My boyfriend fantasizes about other girls, should i be worried?

i found out when he masturbates or has a sex dream he fantasizes about other women that are not me, is this normal for guys to do or should i be concerned? we have been together for over a year and he isn't the cheating type but it makes me feel uncomfortable knowing about this stuff.
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  • I wouldn't worry or get mad about it because fantasizing and actually doing it with these people are way different if he's just fantasizing then at least he ain't cheating and he's with you and I wouldn't be mad unless he was actually cheating and wanting to do other people then that's when you should be mad but clearly for him to be with you and not them shows a lot on his part you guys should try roleplaying because he will be thinking of you just dressed up as something else not cheating just spicing up your guys relationship more

  • Apparently a lot of guys take it to the next level and even imagine they are sticking their dick in another female as they are mounting you. Personally I wouldn't tolerate it and I would simply tell the guy to go fuck the chick he was fantasizing about if I'm not good enough. Then I should be able to have sex with who I wish. That... or I'll just say adios.

    • My boyfriend watching p*rn I don't care. My boyfriend thinks another female is hot I don't care. But if is sticking his cock into ME while thinking of someone else he can go fuck her and leave me be.

  • this is normal for your 'typical' man. however, there are some decent men out their that love their woman and only their woman. who do not fantasize about others. I wouldn't accept this... unless it was REALLY early into the relationship.

    • then, it should change... at least that is what I expect... or I leave him... its a matter of compatibility...

    • Does that make the "typical" man 'indecent'? Everyone, including women, masturbate and fantasize about banging someone other than their partner. Especially when it comes to co-workers or classmates.

    • bahahhahaaa no dude... only you and your 'type' do that. you can't speak for everyone you can only speak for yourself.. I am SO sick of people speaking for everyone... I don't do it! It is OBVIOUSLY how you are raised.. and I was raised classy. ;)

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  • All men do it. He is just stupid enough to let you in on the secret. Any woman who thinks otherwise is just fooling herself. He can be head over heels in love, completely attracted to her, best husband ever and guess what. he's going to see other beautiful women andfantasize about them. Just be sure he is a guy who doesn't let those quick fantasies develop.

  • Its normal, the majority of men do it. That said, if he -never- fantasized about you'd I'd find that odd, unless you two don't have sex, in which case... I wouldn't find it that odd.

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  • in my opinion its normal to fantasize about other people. If he's constantly doing it, then its probably a problem.

    • Not really

    • Not really what?

  • i would, thats unacceptable. he's supposed to make you feel like you turn him on, not other women. dump this kid.

    • agreed! +1

    • thanks eiffelgirl21. in no way would anyone want to feel inadequate

    • I feel the same, nice answer :)

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  • Women have been known to do it too but they don't really admit to it. If it bothers you that he does, you have to ask yourself if he's worth staying with

    • By "do it too" I mean they fantasize about the opposite sex while in a relationship (bi-sexuals may fantasize about the same sex as well)

  • He told you this? How did you learn about his sex dreams?
    Fantasy is natural. It only becomes cheating when we act it out.

  • it's common for guys to fantasize about other females, they dream about them too.

    You need to talk to him if it makes you feel uncomfortable for some reason. Did your last boyfriend cheat on you?

    • no but i have trust issues :/

  • Nothing to worry about. You will probably do it too when you want to spice up your sex life a bit. It's common for everyone.

    • do they really imagine to be fucking someone else when theyre fucking you? i have low self confidence and so this stuff kinds upsets me :/

  • There's nothing wrong with it.

    Men masturbate at hot tumblr, Twitter, or instagram photos.

    If you have a hot friend, they'd want to bang them (Doesn't mean they "will").

    Men masturbate to professional and leaked amateur p*rn.

    Girls do it too. Just accept it and move on.

  • no don't worry bout it. women think too much about small things. its ridiculous

  • No, I don't think you have much to worry about.

  • I think it should be everyone's right to fantasize about whatever and whoever they want. You can't and shouldn't control what's in his head. It's perfectly normal and you're allowed to do the same thing.

  • i am not sure about others but i fantasize about my boyfriend. guys may be different.

    • i don't think it's a form of cheating. he's in a relationship with you because he likes you

    • yah i fantasize about my boyfriend too, but im wondering if guys only (or mostly) fantasize about other girls

    • We do fantasize about our girlfriends and wives too, and more often than other girls, but we still do perv. On other women too. Otherwise the p*rn industry would be dead, not thriving. Don't worry about it unless he starts trying to act on these fantasiesto honey.

  • That's very normal. Rather than fantasizing about you, he probably just has sex with you. When it's fantasy time, that's were models and celebs come in.

  • I think all men do it, but I understand that it really bothers you. If he fantasizes about p*rn it won't go anywhere, but if you know he is fantasizing about people he knows in real life, that can be a problem.