Does being very handsome make a guy indifferent and lazy towards women?

[Anonymous]

I feel like a lot of the hot guys I know are lazy and tend to wait for girls to run after them because they will. The hot guys I know are surrounded by girls. Is this true?

[MrOracle]

I think the real word you are looking for here is SELFISH, and yes, that is mostly true (obviously, the occasional exception exists). Of course, it's equally true with very beautiful women: most are selfish. Why? Simple: because they CAN. When you have tons of attractive people throwing themselves at you, it's VERY easy to be selfish, lazy, and very self-centered.

This is why, for example, really attractive men (celebs, band members, rich guys, guys with "Abercrombie" looks, etc.) sleep with tons of women and rarely even pretend to be monogamous - because they CAN, and obviously, because the are selfish and they want to. And no girl is going to change that with this type of guy. A few guys may EVENTUALLY, after 20 years of sleeping around, decide that they want a relationship with more substance, but that will be HIS choice, arrived at on his own.

The ironic thing is that these are the guys that most women want, yet they're also the type of guys that treat those same women the worst. Women love them because they are so "Alpha Male" and "bad boy", but they forget that bad boys are BAD, and that sooner or later, usually sooner, the "bad" is going to be directed at HER.

[Anonymous]

Somewhat true which is why girls should take the initiative too... one girl had a crush on me and I just waited around for her to do something and then I lost her. I kinda regret it but then again I'm kinda shy too but being cocky is just a cover I use to conceal my shyness.

[Asker]

What should I do? I want to have sex bc he's so hot but I'm not a one night stand kind of girl and I don't know him well enough to see if I would like his personality. He almost seems to have a good for sex personality but we chat and he's entertaining also. Is it good that he chats me up? What do I do? I just want to get to know him better without seeming too eager like every other female.

[Opinion Owner]

Just ask him if he wants to hang out grab a bit to eat or something after class. I assume you go to school together?

[Asker]

He chats with me we just met but I'm scared of rejection haha. He's not in my class

[Opinion Owner]

Don't be scared. Why are so many people scared of rejection the worst that can happen is the other person says no. It will feel a lot worse if neither of you make a move (assuming he likes you too).

[Asker]

Well he chats me up but he can get tons of girls.

[Opinion Owner]

It doesn't matter if he can get tons of girls if he's chatting you up then he prob likes you. Try touching him on the shoulder and see how he responds. Small subtle things like that or tease him.

[Asker]

What can I do to find out if he likes me?

[Arwens-Fire]

I have to agree with this. a lot of the guys I know that are attractive they dont feel the need to chase a girl because he already KNOWS she will...or another girl will.

[BrunetteNYC]

It seems to be the case, like they act more cocky and are more lazy LOL

[islands7]

Nooooooo
some are more picky but stupid in picking
others do have flocks of fans but still searching

[Cheeky_Unfortunate]

Yes. Why work to chase sheep more than willing to come to you for the slaughter?

[AndyWes]

He's got great game, that's what gives.

Most men find that once they make a woman chase them, they're gold. Why pursue women if you don't have to? After all, who likes rejection. Or work.

[Prof_Don]

Definitely does… mainly due to inflated ego.

[pooper89]

From what I've noticed it does

[RealityCheckTime]

Yes it does. Why work for it when it just comes to you?

Also, it takes a much more amazing girl to get any kind of reaction.

[SuitAndTie]

You could also say the hot guys know how good looking they are so they just end up going for any girl they want without thinking twice. That could be another reason why the hot guys you know are surrounded by girls.

[Asker]

Well in his case I see girls running up to him constantly.

[SuitAndTie]

How do you know these girls didn't know him beforehand? As in, how do you know he didn't approach these girls previously?

[Asker]

A friend of mine in his class said girls always chase him

[kalrodkal]

I think so

[Anonymous]

I mean I don't stand at the mirror and gaze at myself or anything, but I know that I'm not bad looking due to my success with dating attractive women. It doesn't make me lazy or anything, it just makes me less tolerant for games. I am not going to jump through hoops to court some chick. I wouldn't even do that if I was ugly. Expectations of a partner these days are beyond ridiculous. I just don't know why people can't just be normal and 50-50 in relationships like it's intended to be.