious, then this type of proposal may only lead him on and end up causing a lot of pain down the line.

[Asker]

I really appreciate your opinion, it has made me look at things from a different perspective, the guy's feelings. Thanks so much, it's a very mature advice :)

[HandsomeRaj]

1. If the guy is looking at you for a relationship and you ask him to be FWB / F***Buddy then it may not go down well with him cause he has an attachment to you emotionally. You don't even know if he believes in that concept (so I assume) and how he views it. There are lot of men and women who consider people who do that 'immoral'

2. Personally, if I'm in the situation where I like the girl and she wants to be FWB then I'd be open to it for 2 reasons (a) I already like and am attracted to her (b) I respect her and her wishes. AND NO I won't look at her as a whore I'd respect her more for being open with me while not leading me on and also know that she may end it someday.

[Asker]

You're right, I should if he believes in the concept first, thanks!

[HandsomeRaj]

you were, are and always welcome :) Good luck :)

[HandsomeRaj]

Wow that's a surprise :D and a thoughtful gesture - thank you so much for the BA, wholly appreciate it :)

[TheoryOfAvarice]

It probably depends on what the guy is looking for. Not all guys are interested in getting into a friends with benefits relationship. Maybe try to determine what his stance on it is before you ask him directly.

If you find out he wants something serious then don't lead him on or lie just to have a fling with this guy.. find someone else who wants what you want.

[abundantlyrich]

You can only ask and see what he thinks of it. If he is a very serious guy, the chances of him disagreeing with it, are big

[Anonymous]

Most of the single guys will say yes but then some of them will ruin it.I have experienced this many times.

[Asker]

how did they ruined it for you?

[Opinion Owner]

They get mad knowing I was hooking up with some other guys too.

[MrOracle]

It wouldn't offend me in any way, and I wouldn't think less of her. I *might* be skeptical that she can actually go through with it and not develop feelings, so I'd want to talk about that a bit, but as long as I felt that wasn't going to be a big issue, it would be fine (unless I was deeply in love with her or something).

[Asker]

Why would it bother you if you were deeply in love with the girl?

[MrOracle]

Because if a guy is deeply in love with a girl, he wants to do more than just fvck her. He'll want the whole "girlfriend experience". He might go for it just for the opportunity to be close to her and have sex with her, but it won't be long before he wants more, and will be hurt, angry, and frustrated if she says "no." FWB means no expectation of an emotional relationship, but not everyone is smart enough to avoid a FWB if they already have feelings for that person.

[Asker]

That's a very good point. Thanks a lot!

[MrNameless]

If I'm attracted to her, and not looking for a serious relationship, sure why not?

[gonyr]

I don't think there is a guy out there who is single that would say no to this (assuming they find the girl asking to be attractive)

[yaddayaddayadda02]

He would not be offended...but I think FWB relationships are a bad idea in general.

[Starwatcher57]

Why?

[dolfan13]

i would def not be offended, I would probably say yes unless I have some real reason not to go for it

[SaltandVinegar]

if I wasn't looking for a relationship I would say yes and it would not change my opinion of her.

[Anonymous]

I would think its not a serious deal

[Anonymous]

Be honest, don't lead him on.