Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Seventeen years old, writing this. I never thought I would be.
I vividly remember my first time having sex. Only January of this year, I was ready to get it over with and tell my friends I wasn't a virgin anymore. But then it happened. I unzipped my pants, ready for action, but my dick wasn't as ambitious. She was staring at me in the back seat of my car thinking, "What the fuck is wrong with this guy?" As she asked me if it was her, I insisted it wasn't and I was just nervous because it was my first time. News flash: Neither of those things were true.
Being the awkward kid I was most of my teenage life, I became really obsessed with obtaining as many women as I could my Junior year (I'm currently a Senior). And I started to get good at it, too. Getting girls to hook up with me in my car (completely sober) became a routine. Meet a girl at a party or over the internet, get her number, and link up with her within the next week. But as all of this was taking place, the problem kept reoccurring. As I started to have sex with more women over the Summer, it became a hit or miss. Sometimes I could get hard after playing with myself enough, other times I simply couldn't get it up.
At the time, I decided it was time to go on NoFap and NoPorn. Maybe my neurotic patterns needed some readjusting to more realistic standards. As I have been on NoPorn for over four months and NoFap for almost three weeks, I have found little success in curing my ED. All that I have noticed is that when I do get an erection, it only lasts a couple minutes because I end up cumming so quickly. At this point, I really don't know what the problem is. I eat healthy, exercise, get good sleep, don't jerk off or watch porn, only take cold showers, and overall, live a happy life. As each hookup has taken place, my confidence has gone up, but the ED issue still occurs.
I wouldn't say ED is ruining my life, but it is really starting to take a toll on me considering the steps I have taken with getting virtually no results. I am starting to reevaluate my sex life. I noticed I feel less turned on by sexual encounters in general, and maybe I simply don't find the women attractive enough anymore since encounters have become so frequent. Whatever it is, I am trying my best not to accept that ED will always be a part of my life.
Thank you all for reading,
Jack
What Girls & Guys Said
0 3I have had similar problems in the past my friend.
This is all mental. You may be worried about what the girl thinks of your penis size or if you'll cum too fast or if you'll even be able to pleasure her or if you'll lose your erection mid sex. You just need to let go and enjoy the pleasure. Turn your mind off and just lose yourself in fuck. Easier said than done, but you'll get the hang of it the more time goes on.
Now something that helped me was going with no porn and no fap. I noticed that if I was masturbating a lot (to porn or not to porn) I was training myself to get hard to a girl on a screen or to get hard to my own hand rubbing it, not a girls hand or her body or her mouth.
Once I stopped masturbating and watching porn, I would get rocked with a girl, even just from making out and my cock would be throbbing. It sounds like you would too, but you were worried because you'd cum really fast? That's not a problem, I always tell a girl that if I cum really fast (which usually happens the first time with a new girl (like 5-10 minutes in)) "it's because you turn me on so much" and "I don't masturbate so my dick is super sensitive. The 2nd time is for you" and we'll fuck a 2nd time and I'll last for 30 minutes+ cause I came once already and my dick isn't as sensitive lol
Did you still have trouble getting it up after going no porn and no fap? Or was the problem that you would cum too fast?
I really think porn and masturbation have cause a lot of mental ED problems for young men. Whether its because you de-sensitize yourself or if it's because you feel inadequate because the guys who see fucking on screen have horse cocks lol
I believe that seeing an urologyst is the only way. There's no shame in that, you're there to fix your problem. There are some medications that can be taken like viagra and other pills based on tadalafil (like cialis and dali). I'm no doctor, but according to what I read during the years they normally get good results. You're right if you don't accept ED, this is the way you'll get cured.
Sounds like time to see a urologist, get a psych exam and maybe a little blue pill (Viagra).
I'd only worry if your not getting morning wood.