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What did you feel like after losing your virginity?

See I just lost it with my really amazing boyfriend. But now I feel confused or like I lost a part of me. I mean I'm very realistic and knew it wasn't going to be like the movies but like I thought it would have been better, ya know? Today I feel hollow/numb and like a different person. Why do I feel like this? I don't regret it because he is great to and for me... I just don't know if he will do it for me sexually... could I just be over worrying? Should I not worry bout it because it was my first time and my nerves probably took more importance than pleasure? People I know are all happy about losing it and all smiles and I'm just here second guessing myself. Ugh how did u fee when you lost it? I just was wondering if I'm the only one who feels like this or if something is wrong with me.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • That's a shame you seem to be a little sad that you lost it. I don't think there's anything wrong with you, but you seem to be over-thinking it a bit. Try to think of losing your virginity as merely another physical milestone, no more significant than getting your period. What do you feel worried about, or that you lost? You're still innocent in a sense, as you didn't lose it to some sort of bum who picked you up at a bar. As long as your together with someone you care about and who is good to you, everything will be fine in the long run.

    As for what I felt like after losing mine, I didn't feel all that different to be honest. I lost it to a guy who turned out to be a jack-ass and broke up with me the next day. The only difference in myself I felt was that I felt like more of a 'real' adult, seeing as how I lost it a little late at 19. I don't feel like I 'lost' something, as I still don't sleep around. It's still somewhat special to me as in I don't just sleep with randoms, so in my mind the only thing setting aside losing my v-card is that it was my first time.

    • 19 is not late ha too early I think

    • ah i know i know, I felt fine with being a virgin but it sort of got annoying when anytime sex came up in conversation with friends, they would all make me feel as though not sleeping around meant something was wrong with me, and couldn't be by choice. Eventually, after a few parties of guys coming up to me to confirm that I was, in fact, still a virgin, I was just like ah, what the hell; might as well lose it! :P

  • I pretty much just thought, "this is it, this is whats supposed to be such a big deal?" It didn't change me, it wasn't a big deal, it just felt like it had been way over hyped. I think a big part of it was that my body didn't really understand how it was supposed to feel, so it took a few times to fully tune into whats so amazing about it. Plus, you and your partner have to learn what works best for each of you. I've heard the first time with anyone regardless of being a virgin or not isn't as great as it becomes once you get to know each other better on that level (I don't know if this is true since I've only been with the one guy). It gets so much better with time though, so I wouldn't worry about it if I were you.

  • How did I feel? Honestly I didn't think anything of it. Afterwards I sat on my couch and thought "Soooo, I'm not a virgin anymore I guess." and then I went on about my day. I might of felt differently if I was emotionally connected to the guy but I barely knew him.

Most Helpful Guys

  • My first time was embarrassing. Had no clue. After I was happy I finally lost it. Being a chubby kid in high school I was the last of my friends to lose it. I lost it to my girlfriend at the time, a girl that was really hot, I was just too nervous, I was physically shak8ng because I couldnt believe it was happening. The second time 3 days later was a lot more memorable. I felt like a champ, not going to lie.

  • Are you more concerned about the loss of your virginity or " I just don't know if he will do it for me sexually?"

    Because if your worried that he sucks in bed and are conflicted because he's an awesome guy.. then that should be easy to fix, dont worry. Now that your no longer a virgin and are free to explore this side of yourself with him, you can gradually coach him on your "dos and donts"

    • probably a little bit was that. We've had sex a couple times now and even though it has gotten better and he is really good, I sometimes wish he had a bigger "pole" just cuz my toy is either as big or bigger than him and its just different... I don't know Its pretty good though :) and he is an awesome guy :)

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  • I cried after my first time. I was really mad at myself because I had this idea of how my first time should have been with someone I loved who cared for me. I got over it, but it messed with my mind for a while. He was just the wrong guy.

  • I felt changed... not in a good way, not in a bad way. But like there was no turning back, it was too late, and my innocence was no longer mine. I don't regret it either, and I am still with the man I lost it to, but I definitely felt like a different person.

  • Two thoughts:

    1. In general, sex seems to make humans feel guilty / bad. There's probably some evolutionary reason for this, but it seems pervasive.

    2. You don't know what you're doing the first 20-30 times after losing the v card. Then, with each new partner, it takes at least a dozen times to get it working in perfect harmony.

  • Believe it or not after sex I had the same look as you do in your user pic.

  • Like that "im the man" song haha no but for real though i was happy because i loved her so much and i felt a lot closer to get after that

  • I didn't really feel much different. I was kind of shocked because it just happened. I wasn't planning on losing it that night.

  • I was 17. I felt like I had taken anothe step to adulthood.

  • I've only had sex once but I still kinda feel like a virgin

  • Honestly, I kind of felt how I imagine a guy would feel - happy, relieved, and wanting to try it all over again as soon as possible.

    But I do understand what you're saying about the hollow feeling and I think that's because people have pounded into our brains that virginity is such a big deal and your first time should be the best moment of your life blah blah blah, but really it's like opening a door to a new part of life and sex will get better and more meaningful from there.

  • Guys do not lose virginity. We are simply inexperienced. I was relieved when I finally came into a warm, wet vagina. I felt like "Finally!!!"

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