Trying to fulfill my boyfriend fantasy turns super embarrassing for me but why is he mad?

[Anonymous]

I am 26 years old and have been living with my boyfriend for about a year now, A few months ago my boyfriend told me that one of his fantasies would be coming home from work walking in the house and catching me using my dildo. I kept that information in my head for a few months to just let him forget about it a little bit. We both had to work Monday but he did not know that I got off early that day he usually gets home before me, that day I got home early and I knew he was coming home soon and didn't know I would be there so I decided to fulfill his fantasy. About 15 minutes before he got home I went to our bedroom I took off all my clothes got my dildo and went back into the living room I laid on the couch and started using it, I just figured I would use it until he got there and then he could see me then finish the job. About 20 minutes later I heard his truck pull in the driveway I actually got kind of excited and nervous at the same time I don't know why he seen me naked a billion times. I got in a good position he could see my whole body facing him when he opened the front door, I was holding my hair on top of my head with one hand and using the dildo really fast with the other I heard the key go in the door the door opened my boyfriend walked in and right behind him came in our next-door neighbor. I saw both of their jaws drop and I just froze in straight terror. I stood up dropped my dildo on the hardwood floor while it was still vibrating and it made a loud embarrassing noise, I bent over picked it up and ran into our room butt naked with my heart pounding out of my chest. I close the door and I just wanted to crawl under the covers and die. A few minutes later I heard our neighbor leave. My boyfriend came into the room and was like what the hell was that? I told him that I was trying to make his fantasy come true and he was not very understanding. He got mad at me for letting the neighbor see me like that we got in a big argument about how he was saying this is my fault. I kept telling him I was just trying to do a favor for Him and he said that I should've been in our room doing that and not on the couch. How the hell was I supposed to know the neighbor was going come inside? Anyways he is still really upset about it and I kept trying to explain to him that he was a complete accident and very embarrassing for me. Why did he get so mad? You think that this is my fault? How am I ever going to see and hang out with my neighbors again ?

[ludorock]

I don't know why he got so angry, probably because he felt embarrassed as well, which even if he did he has no right to get upset with you about it, it was an honest mistake. When he forgets to pick up milk or forgets to call when he's going to be late do you scream at him and get angry? No, probably not, because people make mistakes. You were just trying to do something for him. It's no one's "fault" because there is no fault. I was just a silly mishap.

Your neighbors will get over it, hell if you want to make light of it bake them some cookies and tape a note to it that says "Sorry you had to see me naked cookies" or something. Making people laugh and just relaxing the situation is how you ease the tension, so don't ignore it just, bring it up, apologize and then forget about it because it doesn't matter. We all have bodies, we've all seen naked bodies, it's no big deal.

As for dealing with your husband- you two need to sit down and calmly talk it over. Ask him why he got so upset. Tell him you're not trying to attack him, you're not trying to have a fight you just honestly want to know what went through his mind that got him so worked up. Stay calm, stay relaxed and try to keep things civil. If he can't, if he keeps yelling and insulting and getting angry and blaming you then stand up and just tell him that if he can't have an adult conversation about something that was an honest, best intentions mistake then maybe you two should have an outside person around to moderate. He's acting like a child. I would suggest having a mediator, a couples therapist around to try and moderate the discussion and keep things calm and help communication.

[Anonymous]

it is okay , he will calm down soon , it is just that he didn't want someone else see you like that , don't worry :)

[Red_Arrow]

I saw that one coming. I did laugh, but I do feel for you.

Don't know what to say about the neighbor. He may have some strange thoughts about you, but he won't forget you! You and your neighbor will have to come to an understanding, but exactly what depends on you guys.

Your husband was embarrassed. He was tight that you should have done it in the bedroom. But I can see that you wanted to catch him as he came in the door and never imagined the neighbor would be with him. It happened. You made a mistake and apologized. He needs to get over it. If it were me I would be laughing with you about it soon after the shock passed.

He probably is quite mystified on how to deal with the neighbor, maybe even more than you. Hopefully the neighbor can get over it and things can get back to normal. (But he will still remember it!)

Lol, the dido vibrating on the hardwood floor!

[serp777]

Why do people make such a big deal out of sex and sexual activities? So what if your neighbors saw you naked? They'll fucking get over it.

Your boyfriend is idiotic and is making a big deal out of something that isn't a big deal.

Fault implies that something bad happened. Nothing bad happened here so there can't be any fault.

[kheserthorpe]

Your boyfriend sounds like an unappreciative ass.

It's not even my fantasy, I'd have found it kind of hot but also felt bad for you that it turned out like that, and I'd be hoping you wouldn't give up on trying things based on it!

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Well he's mad because he was embarrassed. It's not your fault, just a very unfortunate accident . These things happen and you'll be OK seeing the neighbors again.

Oh, and thanks for this story. I won't say I laughed, but I cringed

[Anpu23]

He's just as embarrassed as you, and that's why he is mad. He knows this one isn't your fault, and he feels a little bit of guilt about it. As for facing the neighbors again, just do it. You can't change what's happened.

[Dandeus]

You need to stop explaining and put your foot down. Tell him to grow a pair and get over it. It was embarassing for everyone, and especially you, but what happened happened and it was an unfortunate accident made with good intent. Tell him if he doesn't get over it you're going to be using the dildo more often, in a way that's not so positive for him.

[SaltandVinegar]

He probably got mad because he was embarrassed

[plshelpmenow]

sheesh. that sucks.. I don't know

[Sixgun77]

That was really sweet of you to try to do that for him. He shouldn't be mad at you, the neighbor was an accident.

[Anonymous]

first you was making his fantasy come true but he was the dumb fuck who brought the neighbor in
i think you should explain to him it was her husband fantasy... being honest
next time your dumb fuck husband walks in be fucking your neighbor