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Most guys feel sympathetic, and perhaps angry at the guy (s) who did it. They may also be apprehensive of the possible mental/emotional damage that it may have caused the girl, because they don't want to be responsible for hurting her further (unintentionally), and, in a slightly more selfish reason, if a guy was dating the girl, he'd hope to be able to have a fairly normal sexual relationship with her, and some girls simply can't do that easily, or at all, after being raped.But very, very few guys would ever blame the girl, or be disgusted, or think she's "damaged goods". The ones who DO think like that would think the same about girls who weren't virgins for ANY reason - such guys think they "deserve" a virgin somehow. The point is, such guys are so selfish and self-centered that you wouldn't want them anyway.
Many, I believe, are sympathetic. However, victim blaming is engrained into everyone, it seems, and I know a lot of people ask "what was she wearing/did she drink/she wanted it". Most men don't understand that only 2% of legal rape accusations are false, and something like less than 1% of all accusations (including those kept mostly secret) are found to be untrue. If you trust a guy, though, he should be sympathetic and supportive of whatever you need. It's rare for a man to be disgusted by a woman who has been raped, but it's unusual for them to automatically believe women, too. It's really sad, but. Honestly, if you're with a good guy, you should be just fine with him.What scares me, personally, is the sympathy itself. I haven't been raped but I was sexually assaulted as a child and while it doesn't impact my views around sex today and I am a healthy, happy, healed person in all respects, I worry that if I had a boyfriend and told him, he'd be too worried. You know? I don't want pity. The way people's faces just melt into this "that is so tragic and I am so sorry" expression... I don't call myself a victim and I don't want people to think that I went through something horrible, even though technically I did. I just want to be seen as who I am, not what's been done to me. I'm the choices I make and the things I do and the people I love and the places I go. We are who we are and we're beautiful as is, I promise.
I feel very bad for the person that got raped be it a woman or a man and yes a man can get raped, albeit it is rare but it does still happen. I personally hope that any guy that rapes anyone then has his dick cut off and shoved right up his ass so he will know what it feels like to get raped. I also hope he or she but mostly he spends a long time in prison for what he did. I also wouldn't mind being with a female that has been raped as I would never do that to any female and I would do everything I could for her to try to get her to feel better especially just being there to hold her and reassure her that she is safe forever in my arms as I would never let her get raped ever again.
How do guys feel about girls who have been raped?I find guys claim they are 'sympathetic' however most of these same guys in my observations/experiences have been they default to not believing her, if they do believe her hold her responsible/accountable for it, and generally opt her out of being dating/relationship material as guys seem to think her rape may affect how much and what type of sex they get. I state most as there are a few who can be perceived as sympathetic by telling her it's not her fault even if she did kiss the guy, she was on a date with him, she wanted it in the beginning, was drink (I state perceive as the whole 'even if' seems a bit victim-blaming to me).
Of course I feel bad that it happened to her, but it doesn't affect what I think of her. I have and would date , marry a girl that was raped, don't let it hold u back. Almost every woman I've ever met has been raped.
REALLY DEPENDS ON THE GUY WE ARE TALKING ABOUT HERE. MAINLY WE WOULD FEEL THE NEED TO AVOID HAVING SOMETHING SEXUAL WITH THE GIRL SINCE SHE MIGHT HAE A TRAUMA. IF HAVING SOMETHING SEXUAL WITH THE GIRL IS A GOAL, THEN WE FIND OUR SELVES VER INSECURE, NOT SURE, AND MAKING EVERY MOVE AS CAREFULLY AS POSIBLE.
I would feel bad for them if they really did get raped. If I knew her I would help her out and protect her.
Sympathetic and damaged a tad, it wouldn't in any way shape or form discourage me from dating her, i would try and make her feel more safe around me at all times though, that may help her
Heartbroken, and if I love her, I will commit to loving her through the healing, which I know can take years and even decades. It's not that she's damaged goods, but she is wounded, and it takes considerable understanding and a lot of time to heal.
my gf was abused at a very young age and when i first found out i was furious. the thought of it gets me extremely angry, and tempts me to hurt the one responsible for doing that to her.
Certainly no reason to be disgusted. But I am only saying from perspective of seeing her as a girl; not someone I plan to be with because I am already married.Sympathetic would come only if she suffered for no fault of hers.
Certainly sympathetic. Definitely not damaged goods
Why would ANYONE be disgusted by someone who was raped? That is just stupid!
Sympathetic. Why would I be disgusted or feel like she's damaged goods? It wasn't her fault!
Sympathetic definitely. And if it is someone close to them, there's also a strong urge to protect her too.
Sympathetic. Not disgusted.
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