Why did my fuck buddy cuddle with me all night the first time we had sex, but after that it never happened again?

[Anonymous]

He is my friend/coworker, both of us just got out of relationships and one night after the bars we just decided to have sex. I don't want a relationship and he knows that. The first morning we woke up together he kept kissing the top of my head and cuddled with me. This hasn't happened since, which is different. I'm not mad or anything about it, were still good friends. Is there a reason for this?

[witzelsucht]

Well, females don't corner the market on intimate feelings. Since the dude had been drinking it was easier for him to forget his former entanglement and concentrate on you. However, since you work with him and you two are probably familiar with each other, he may really be fond of you but just too meek to show it, but again since you work together that could make things sticky for the job. I don't know what your local culture is like, but you might ask him out on a date if you wanted, but you must be sure he is really over and done with his previous love interest and it is not still smouldering. Nevertheless, you may be just what he needs to recover from that relationship.

[islands7]

Yes, he was reliving what he used to do with his lover
and since has changed - my guesses:
> he's afraid you'll get weird if he acts like a lover instead of friends with benefits as agreed - then will lose you
> he's decided reenactment as lover should be reserved for her
> he misses her & has subconsciously drawn a line between past behavior and this

[Troian]

Because for many people, you don't just do the sex part. I had one night stand or just sex things with some guys, it didn't stop us to cuddle. It's not a relationship but it's still an intimate act. I personally knew the difference and it felt good when the guy cuddled me and kissed me, it didn't mean he had feelings for me

[Argus14]

1. Maybe it's just something he is used to doing and did it without thinking about it. He realized this and stopped.

2. Maybe he wanted to go another round in the morning

3. Maybe he felt he was obligated to in order to not make you feel like you were a slut or something.

There's probably more but I can't think of them right now.