Girls - Is a lap dance with dry humping cheating?

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Girls - Is a lap dance with dry humping cheating?

Anonymous

Hi Girls,

Do you call what happened to me cheating? Should I tell my girlfriend?

I got targeted by one stripper last night and:

1. She Dry humped me with just my boxers on
2. She Dry humped my face
3. I Kissed her with tongue while she was dry humping me
4. She was kissing my neck and messing up my hair while dry humping me

I'm still thinking about what happened. I need your opinion. Thanks!

Updates:

+1 y

Ok, I see I'm in the wrong here. This really happened a few nights ago, no trolling, no joking. The stripper is my age and likes cute guys her age coming into the club.

FYI younger guys, the younger strippers love cute younger guys their age.

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To answerer Arwens-Fire: Sorry for not answering back on Saturday and Sunday. I have a life, friends, and full drinking days during March Madness. lol

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Arwens-Fire
Guru

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Yes. It is cheating. Think to yourself for a moment, would you be comfortable with your girlfriend going to a strip club and a male dancer is grinding on her and putting his penis in her face. Would that make you comfortable? Would you feel okay with that? So its the same situation here.

And lets be REAL for a second. The stripper didn't "target" you. You ALLOWED it to happen. If a MAN "targeted" you and started grinding on you, I'm sure you would have had him OFF of you in less than one second! Meaning, if she was able to do all of what you mentioned, its because YOU allowed it to happen because you didn't STOP it. You allowed this situation to happen before you even walked in the club. Why? Because you already KNOW what happens in strip clubs...and yet you went anyway. Its a haven for possible infidelity.

I've never understood the moral aspects of going to these places If people are in relationships. If someone else is grinding on you, putting their boobs, butt, and vagina in your face and causing you to become aroused, in my humble opinion...that is CHEATING. If its not your girlfriend, its cheating.

If a guy ever allowed a situation like this to happen that I'm dating, thats immediate grounds for dismissal. I wouldn't think about being with someone who I can't trust to deal with the situation at hand. If you cringe at the idea if someone else being physical in such a way with your girlfriend, then you know you are dead wrong bro.

Good luck.

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- Arwens-Fire
  
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  Being that the QA is suddenly MIA and has a ton of responses, I am almost convinced this is a trolling question.😒
- Asker
  
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  Ok, I see I'm in the wrong here. This really happened a few nights ago, no trolling, no joking. The stripper is my age and likes cute guys her age coming into the club.
- Asker
  
  +1 y
  Sorry for not answering back on Saturday and Sunday. I have a life, friends, and full drinking days during March Madness.
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- Arwens-Fire
  
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  Okay. You're still a hot mess though.😒👎
- Asker
  
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  I can admit that.
xHoneyxBeex
Master

+1 y

Yes, I would definitely consider that cheating. How would you feel if the situation was reversed and your girlfriend did that with another guy? It's not okay and she deserves to know. What she does with this information is completely up to her, but she should still know about what happened.

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lumos
Master

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If you have to ask - yes, that's cheating. You were dry humping her and kissing her. Would you be okay with your girlfriend doing those things to another guy? I doubt it. So yes, you are a cheating scumbag. And it didn't "happen to you", you DID it. You didn't push her away or say no. You went with it. You weren't "targeted", you're not some kind of victim. Your girlfriend deserves someone better.

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Casper286
Xper 7

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First off, you weren't targeted. Second off, imagine the situation in verse, imagine a male stripper doing that to your girlfriend. Would you be ok if your girlfriend and a male stripper did that? You should just come clean and tell your girlfriend what happened.

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torikoryn
Xper 5

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It's one thing to go to the club and get a lap dance from a stripper. Totally within boundaries. Making out with said stripper and actually getting intimate... That's fucking cheating, you're a dumbass, I hope she gives you herpes.

