Why do guys brag about the number of women they get?

[Anonymous]

I've always been curious why some other guys either brag about the number girls they date, have sex with, etc or are concerned about the number of women other guys get with like it's some matter of worth. For instance, there's this guy I work with who's annoying as hell. Everyday hell ask how many girls I've had sex with, dated, how recent, etc and it's dumb. This guy is in high school which explains but still he's the only guy who asks that all day. Without sounding biased, I've had nothing but a bunch of hookups and flings and while I'm not opposed to them I'd still rather have a few more long lasting relationships then just a bunch of short term hookups and flings. The number thing is stupid. All it really means is a number. I don't think a guy who's been with 18 girls is better than a guy who's only been with 5, not to say vice versa either. I just think its dumb that people make such a big deal out of it. Even when I do get women, I'm just happy that I'm getting some and could care less about the number. I have friends that I've only had 2 or 3 really long lasting relationships and I honestly think I'd trade spots with them.

[Anonymous]

Because sex is used as either a badge of honor (for guys), or a badge of shame for women. Sexuality is this huge, jumbled up mess of a confused identity in western culture and nobody really knows how to treat it or react to it anymore.

Men are pressured to chase sex constantly and to increase their "number", while women are taught to hold off and not give sex to anyone but the least risky alternative. So what this ends up boiling down to is men feel that their role in this entire situation is to simply "win over" a girl and convince her to have sex with him. Women obviously have this choice in who they sleep with, but it's nothing more than playing by the rules of this game. It's not a choice at all, but a mutually reinforced game of manipulation.

Yay for slut shaming and sex chasing...

[Asker]

It's a no situation in either regard. Same with the virgin/slut/stud double standard. If a girl is a virgin or doesn't have the most sexual experience, guys want her more. If a guy is a virgin or is inexperienced by a certain point, he's seen as undesirable or there's something wrong with him. How can men get experienced without women getting experienced and vice versa?

[Opinion Owner]

Society needs to quit worrying about people's personal lives, that's how.

[Asker]

I agree. They need to quit worrying about others personal lives. To me a slut or manwhore isn't really about the number, but their attitude. For example, if they brag about their sex lives, feel like sex is more important than anything else, feel like sex is all they have to offer etc. I mean there are people who have sex a lot that don't feel the need to brag or belittle others who don't get it as much as they do.

[Asker]

Another thing I've seen with women, not all just to clarify, is some of them don't want to be judged by their sex life if they're very experienced but they will have no problem judging/dismissing a guy if he's inexperienced.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't even think defining what you think a "slut" is should really be bothered with. It's not your business to figure out what someone is or isn't, I feel.

[Asker]

No I completely agree with you. I don't think it's anyone's business to find out stuff like that either. I'm just saying guys and girls that are over the top about sexuality are generally the ones who bring it up in the first life and then ask about yours so they can compare and brag based on the results.

[Asker]

I should have rephrased that, but I don't ask a girl about her sexual past for the same reason I wouldn't ask about her ex's. I simply do not care and it's irrelevant. The only thing that would matter if she is irresponsible and has an std. If anyone's seen the first clerks movie, there's no good in discussing sex partners. There's no use and no good comes out of it. It's just a personal thing.

[Michaelmwm19]

Because those people who brag about every single girl they've slept with, been with, are actually very insecure people, and bragging about it is their way of trying to make you think they're the man because they don't have confidence.

[Asker]

Yeah they are definitely trying to overcompensate for something and still pass it off like they have confidence.

[justbanANNAz]

i love this question lol

cuz theyre idiots. douche bags who think they are cool, the poor souls. apparently being respected is equated to how many women have had his penis inside them-.-

to any guy who is proud that he has slept with multiple women, listen here. imma tell you that you look a fool. sure, you can have your 'experience', but it doesn't get you any respect and makes you look weak. so weak that you can't fuckin control your desires.

i love how a man goes to the gym and spends several hours there trying to perfect his body, yet is so emotionally weak. he has a thought, and just acts upon it- why? because yolo, he says-.-

just to make it very clear, this also applies to women and I'm not referring to all guys in my answer.

