How Porn/Masturbation is Ruining Your Life & Your Relationships!

In recent time, watching porn and practice of masturbation has increase drastically in our generation especially among the youth. This can be trace down to the easy access of pornographic materials in the internet through computer and mobile phones. And a lot of porn website are available for accessibility with daily updates of assorted porn videos, and the more you watch, the more you want to watch and before you know it , you are trapped to it, it becomes a habit difficult to break. Porn and masturbation are like brothers, they go hand in hand. Porn viewers are prone to masturbation. A lot of young people (mostly men ) indulge in this act without knowing the implication. They end up suffering from the ugly side effect without even knowing the root of their problem.


Below, I will tell you some side effects of watching porn and masturbation and a natural way to cure yourself from them if you are already a victim.

1. Erectile dysfunction

This is the inability of a man to obtain a full erection when about to have sex with a woman. Excessive porn and masturbation does mess with your ability to get turned on in real, intimate situations. You discover you only get a full erection while watching porn but when with a woman you will have a weak or no erection. This is because your brain has been wire through excessive porn and masturbation to believe that all you need to satisfy your sexual urge is to feed yourself with porn and masturbate . Our brain is like a fertile land, whatever you plant on it (whether good or bad ) is what you will harvest. Some people when they experience this porn induces erectile dysfunction ( which is very embarrassing ) feels the best thing is to forget about women and focus on further watching of porn and masturbation thereby causing more damages .

2. Premature Ejaculation (5 seconds man)

This is a situation whereby a guy ejaculates too early when with a woman. Here, ejaculate can take place sometimes even before penetration ( during pre-intimacy ) or too soon after penetration, after which the man becomes weak and unable to achieve another erection. This problem is likely experience by people who stating masturbation at an early age. This is because you have train your nervous system to ejaculate very quickly (or while partially erect). When you are younger, while masturbating you want to ejaculate quickly because of the fear of being caught by your parents or siblings. So you teach your mind that when you are hard your job is to ejaculate as quickly as possible and not relax and enjoy the long sensation. Over the years of masturbation, your brain has been wire to believe that the response to an erection is quick ejaculation. When with a real woman you will notice you still experience same thing.

3. Delayed ejaculation (low sensation)

This is a situation where a man is unable to achieve orgasm/ejaculation when having sex with a woman. Delay ejaculation often go in hand with weak erection and it's cause by prolong porn and masturbation coupled with holding back ejaculation. Holding back ejaculation while masturbation is when a man stimulates his penis with his hand or whatever he does that with to a point of release and then stops, wait until the sensation comes down, after which he resumes again and repeat same for several minutes or hours before finally allowing himself to ejaculation , this act is called EDGING . This is done to elongate the masturbation session to enjoy it more. The reason you're unable to ejaculate during sex with a woman is because you are completely desensitized. The level of sensation which you are suppose to have while having sex with a woman is low due to over-stressed sexual nerve. When you wash a new cloth all the time (whether it's dirty or not) it fades away or depreciate and becomes like an old cloth. That's it .

4. Weakness (low testosterone)

In men testosterone is a hormone produced primarily in the testicles. It is what makes a man to be a man. Testosterone in men is responsible for larger muscles, stronger bone, hair growth, deeper voice and a stronger sex. Women also produce testosterone in the ovaries and adrenal glands , but at a lower levels than men, that's why they have smaller muscles, softer voice, less hairy and a weaker sex drive. Testosterone as said is produce in the testicles in men that's why if a man is castrated he loses all the powers of a man and becomes like a woman. When a man ejaculates, he loses some amount of his testosterone. That is the reason why you experience weakness after ejaculation. People who indulge in excessive masturbation are likely to suffer a low testosterone. That is when you see a man of 27yrs looking like a 17yrs old boy, or a man with a behavioral attributes of a woman.

5. Loneliness

People (man/woman) who indulge in watching porn and masturbation often end up lonely and depressed. They rather prefer to stay indoor for a week or more with their computer or phone viewing all assorted sets of porn and masturbating on them rather than go out to meet real people. Due to this they grow to be uncomfortable around real people especially the opposite sex.

