I haven't felt pleasure during sex yet?

[Anonymous]

I have been with this guy for 8 months and I lost my virginity to him. I love him very much and I am attracted to him and I am comfortable with him. However, I haven't felt pleasure during sex yet! We have had sex 5 times now, it still hurts a little bit, but I've heard of other girls who feel pleasure at the same time as pain. I haven't felt anything though which really frustrates me because I love him and I want to feel pleausure by him other than oral and fingering. Fingering feels good but only when he does it, and he has made me orgasm by oral. Is there something wrong with me or do i just have to wait a little longer and be patient? I'm getting worried that I'll never be able to feel pleasure through sex or that maybe it will only feel good unprotected. I don't know. It's just a thought - but opinions and thoughts please? It's appreciated!

[Red_Arrow]

Some women take longer to achieve pleasure from intercourse alone, some never reach it. The solution is simple. There needs to be clitoral stimulation while he is in you. If he is entering from behind, he can reach around and do this. If He is in front, it will be easier if you do it. And do not think that it is something that he has to make happen alone. You can help. And you should enjoy climaxing, even if you are stimulating things, while feeling him inside. Often, couples find the 'right' moves and the woman starts having orgasms without stimulating herself.

[Cheeky_Unfortunate]

It's a pressure issue. Horrible question that you may not want to answer:

Have you ever masturbated with anything larger than his penis and did you feel anything?

If yes, I think I know something that may help. If no, good, then that means that for whatever reason pressing against your walls just isn't your thing and you probably need more localized stimulation. Penises can't do that.

[Asker]

No, I haven't. And I did hear that certain positions can help get that localized stimulation, but I don't know if my problem is just because it hasn't been many times or not! Ugh, I don't want to be doomed to only feeling pleasure from fingering and oral. :( Thank you though

[Cheeky_Unfortunate]

Sure.

[Anonymous]

It hurt the first few times I had sex. After about 8 times it started to feel really good though. Maybe after a few more tries, also go a few days between. If you have a tear in your vagina it will give it time to heal.

[Asker]

Thank you! This made me feel better, I hope it is the same for me

[marebear22]

When I first had sex my hymen didn't break all the way so when I had sex after that it would always hurt. I had surgery to fix it and sex was awesome after that.

[timetowaste]

Spend more time on foreplay, make sure you have some lube on hand, and try to relax.

[godfatherfan]

That is a tough one. If you have tried different positions and you said he can give you an orgasm orally, things should at least feel good. Many women can't orgasm through penetration so if that is what your asking about then that may never happen. That is why I always make sure to finish my partner orally before I finish so she is never disappointed.
I think only the ladies are going to be able to give insight on this one.

[Anonymous]

Sex with guys suck so yeah no shocker here

[shacodraco]

Agreed. Never tried it but just seems like it would suck.

[Tractorbeam]

I see it all, she loves another. Get revenge, fuck her brother.