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It’s time to stop pretending abortion is always a guilt-ridden, difficult decision.
I was inspired to write this MyTake after reading this article that popped up in my Facebook feed this morning.
It was written by a woman who had an abortion and – gasp! – did not regret it nor feel bad about it. It was such a breath of fresh air to read. Not every woman who has an abortion feels guilty about it. Not every woman who makes that choice finds it a difficult choice to make. But for too friggin long, women have been socially pressured into furthering the narrative that abortion is always a difficult decision, fraught with moral difficulties. The reality is that for many women, that simply is not the case. I truly believe that a lot of the time when women say it was a hard decision to make, they’re just saying what they’re expected to say. Any woman who truly believes there is a moral line being crossed by choosing abortion would quite likely not make that choice in the end. I honestly believe most women who make that choice do so without moral qualm, and rightly so. In the early stages of pregnancy, which is when the vast majority of abortions are performed, the “baby” is little more than a parasitic bundle of cells. It’s not a person. It doesn’t feel things or think things or have any sense of being. At that stage of development it is physically comparable to a tumour. Removing it does not end a life and it does not cause pain. All it does is give the unconsenting host her freedom back.
I am sick and tired of this bullshit narrative that anti-abortion advocates continue to force on society that abortion is always a difficult decision. It’s not. And it’s time for women to stop bowing to the social pressure that forces them to pretend it is. It’s time for women who have had abortions to stand up and say “you know what? It was the right decision and I feel GOOD about the decision I made”. For anyone here who has had an abortion and knows full well it was the right decision – you are not a bad person or morally bankrupt because you feel good about the decision you made!!! You chose to make a responsible decision by not bringing a child into this world that you could not care for properly or who you may have grown to resent. The world has enough pain and suffering as it is. We have enough unwanted children who are abused and neglected and forgotten. Every child deserves to be WANTED.
Anti-abortionists like to label themselves “pro-life” but they’re not. They are pro-birth. If they truly cared about LIFE, they’d care about QUALITY of life with equal fervor. But they don’t. They care more about punishing women than they do about saving children.
I know I am going to get a lot of angry comments on this Take, but before you lambast me as morally corrupt, or call me a baby killer, or tell me how evil abortion is, I ask you: just how many unwanted children have you adopted? How many unwanted children have you fed and clothed? How much of your time, energy and money have YOU given to the hundreds of thousands of children who are rotting in the foster care system? How many impoverished single mothers and their children have you fed and sheltered?
If you TRULY care about children, you’d care about them being wanted and cared for and loved. You wouldn’t force women to give birth to children they either cannot or do not want to care for.
I have never had an abortion – I have been lucky enough not to have fallen pregnant. But you can bet your holier-than-thou ass that I would. My partner and I have no desire to have children. We take every precaution not to, but sometimes precautions fail, and if my birth control were to fail me I would not hesitate to have a bundle of cells removed from my uterus. And I would not feel bad about that decision. And I would not pretend do just to save face.
Social Conservatives are constantly shilling this narrative of the guilt-stricken abortion choose and it’s time for women who’ve made that choice to stand up to them and say “NOT ME.” Stop letting them tell your story, and stop letting them pressure you into giving lip-service to guilt that isn’t there.
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