6. Severe social anxiety

This is the inability to be confidence and relax while in public. People (male and female) who are into acute porn and masturbation are prone to have low self esteem. They have problem of inferiority complex when among their peers. This is as a result of all the above other listed problems induce by porn and masturbation, it puts the victim in a life of shame and embarrassment. You hear your peers talking about their different real sex experiences , you feel bad because you know it's embarrassing to share your own porn and masturbation sessions with them. You know you are having problem but you are ashame to discuss it with anybody.

The above problems as long as it is induce by porn/masturbation cannot be cured medically by drugs. It is a psychological problem and can only be correct by a psychological treatment. Your brain has been sexually wired wrongly and needs to be rewired correctly to it's normal form. The method of re-wiring your brain here is known as REBOOTING . It is a system whereby you wipe out from your brain all the wrongs you have input in it about sex . When your brain is now neutral , you can then input the right things about sex and you will see that all your problems will vanish.

It is practically like formatting a phone or like clearing the weeds on a fertile land and replacing it with good plants. Sounds magical? Don't worry I will tell you how it is done. In case you are waiting for me to give you set of rules you will not find them - other than: "No porn/ No masturbation/No sex/ No any kind of artificial sexual stimulation for 90 days" By artificial I mean sexual pix, audio and literature. Also no porn substitutes allowed, such as: surfing woman pictures on Facebook or dating sites, cruising Craigslist, underwear ads, YouTube videos, "erotic literature", etc.

Some people might say that's very difficult or impossible, how can I not watch porn, masturbate or have sex for a whole 90 days? Yes, it's difficult but not impossible. Once you know how something works and how it affects you, it's much easier to muster the willpower to make a change if you so wish. You have to do what it takes to help yourself get better and have a normal life. To achieve a good result, any time you lose yourself and watch porn/masturbate/sex during your rebooting, you have to start all over, by starting all over I mean if you lose yourself on day 13, you have to start all over from day 1 again.

What to experience during/after rebooting:

Flat-line period:

This occurs within the 90 days rebooting. During the flatline period you will observe that you had lose total interest in sex, there will be no early morning erection, your pen*s shrinks and becomes smaller as such that sometimes you will feel like you have no pen*s, you only remember you have a pen*s when you want to urinate. Whenever you experience this, do not panic but be happy because it's a sign that your re-booting is working. The flatline signifies that your brain has wiped out all the sexual data you installed in it and now restoring to its original settings. The period of flatline may last up to several weeks or months depending on individuals. The flatline period ends with a sudden early morning erection (full erection), this signifies that your rebooting was successful and you can then go on and enjoy a normal sex life absent of erectile problem, premature ejaculation, delay ejaculation etc.


More things to notice during or after your rebooting include: a deeper voice, you become attractive to the opposite sex, you no longer panic when around the opposite sex, your self confidence increases, your social anxiety disappears, change in character( the way you talk, walk, sit and stand show a new confidence ) etc.


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What Girls Said 6

  • 6d

    You need to also add that it can destroy your sex life and life in general. You become conditioned to your hand more than you would want your spouse. You're bound to get into dangerous sexual situations early and dabble into premarital sex. You also need to link and provide other resources to prove your case and evidence of it.

    What people need's to understand how it badly impacts their relationships and how they treat people. Not just how they treat people sexually. This is how sexual harassment, assault, and even abuse starts. Plenty of girls especially are stuck in dating and relationships were their exposed to sex and sexual situations that they aren't comfortable with. But deal with it because they don't want to be a prude or lose their boyfriend. This can cause a lot of regrets later on in life. And destroy they're sex lives once they do get into a stable relationship such as marriage.

    Self-discipline and control is needed. And it's something that doesn't have to be done alone. I always suggest to ad blockers on those sites and have parental controls set that only a trusting friend of family member will have access of the passcode to. That's how people end up slipping. And if you have physical materials that are explicit sexually, for it to be thrown out.