[Asker]

Thanks you. Yeah like I said a number does not mean anything. Hell since I've only had hookups and flings but no relationships, I don't think I'd feel comfortable telling a woman that especially since I'm 24 if she were to ask about ex's. I think it applies to women as well. While I haven't really heard a girl brag about number of partners, I knew a girl who would brag about how far she's gotten with her sex life like I was to be impressed by it. To me that's weak.

[Asker]

I met her off a dating site and she was over the top with her sexuality. She sent nudes, talked about sex stories, etc before even meeting me. The funny thing was, this girl said she's glad I'm not all about sex or sending her nudes because according to her sex is only when OK when the girl mentions it. She's a major hypocrite. Without sounding sexist, I think both men and women should be on the same page in that regard. Even funnier, she wonders why guys don't respect her when she acts like this

[justbanANNAz]

yep, it can occur on both sides for sure as I mentioned. some women can take it way too far as well, and like you said, they get surprised when they are disrespected.-.- u got a good head on your shoulders=] ty for BA

[Asker]

no problem

[Asker]

I'd also like to add that out of all the women I've been with, none have ever asked about the number of women I've been with or the number of times I've had sex. At most, they'd ask if i was a virgin or not and even then very few girls asked.

[justbanANNAz]

oh thats quite interesting. I'm usually one to ask that question haha

[Stacyzee]

Finally a guy that realizes this.

It's so true !

I am not against people having casual sex but bragging about it ,

makes the person look bad in my eyes.

Getting laid by girls is how greatness is achieved ?

It's pathetic .

You sound like the male version of me.

I've always asked why do guys want to get laid easily, but then complain that a girl is a slut after.

So contradicting.

It seems more acceptable for a man to be this way than a woman.

[Asker]

Thanks. Yeah I'm not judging guys who have high numbers, but bragging about it or making it attribute to your self worth is childish and pathetic. Some people act like themselves and others are define by their sex lives which is dumb. Just to clarify, I don't think guys that play woman only to sleep around are any better than a woman that does the same. Definitely not a fan of double standards.

[Stacyzee]

I agree with you 100% and have the same outlook. I wish more people thought like you. There shouldn't be double standards.

[Asker]

i accidentally clicked the downvote, this comment definitely deserves an upcote lol.

[bubbletrouble]

Guys brag about quantity.

Women brag about quality.

So guys will brag about numbers, yuck

While women will brag about WHO they have been with.

[Asker]

Yeah I don't think it's OK for either gender to brag about sex life, numbers, etc.

[bubbletrouble]

well, alrighty then.

[Asker]

I personally think that the only reason a person should keep track of numbers, especially for sex partners is when its for health reasons like stds and pregnancies.

[kambo_trick3y]

Me neither, anyone if they wanted to could have a high number.

It's not hard to sleep with promiscuous or sexually desperate girls. Some just choose not to.

[Asker]

A bit off topic, but one thing I don't get is how some guys want a girl that's really easy only to end up complaining that she's a "slut" or promiscuous.

[Asker]

I really don't think it's that easy for some guys to have a high number even if a girl is promiscuous or sexually desperate.

[kambo_trick3y]

Trust me dude, lower your standards enough, and you WILL find someone.

[Asker]

Yeah that's true and to be honest, I could have gotten more girls but a lot of the ones that initiated contact with me, I wasn't into. As I mentioned in an another comment, I'm not just going to have sex with a girl or date a girl just for the sake of having sex or being in a relationship. If I don't enjoy it then what's the point. You're right though.

[JamielovesKU]

Maybe they wanna make other guys jealous? Idk...

[Asker]

I'm sure they do and overcompensate for something. I just don't think dating and sex should be a competition like some people make it out to be.

[Asker]

I could have gotten with more women if I wanted to but a lot of them that initiated contact, I wasn't attracted to. I mean I could if I wanted but I'm not just gonna have sex with a girl or date a girl I don't like just for the sake of telling others I had sex or I have a girlfriend. That's just desperate imo.

[JamielovesKU]

I agree.

[IDoMeDotCom]

same reason salesman brag about the amount of sales they get. we are a culture of assholes and we rub things in peoples faces.

[Asker]

Funny you say that. I actually work in sales and even my high number of sales means nothing to me. I mean I'm not mad about it, but all I really care about is making enough to live comfortably.

[Anonymous]

Wow talk about TMI

[Asker]

Are you referring to me or the guy asking me those questions? Personally, I don't even like getting into all those details.