I enjoy rubbing my clit more than fingering myself. would it be a problem when having sex?

[Anonymous]

hey guys! I'm a virgin, the thing is when I'm horny I just rub my clit until it feels good I don't orgasm but I stop after the feeling good part is over. gosh I don't know how to explain it! anyhow I have orgasmd from fingering myself but that was while I was sexting with someone, but I can only fit in one finger when I'm wet. other days I've tried fingering myself it hurt a bit & I don't orgasm. so I prefer rubbing my clit instead but I don't ever orgasm from it. I don't really know what I want to ask, but I'm kinda scared that once I do have sex it will hurt too much, I have tried inserting 2 fingers many times but cant.

[Anonymous]

As a guy, I think that's hot and sexy. If you were a virgin and we couldn't have sex, I would still love to help you get there if you allowed me. But if not I would suggest use a nice smooth massage oil or a nice clit stimulating cooling or warming gel and rub a drop in nice and slow in circles and underneath. It will heighten your nerve senses big time. Maybe trying massaging really nice and slow and loosen up some and maybe it won't be as tight to put something in. In fact here is my best suggestion and I bought this for my wife for valentines day. Maybe it can relate to this a little? I got her/us and WeVibe Sync. Look it up and what it can do! Basically its a c shaped vibe. Its very thin and smooth/kind of rubbery. Put some lube all over the end you would stick in, and slid it until it goes all the way in and the one end is on your clit on the outside and the other is inside where your gpspot is. Turn on and use the small slow setting and just lay back and enjoy the ride. Everytime we use it she cums in under a minute and she's grabbing the sheets! Then she pulls me on top of her or she gets on top of me with it still inside her and I can fit in with it and enjoy the vibes together (but that would be later for you since you are virgin, but nice to have!!). Try that and let me know if you do ok! I'd love to hear about it! Thanks

[Anonymous]

It will not be a problem when you have sex. My girl used to rub her clit, loved it, and we never had a problem with her having an orgasm with sex. Keep in mind, that the majority of women do have have an orgasm by penis in vagina alone.

[Anonymous]

I'm also a virgin and I know what you mean.I'm also like that. I can only fit one finger and it doesn't feel good when I do that so I juat rub my clit because that feels good. Don't be afraid to have sex, ofcourse it will hurt but if you will communicate with your partner then things will be better. Just tell him if you're comfortable or not. Then he hhas to make the adjustment haha

[Asker]

cool lol. I thought I was the only one! made me feel kinda crap haha. glad to see I'm not the only one with that problem :)

[Opinion Owner]

We're not the only ones, trust me. Haha. I'm planning to have sex with my boyfriend, we already talked about it. Of course I'm nervous, I know it'll hurt. Lol

[Asker]

good luck :)

[sadie-lynn]

i have fingers like yours, and have always preferred rubbing myself to fingers. though I like insertable toys. my first and second times were painful and I bled. but I got past that by concentrating on my partner as he stared in my eyes and the connection I felt. it gets better, much better.

[Asker]

im so so scared of the 1st time honestly

[sadie-lynn]

i wasn't scared at all. I was ready for it and then he put it in...and I'm surprised people on the west coast weren't wondering if I was being abused. I SCREAMED from the pain. it took communication, a patient partner, and a connection. you'll be fine. :)

[Asker]

screamed from the pain lol. hmmm doesn't sound like much fun to me but thax

[sadie-lynn]

the pain became null after a bit...he looked deep into my eyes and smiled at me and I just melted.

[Asker]

awwww I hope after that you were screaming from pleasure lol

[sadie-lynn]

actually I stopped screaming. I'm more of a moaner :)

[larry69]

I love using insertable toys on small women

[Asker]

such as?

[Troian]

Sensations when you're actually having sex are better ;)

If you finger yourself while having sex, it won't be a problem so don't worry

[Anonymous]

I have the same problem :(