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    • 6d

      Very good points indeed.
      It has been shown that a lot of relationships and marriages are destroyed by the addiction of porn. its just like other kinds of addiction... its releases a chemical of satisfaction in your brain to acknowledge comfort.
      And the more this chemical released in your brain the harder to be independent from it.
      Unfortunately everything is sexualized these days !!!

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    • 5d

      @Simpfan I'm very sorry about what happened to you ma'am.

      You are absolutely right about porn !!! its make people acting like animals or a piece of meat.
      And it's always visualized in a way that make our minds to look for that moment of perfection in sex. that's why so many people when they watch porn, they scroll many videos to reach the " perfect " one. then in reality their mind is programmed to present the same image. rather than looking for more genuine and healthy relationships and actually enjoying healthy sex.

    • 4d

      @Simpfan

      Thank you for sharing your experience and testimony! It makes me sick to hear this is happening, and I thank God every day I never touched that filth. Just reading what you wrote is ready to bring me into tears. You suffered, and other people take things like this as a joke. It's a lust based environment and it's making people mentally ill. Doctors, Scientist, Psychologist, so-called sex experts and even drug companies know's this. Their making money off of your pain and suffering. And if you end up pregnant and get an abortion, then abortionist are making money. The same with the sex industry and the companies that make's birth control and condoms. It's not worth it. I pray that you recover from this and that you receive healing from the Lord. No one deserves this.

  • 5d

    "When a man ejaculates, he loses some amount of his testosterone." - No. Sounds like pseudo-science.

    "That is when you see a man of 27yrs looking like a 17yrs old boy, or a man with a behavioral attributes of a woman." - You're mistaking causation with correlation.

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  • 4d

    I worked as a sex and drugs councillor for 3 years when living in the US and i agree on the whole porn and masturbation if done excessively can be a negative attribute. What i am surprised about is the fact that males with low confidence and self esteem who find it difficult to meet sexual partners but crave a high degree of sexual satisfaction without masturbation can actually be a high risk of committing sexual offences.
    So putting masturbation in such a negative context like this i find very wrong.

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    • 4d

      You didn't get the full message !!!
      instead of masturbating and porn they can go out and meat real women instead of this.

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    • 2d

      "They can go out and meet real women instead of this" does not compute with "low confidence and self-esteem". Because those guys, with those issues? Going out and meeting real women is not exactly something they are comfortable with/good at/capable of.

    • 2d

      If you read my take carefully... I said the social anxiety regarding this issue.
      Any other factors maybe they require psychological treatment.

  • 5d

    Porn and masturbation are artificial substitutes for what God intended in marriage. It's a temporary fix, like putting a Band-aid on a deep wound. The wound is still there, and the bandage may chafe against it, making it worse. Porn is addictive and can lead to sexting and other types of communication that may lead to infidelity.

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  • 4d

    And there's nothing about the effects of masturbation for women?

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    • 4d

      I believe its psychological effects if addicted to it ! such as bi-polar disorder and social anxiety.
      otherwise its affect men much badly.

    • 13h

      Masturbation causes bipolar?

    • 4h

      Not causes... increases the mood swings if addicted.

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    I also saw Don Jon enough said

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  • 6d

    Problem is that it became so normal to masturbate, that people will find excuses to keep doing it. Even though it just isn't healthy at all, looking at a screen to get a bit of dopamine in your brain.

    Also the reddit pages are filled with experiences and awesome stories of people working on this addiction.
    https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap
    https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFapwomen

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    • 6d

      It's just like other kinds of addiction... its releases a chemical of satisfaction in your brain to acknowledge comfort. And the more this chemical released in your brain the harder to be independent from it.

  • 4d

    Anything that is abused will cause detriment to the abuser. Drugs, alcohol, food, sugar, caffeine, video games, tv, etc...