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- cavmanier
  
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  You don't think grinding his boner against her crouch is cheating, in boxers lol?
- torikoryn
  
  +1 y
  A strip club is a strip club haha. I've been to one. It's not that big of a deal.. Just women doing what they're good at to make a living. If every taken guy stayed out of strip clubs, the strippers would be damn broke.
- cavmanier
  
  +1 y
  But the striper kissing him is cheating?
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- torikoryn
  
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  Umm.. Kissing is cheating. Getting a lap dance from someone you are paying is completely different. Dancing is dancing. Kissing is kissing.
- cavmanier
  
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  I guess I just don't think dry humping is dancing. I think it's more sexual than a kiss. Also if you go to the back room with a striper (Ipretty sure he did) they do make out with the guy a lot of times and it's really just part of the service he's paying for.
Account
Master

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Of course it's cheating. Would you consider it cheating if she dry humped another dude? And yes, you should tell her.
I don't think a relationship should be based on lies and false pretenses.

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lonerider
Explorer

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basically... checking out any other girl is technically cheating. anything, and i mean ANYTHING more than this, classifies as cheating. It totally depends on your morals, upbringing, loyalty, mutual understanding and skill of lying that where you set the limit.

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marebear22
Xper 6

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I think a good rule of thumb would be to ask yourself if the roles were reversed, how would you feel? If it was your girlfriend/wife who was getting a lap dance from a male stripper and all that happened, would you think she cheated on you?

It also depends on the relationship you have and what you as a couple consider to be cheating.

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myspacemybroke
Guru

+1 y

Well, give it some thought. If your girl went to a club, and some mad ripped male stripper dry humped and made out with her would you be thrilled about it?

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- Casper286
  
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  Bingo
sovetskii13
Master

+1 y

I think that anything dirty, intimate with another person while in a relationship with someone else is cheating.
In a relationship = Being intimate or more only with that person.

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maiez
Guru

+1 y

Yeah its cheating if you had only boxers on, she humped your face, you kissed her. That is all cheating. Its really not a good thing to do if you are in a relationship, probably one of the worst things you can do.

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boystroubles101
Xper 3

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i would break up with you in a second i was your girlfriend...unless she's the type that doesn't care..but you kissed her aswell all the dry humping..seriously? if u have to ask if its bad..then it probably is

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thecd1979
Xper 7

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It sounds to me like you just aren't that into your girlfriend if your over at a strip club. Maybe you need to re evaluate the relationship and decide what you really want.

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IrishSprings
Xper 4

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You wasn't targeted, simple as that. It was consensual.
I would consider that cheating.
The thing is, your in a relationship and going to a strip club? Your setting yourself up for a lustful scene with uncontrollable actions.

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Anonymous

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Haha, "targeted by"...you make it sound like you were restrained and had no choice but to endure it :P You could have told her, "No thanks, I have a girlfriend".
Yes, I would consider this cheating.

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Izzy2102
Yoda

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It depends, but in your case def cheating. Why on earth would you kiss her if you have a girlfriend, you could have politley asked her to go away but you didn't so def a deal breaker

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musicbrain5
Master

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Yeah that's cheating and not acceptable in a relationship.

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swagswagswag
Xper 5

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LMAO Why the fuck would you even make out with a stripper in the first place? She's a fucking stripper..

And you made out with her, how is that even a question lmao, no shit you cheated on her dumbass.

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Rissyanne
Guru

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Targeted? What does that mean? Unless she held a gun to your head...you cheated on your girlfriend.

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Dzindzer
Xper 7

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Wow you were not targeted!! You should definitely tell your girlfriend. Good luck :)

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Meow3323
Xper 5

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is this even a question? yeah. it's cheating. hope your girlfriend leaves you and finds a nice guy. douche

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kaitlovesyou
Yoda

+1 y

Yea, it's something intimate that she didn't agree to you. It wouldn't if she said you could

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SuperPerve
Xper 6

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Im going to say it how it is.

If you're asking this question, you know the answer.

This is pretty average behaviour and absolutely cheating

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Anonymous

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How'd you end up with just your boxers on, troll? lol

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- Asker
  
  +1 y
  Ok, I see I'm in the wrong here. This really happened a few nights ago, no trolling, no joking. The stripper is my age and likes cute guys her age coming into the club.
  
