My boyfriend watches a lot of Hentai?

[angelxo]

Well, I've known since I met my boyfriend that he watches Hentai. He doesn't watch regular p*rn & I'm extremely grateful for that. He just says he hates people & he's not usually attracted enough to real girls to want to have sex with them. He's a virgin by the way . I've watched it with him before because, shit, I think it's hot & I watch Hentai too. But he does it often & I feel like I'm not enough for him ;c he's wanted to role play Hentai with me before & stuff but ya.. Am I doing something wrong for him to be messing around with me & him still watching it? ;x

[washize]

How is your relationship otherwise?

He said a few things that distrub me.

-he hates people
-he's not usually attracted enough to real girls to want to have sex with them (does this include you?)
-He's a virgin

Hating people is never a good sign. It means that he's got anti-social characteristics that are often attributes of abusive and/or dangerous people. Is he attracted to you? Not being attracted to REAL people is also unhealthy. It can mean a TON of things, from him not respecting women as people if they have a mind of their own, to not seeing women as people (whom he hates anyways)

Being a virgin wouldn't be a problem in most cases, however a virgin guy with this mentality can have unrealistic expectations of women and sex.

If you have a HEALTHY and HAPPY relationship, then completely ignore my dribble.

If you have a HEALTHY and HAPPY relationship, your boyfriend simply has a fetish, nothing to be alarmed about.

[lonewolfdude]

doesn't watch general p*rn, oooook that's good for both of ya.
but he watches a lot of hentai... cool but still too often is not right.
he's a virgin and he's with you? o_0

about the role play, are you happy to agree what your bf wants you to do? if not, then possibly he continues to watch more. however, if you want him to lower the counts of him watching hentai, then try have sexual activity, (talking about role playing or stuff u guys usually do), that are far better than those pixel, animated hentai... if not successful, then go further deeper if you know what I mean.

[lonewolfdude]

oh, u just mention long distance, that's sucks

[angelxo]

Wait why are you suprised he's a virgin & he's with me c:? & I love trying new things so I'd be down for role playing. But ya long distance does suck.. hm I could still be doing A LOT more than what I am ;c so I guess if it gets to bother me more than it is now then I'll give more to him ^_^

[lonewolfdude]

what 26ukdude said I would agree with him. that's why im quite surprised the part that he's still virgin and all your ldr. and since u guys are ldr atm, it's really hard to roleplay and all unless cybersex *cough* lol but I guess u guys probably agreed with that already. good luck with the ldr

[willshere]

The fact that he's not attracted enough to real women should be a big red flag. It sounds like a psychological issue more than anything. Whereas p*rn can show sexually explicit acts or exaggerations, hentai creates the illusion of perfection with women. By being obsessed with images of perfect women, I'm sure your boyfriend has become disillusioned as to what a real woman would look like naked. I think you should get out before you waste too much of your time, you're too young to deal with issues like that

[angelxo]

He is but they just have to mean a lot to him. Hentai doesn't create the illusion of perfect women. Their body's vary greatly just like regular women. They're just animated. Hm, I doubt you have even watched hentai.

[willshere]

You're right, I haven't watched hentai and I'm really proud of that. I have heard about it in psych studies and it has similar effects to relationships as p*rn

[Hrothgar]

Does he have tentacles? If so, you should be La Blue Girl and defeat him with your sex ninja techniques.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Ok, here's the deal. A man watching p*rn (of any kind) has no bearing whatsoever on his desire for his girlfriend/wife/whatever. If he didn't want to be with you, he wouldn't be with you. Period.

[26ukdude]

You mention that he is a virgin, has it occured to you that because you aren't having sex that he is using it as an outlet. Perhaps if he was able to fulfill his desires with you this would help. I dont watch p*rn, but I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with no sex.

[angelxo]

Were long distance for now :/.

[angelxo]

But that makes sense, maybe I should do a little but more than what i am doing with him.

[letmeaskthis]

i don't think it could be the reason coz a lot of guys watch p*rn even though they have sex with their girlfriends...

[angelxo]

It could be, I'll try giving him more & if he still does it I'll just ask him if I'm giving him enough (:

[26ukdude]

ok, sex would help a LOT (if it was me), I mean I couldnt be in a sexless relationship. But a lot of guys will watch p*rn no matter what, personally its not for me but just be aware that most guys do, even in relationships...

[letmeaskthis]

wrong... women tend to blame themselves for anything going wrong in the relationship... could be a ton of reasons why he's into p*rn... trying to please works the opposite way you want it to...

[letmeaskthis]

not your fault... i think guys who have girlfriends and still watch p*rn ( hentai in your case) are weird...

[letmeaskthis]

what i mean to say is don't be self conscious about it... guys watch p*rn for various reasons... not because you're not giving him enough...

[Eiffelgirl21]

i agree with you

[letmeaskthis]

@Eiffelgirl21 thanks...

[COCOCHANEL]

interesting. how old is he?

[Anonymous]

I have never understood the attraction to hentai.

[angelxo]

I can't tell you why other people like it but I like it because of the innocence involved, & how you can create whatever you want. With real people you're limited.

[Opinion Owner]

I will say there is one type: 3D illustrations by Nounanka Sedai (Google it in images) which get my attention.