    It's all in your attitude toward porn or sex for that matter. Porn is entertainment. Nothing more. Same can be said for watching extremely violent movies. The preaching does nothing but make people feel like shit about themselves, which will in turn make them go back to whatever abusive comfort they are involved with. This is not therapeutic, this is finger wagging. I agree porn can be destructive, but that is how people with weak minds and lack of confidence and understanding about how love and sex work get hooked into. How about more constructive understanding of porn to help people keep it in it's place instead of telling people they are shit for liking whatever form of entertainment they like.

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    • 4d

      Read the other comments to understand what we are talking about !

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    • 2d

      Trust me, porn isn't the problem. Infidelity has been happening long before porn was every around. The problem is more underlying in the relationships. Porn is either used as an excuse, a band-aid, an escapism, or entertainment. Nothing more.

    • 2d

      I never mentioned infidelity !
      there are big disadvantages to porn and masturbation... real healthy sex is much better.
      And there are thousands who experienced that in the no-fap community.

  • 6d

    Great take.

    The only thing I disagree with is the part on testosterone - you don't lose testosterone when you ejaculate. In fact when you ejaculate during sex you get a temporary boost in testosterone, but masturbation has no effect at all. I think that most probably the reason men who indulge in excessive masturbation tend to have low testosterone is that low-test men are less likely to find a girlfriend or get laid, I don't think that it's the masturbation that causes the low-test.

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    • 6d

      I believe it is because they masturbated a lot, their T-level becomes low ! lol
      Cause I heard a lot of people have major changes in their bodies strength and even deeper voice for men.

    • 6d

      Scientific studies have shown that it has no effect at all on testosterone. Even anti-porn sites such as yourbrainonporn admit this.

      While I think that porn use is unhealthy and that you're best not to watch it, I also think that many of the benefits of that are massively over-exaggerated.

  • 5d

    Perhaps you would think we should enforce Dr. Kellogs veiws on masturbation of both women and men. Dr. Kellog prescibes a few drops of carbolic acid on girls clitoris to prevent unclean thoughts.
    Really dude, are you serious?

    www.historyofcircumcision.net/index.php

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    • 4d

      Get your facts straight sir

      Genesis Chapter 17: 10-14

      10 This [is] my covenant, which ye shall keep, between me and you and thy seed after thee; Every man child among you shall be circumcised.
      11 And ye shall circumcise the flesh of your foreskin; and it shall be a token of the covenant betwixt me and you.
      12 And he that is eight days old shall be circumcised among you, every man child in your generations, he that is born in the house, or bought with money of any stranger, which [is] not of thy seed.
      13 He that is born in thy house, and he that is bought with thy money, must needs be circumcised: and my covenant shall be in your flesh for an everlasting covenant.
      14 And the uncircumcised man child whose flesh of his foreskin is not circumcised, that soul shall be cut off from his people; he hath broken my covenant.

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      Luke 2:21

      Circumcision of Jesus
      21 And when eight days were completed for the circumcision of the Child,[a] His name was called Jesus, the name given by the angel before He was conceived in the womb.

  • 6d

    Thanks for writing this man, I am going to quit. This is one sin I often lose. Great timing as well! Thank you for the motivation my friend! God Bless!

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    • 6d

      Glad I can help dude !
      And good luck with your journey... very good age to quit.
      Have a nice day.

  • 5d

    People with severe social anxiety or loneliness to begin with would tend to seek porn to replace what was missing in their lives. It doesn't mean that porn is causing otherwise outgoing, sociable people to suddenly become lonely/socially anxious! Although you could argue that it's not really helping their situation.

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  • 17h

    Complete BS. We've had porn widely available in the US since the landmark Supreme Court ruling in 1962 and somehow people still managed go to work, get married, have children and raise them. The anti-porn people are just people deeply uncomfortable with the breadth of human sexual behavior. You know what's gone down since the 1960s? Sexual assault.

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    • 17h

      Sexual assaults are creeps on the rise not going down !!!
      And many failed relationships and divorces is due to sexual thing... or you gonna steer away from that?
      People before has sex much more now !!! And Im encouraging to go out and meet new people so when did you get the idea Im not comfortable?

