My boyfriend is scared of vaginas?

My boyfriend is scared for not just my vagina, but ever vagina you can think about. He doesn't give oral (I understand that) and doesn't like to touch it at all. He just wants his penis inside, nothing more. I really want him to overcome this fair because it's getting pretty boring with our sex life. What can I do? By the way. He isn't gay.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Try masturbating in front of him if you are comfortable with that. Perhaps he feels insecure in pleasing a women with his fingers/tongue. You should/might have to teach him as he may feel he can't compete with your own fingers or a vibrator or what he sees on po*n.

    Is he able to please you with regular sex? Do you orgasm? Does he? Is he a one shot wonder or is he able to have sex multiple times in an evening? Bottom line, you need to show him what fingers and ultimately a tongue can do to a sex life. Do you go down on him? If so, let him know that he can give you the same pleasure and that you want to receive...not just give. Hang in there and let me know how things work out.

  • i'd say.. unfortunately he as a person is unable to meets your needs sexually and you both are a mis-match in your sexuality. and since as you say " it's getting pretty boring" sounds like his days are numbered. that would be the same though if the roles were switched. doesn't sound like you have to much invested or that he seems like the one guy for you. from what you are saying anyways.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Is he new to the sex field?

    Maybe he is just new to it? I was afraid of the penis at first lol

    Try to make sure you have good hygiene as well. not saying you dont!

    I wash with vagisil wash it is for your vagina and helps keep it smelling normal and looking normal lol

    It depends on his preference, but find out exactly why he is afraid of the vagina ! lol

    ask him! And, tell him it is effecting you! and if he loves you, he will venture out! or in, in this case! lol

  • i don't think this is the truth , try find out why doesn't he like yours instead , I mean if you are not waxed then wax , or anything that you can change about it , but there is no such a thing

    • I'm not the first one he has had this problem with. It's just vaginas in general. He thinks they are scary and disgusting.

    • yes I agree , vaginas do look weird and they are not naturally beautiful , I get the point now , but it is better said '' he doesn't find vaginas appealing '' instead of being scared of them , but don't worry it is normal

  • Why is he scared of vaginas but not scared enough to still put his penis inside? Something seems fishy.

    • lol

    • Haha. Trust me. I have a very good hygiene down there (I even eat a lot of fruits and veggis three days before visiting him. I also vagina soup that is supposed to kill every smelliness down there). I wash and shower EVERY TIME I'm going to his place. So I'm good. I'm not the first one he has had this problem with.

    • Ask him why he's vaginaphobic. It's just so simple to communicate.

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  • I have an idea. The next time the two of you go to have sex, start playing with it in front of him, after you get good and wet, dip your fingers deep into your pussy and scoop out a big drop of your juices and stick them into his mouth, do that a few times with him and see what happens.

  • Ive never heard of a man being afraid of a vagg before. Maybe try talking to him and asking him why he's so afraid of it.

  • I think it's more inexperience anxiety of what to do foreplay wise than fear!

  • Vaginas are very beautiful to me.

  • I'm confused he's scared but he's putting it inside of you?

  • I don't that's so weird. He will put it in but he's afraid to do anything else. That sounds suspicious to me.

  • thats the most ridiculous thing I think I have ever heard

    • Agreed.

    • you sure he is not gay?

    • I'm sure. He is not gay. He just think they are disgusting.

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  • why did you get that guy in the first place? he's gay... what's yours look like? I wanna see, lol just playing

  • Lol my boyfriend is somewhat like that. But he says he's not scared of it, and he has given me oral before. He just rarely looks at it. But he touches it a lot to make me orgasm.

  • That is so weird. I would just talk to him and get down to the reason why he's scared of them. Maybe he had a traumatic experience as a child that he hasn't told anyone about that involved a womans vagina. I don't know, just throwing out possibilities. Only thing you can from what I can see is to just talk to him and figure it out.