Girls: Does not having an orgasm when being intimate cause you to become sexually frustrated?

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I've read some posts where some of the women on here say that even though they don't have an orgasm, they still are happy or satisfied. Well recently, I've been intimate with my girl but she didn't have an orgasm (she rarely does). She the type of girl that everything has to be right in order for her to have one (as the Hodgetwins would say "The sun has to be shining in the way place, wind has to be blowing the right way, stars have to be aligned"). She say she doesn't even know how to make herself c*m when self pleasing. Obviously, I want to do all that I can to please her because it gives me confidence to know that I can please her and it saves me from worrying that she'll leave me because I can't satisfy her or cheat on me because of it. It's a true challenge to get her to orgasm and in the year an half that we've been together, I'm thinking that I've made her orgasm a hand full of times (if that). Crazy huh? The problem with me now is that I'm feeling miserable about not being able to make her orgasm and now she's starting to say "I'm sexually frustrated" and it's creating worry on my end. We both lost our virginity together, now I feel that she always wanted was an experienced guy.

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laurkattt

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For me not having an orgasm doesn't get me sexually frustrated, but having just come out of a relationship when my ex and I BASICALLY lost our virginities to each other (I took his, I had had sex once before we started dating, so had really no experience), I know that for a while I was pretty sexually frustrated because it just seemed like we both had no idea what we were doing and there was no improvement. If you guys are making sure you change things up often she shouldn't be too sexually frustrated. Also girls are a lot hornier than guys think, so I'd try some dirty talk, sexting (if you dont already), getting high and fucking, and generally asking her what she's into / wants without holding anything back. If you keep things interesting, she won't want to cheat, but I remember in my relationship for a while I wanted a "hall pass" because I wanted more experience to bring to our relationship. there's only so much you can learn with one person.

I feel like i didn't answer your question lol

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Anonymous

losing your virginity together is something which is beautiful...you know my boyfriend too has not been able to give me an orgasm since now..we have been together since more than a year...but when i masturbate its sure that i can have an orgasm on my own..once i've been masturbating in front of my man because he said that in this way he would be able to know the right spot...he then tried by fingering me..i nearly cummed (but didn't orgasm)..but feels good this way also...its not good that she says that she's getting frustrated because of you..i mean you love her and is trying your best to give her some pleasure..try to have a conversation with her

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At least you feel comfortable masturbating in front of your man. My girl isn't comfortable with that at all. Has only allowed me to finger her once. I've had numerous conversation about this with her. It's getting to the point where I just feel we're not compatible for each other.
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give her some time till she gets used to it (i mean to let you masturbate her or her masturbating in front of you)

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Asker

At least you feel comfortable masturbating in front of your man. My girl isn't comfortable with that at all. Has only allowed me to finger her once. I've had numerous conversation about this with her. It's getting to the point where I just feel we're not compatible for each other.

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Opinion Owner

give her some time till she gets used to it (i mean to let you masturbate her or her masturbating in front of you)

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Hyped_up_on_coffee | 2.5K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

Well yes. This is why i ditch guys who don't make me happy

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Is that sarcasm?
Hyped_up_on_coffee

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nopes

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Is that sarcasm?

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Hyped_up_on_coffee

nopes

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SüßeJäger | 1.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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I think it depends on the girl. I was with one girl that never orgasmed with intercourse from any guy and she was very difficult to get to orgasm in any way. She never got frustrated at all, I guess she was kinda used to it. I was the one that got frustrated lol but not in a bad way, I just really wanted it to be better for her. We tried everything and it was always very difficult for her to orgasm and when she did, it took FOREVER. It can make a relationship difficult. Another girl, orgasmed very easily. You could almost kiss her neck and she was done lol. That made it exciting.

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This is exactly the way I feel when pleasing her and our relationship. It's much more exciting to be with a girl that is easier to please for sure. Wish my girl was that way. I feel that we're incompatible for each other.
SüßeJäger

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Yes it makes a great sexual relationship. The very first time we were together, I only lasted maybe 2 minutes at best lol (pretty bad I know but I was way turned on) but to my astonishment, she O'd twice in that time! Of course we foreplayed for a while so she was really hot too.

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Asker

This is exactly the way I feel when pleasing her and our relationship. It's much more exciting to be with a girl that is easier to please for sure. Wish my girl was that way. I feel that we're incompatible for each other.

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SüßeJäger

Yes it makes a great sexual relationship. The very first time we were together, I only lasted maybe 2 minutes at best lol (pretty bad I know but I was way turned on) but to my astonishment, she O'd twice in that time! Of course we foreplayed for a while so she was really hot too.

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Anonymous

It's your obvious insecurity and ability to relax and let HER enjoy the sex for what it is, that is going to drive her away. Not your inability to give her an orgasm.

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I may be insecure when it comes to pleasing her but I definitely don't have a problem to relax. If anyone would need to relax, it would be her. She's told me there's always a ton of things going on in her head when being intimate. It won't be because my cause of her being pushed away but hers.

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Asker

I may be insecure when it comes to pleasing her but I definitely don't have a problem to relax. If anyone would need to relax, it would be her. She's told me there's always a ton of things going on in her head when being intimate. It won't be because my cause of her being pushed away but hers.

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Anonymous

It doesn't make me sexually frustrated, but for some reason it makes me really nauseous.

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Anonymous

It can make me feel that way, but if I was her id figure out how to get myself off so she could show you

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