    • 16h

      You can assert that, but violent crime in general and sexual assaults in particular are way down in the US since the 1960s.

  • 3d

    Im actually trying this. Bit i heard it was 100 days not 90.
    Anyway i got to 20 days but relapsed. Nowadays i jerk off every 3-4 days.
    Im really trying to quit the porn tough.
    I have come to despise the industry.

    Im planning to go on no fap again.
    Im really worried about the flatline period tough. It can't become permanent for anyone, right?

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    • 3d

      Good for you man ! i support you.

      No. its only rewiring your brain functioning in that area... after a while you will be beast in sex lol

  • 5d

    While I'm all and all for "no fap", I have to disagree with a lot of stuff. As someone who hasn't masturnbated until the age of 18, I still had these "symptoms". I was always a thin person with thinner bone mass, I generally look younger than my age and I used to be uptight, on the shyer side and an indoors person. All this, and I never once touched myself up until that age. So I never see the correlation when people think not masturbating will help with their social anxiety. And despite these "symptoms", I still had a pretty solid sex drive (looked at sexual stimuli somewhat frequently) and my strength performance was pretty good in athletics.

    With all of this said, I can agree with your whole message. I think the biggest cue one could take from this is fixing their neuron pathways before it damages them any further.

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  • 5d

    I agree

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  • 5d

    The points against masturbation seem pretty iffy - I haven't read a lot of studies but I know that many animals do it, including primates, and of course primitive humans did it for millions of years, so I doubt it's maladaptive in and of itself. That, and this whole "rebooting" idea seems pretty... eh. Was this taken from a self-help book?

    The points against porn make some sense though. There's a thing in psychology called a "supernormal releaser"; essentially an exaggerated version of something you're hardwired to be attracted to, which overstimulates you and makes it hard to go back to what you're *supposed* to be attracted to. One author used this example:

    "The Australian jewel beetle has sex with beer bottles.

    The male Australian jewel beetle is hardwired to like certain aspects about the female jewel beetle. They like females to be big, brown and shiny. The bottles they make love to are bigger, browner, and shinier than any female could ever hope to be. In Australia, a certain type of bottle called stubbies overstimulates male jewel beetles. In a trash heap filled with bottles, you will often see every single stubby covered in male jewel beetles trying to get it on."
    -You Are Not So Smart, p131

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  • 6d

    I stopped really doing it when I was 15, all it took was "It weakens your bones and you will no longer be able to play sports." I still don´t know if it´s true or not never actually searched it up but I don´t really care at this point.

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    • 6d

      Good for you mate.
      Its makes you physically weak and lazy if you are addicted to it.

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    • 5d

      Where did you read that? In the same article that says it causes blindness and hairy palms?

      There's nothing wrong at all with abstaining, but there is something wrong with believing and then repeating false information.

    • 5d

      Thousands of no fap members experienced huge advantages !
      so whats seem the problem?

  • 5d

    Good take. Some solid points.

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    • 5d

      Thanks mate.

  • 23h

    I actually jerk off like three times a day, have a healthy sex life, and a healthy relationship. Not sure what you're talking about fam.

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    • 19h

      Lets see whats gonna happen when you reach 40 !

    • 17h

      When I was forty I was still climaxing 2 or 3 times a day.

  • 5d

    I can assure you it's not the porn that is ruining relationships. It's shitty people

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  • 3d

    What a bunch of bs lol. I watch plenty of porn and haven't run into any of these problems.

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  • 3d

    And worst it's turning your soul away from God.

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  • 4d

    Basically, wanking turns you into a two-push Charlie, an awkward loner and a sissy? Sounds legit...

    Simples...

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  • 6d

    Masturbation doesn't affect testosterone levels, look it up.

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    • 6d

      I looked it up and read a lot of responses of no-fap community to have better sex life, strength and deeper voice for men.

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      no fap didn't work for me but I don't know

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