  Some strip clubs have private rooms, ever been to one?
- Opinion Owner
  
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  Yeah, I've had private lap dances. But I've never ended up in my skivvies either hahaha
- Asker
  
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  Dude, you need to find another club. I'm not the first guy it happened to and not the last guy it will happen to. Maybe its the culture of the town I live in.
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- Opinion Owner
  
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  I've been to 3 different clubs in my state, 2 in other states, 3 in Europe , and 1 in Asia...I'm pretty sure YOU are the rookie here ;)
- Opinion Owner
  
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  Scratch that, 2 in Asia. I keep forgetting that Japan is actually an Asian country lol
- Asker
  
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  This is the second time it happened to me at this club. But the first time was with a stripper I grew up with. Yes, she is hot too. That's why she makes a ton.
- Opinion Owner
  
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  Well I've been propositioned at maybe half the clubs I've been to. But for the context of this question, it's a no-brainer that you cheated on your girlfriend.
Anonymous

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Yes you should tell your girl friend you kissed her that's not good, did you like it im sure you did or you wouldn't be asking this question.

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- Asker
  
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  I girlfriend doesn't even know I went to the club. Should i still tell her. What happens at the club stays at the club?
Anonymous

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what that fuck ,, would you like it if she did that to you with a really hot guy?

i think it IS cheating!

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RaspberryDelicious
Xper 5

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Is this a serious question? You've got to be joking here.

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- Asker
  
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  Ok, I see I'm in the wrong here. This really happened a few nights ago, no trolling, no joking. The stripper is my age and likes cute guys her age coming into the club.
  
  FYI younger guys, the younger strippers love cute younger guys their age.
lamebabe
Explorer

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How could this NOT be considered cheating? Are you serious? OMG..

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Slimart
Xper 6

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Lol it's not cheating..in my opinion but don't expect her not to do the same with a male stripper

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tiredofwaiting
Guru

+1 y

Yes definitely it is cheating.

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chopper1977
Xper 5

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Yeah, you cheated.

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alliecheergirl123
Explorer

+1 y

You definitely...CHEATED

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cavmanier
Master

+1 y

Do you think she has to get pregnant or something?

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- marebear22
  
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  Lol. That's funny b/c you know that there's people out there that will actually say, "its only cheating if she gets pregnant".
bubbiexo
Yoda

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Yep. You would be gone SO fast.

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LoveQueen
Xper 3

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HAHAHA HELL YEAH IT'S CHEATING !!!

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LoneWolf21
Xper 6

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Oh, no, that's not cheating at all... smdh

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harakiri
Guru

+1 y

Yup. That's nasty.

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Anonymous

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Tell her. I would consider it cheating.

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vertigo3201
Xper 7

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You cheated. It's not that hard to figure out.

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Anonymous

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Not only are you an asshole. You're also braindead

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pooper89
Guru

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Yes it's cheating.

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Anonymous

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Yup. Cheating.

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larry69
Guru

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Its cheating!

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wildwolfxoxo Xper 5 · Accepted Answer

Wow. I'm almost convinced this is a joke because of how ridiculous this is. First of all, strip clubs are mainly full of single guys, or bored men who have been married to the same woman for 50 years. But if you're just dating, seriously? Is going to the strip club really necessary? Secondly, you are 100% in the wrong. You say she targeted you? And then what? You decide instead of saying no thanks, you go off in the back with her. Then somehow you now have your pants off and are down to your boxers, now this girl is all over you, touching you intimately which the only person who should ever be allowed to do that is your girlfriend, AND THEN YOU KISSED HER! As if everything else wasn't bad enough, then you go and start making out with her while she's rubbing her naked body all over you. And then you come on her and SERIOUSLY ask if that was cheating?

Yes, i think you should tell your girlfriend, tell her everything that happened, and i hope when you do she breaks up with you so maybe you'll learn your lesson, that being "that guy," is not worth it. You screwed your girlfriend over big time and you should be ashamed of yourself.

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