Advice For Your First Time!

I asked what I could write a myTake about and someone said I should write about my first sexual experience. First I was like "No way!" but here we are. Perfect for the anniversary of my first time.

On this page a lot of people asked questions about this and this is not about my first experience, this Take is more general tips for your first time. (these tips are mainly for straight people, not meant to offend anyone) Just a few tips on the way...

Advice For Your First Time!

The right timing...

...is when YOU feel ready. Don't let yourself get pressured into doing something you don't want to do. Some people are ready at 16 while others may not feel ready until they are 47, there is no perfect timing and no perfect age to lose your virginity! It is your body and you should decide when and with whom you want to experience your first time. Your body, your life and your decision.

All the magic during your first time...

...is bullshit. Sorry to say that like this, but well someone has to say the truth. Your very first time won't be magical. Sex is not magical, it can be special though.

The pain for us girls...

...is different from person to person. Some of us will have pain and others won't. When your hymen breaks it's just a little pain. It's over in a second. Also it can break during sport, that's what happened to me and it's not a big deal.

Girls, when he is entering your vagina with his penis, you will feel pressure. It's fine. My best advice I got and can give to you is BREATHE! Relax and breathe. After the first few strokes it will be over, that's just a few seconds.

-> If it doesn't stop hurting though, stop what you guys are doing. See a Doctor and relax, don't panic.

Let's not forget about the blood part

Some of us will bleed and others don't. It's different from person to person. Also to add when we're talking about blood, I don't mean "the sheets will be drowning in blood" blood. I mean there will be a little blood stain. Just put a towel underneath. Also if there is a blood stain, wash it with cold water and soap. Moreover, some bleed afterwards. Don't panic girl, it's fine and it will stop in like 1-5 min (again, different from person to person). It's also not that much, just sit on the toilet and let it bleed.

Figure out what you really like

During your first time, you can't really tell what you like. Try it out a little bit and after a while you will figure out what you really like and what you don't. Both of you should try to concentrate on your own and your partners needs and wishes.

Advice For Your First Time!

Communication

Communication is very Important, talk to your partner what feels good right now and what doesn't. Also listen to your partner if they tell you something. Don't be afraid to ask for what you want, you can't get more then a no. Yes, a "no" does not hurt you. Life will go on.

Don't fake your orgasm!

Also a topic I read a lot on this page. Don't fake it! If you're faking it, he will believe he is doing a good job and he will continue doing what he is doing every time you sleep with him. Meaning, you will need to fake having pleasure every time you sleep with him instead of actually having pleasure. It's nothing wrong with telling what you like and what you don't. Your partner will be thankful if you can help a little bit, because no one can read minds.

Also guys keep in mind, not every girl magically orgasms and definitely not just by penetration.

Plus guys, it's not bad when she touches herself during the act, just wanted to put this out there, because I did also read some questions and comments about that.

Take time!

Go slow and take your time. Enjoy each other and take time to explore each other. I would suggest you both try missionary the first time and do a lot of foreplay and even if you want, you can use some lube.

Enjoy the moment!

If you don't relax your mind and already go in with a negative mindset, it won't be good. Relax and see what happens, don't overthink and enjoy the moment.

Advice For Your First Time!

Sex is really awesome and fun, it isn't not only for reproduction. We're human being with needs and there is nothing wrong with expressing those needs! Just don't hurt someone else.

Overall keep it safe, use protection and take care of each other. Be open to what happens and enjoy!

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Most Helpful Guy

  • I would also add that you shouldn't be afraid to show vulnurability. Many people think it would be a turn-off for the other person if they're insecure about their first time, but they seem to forget that the other person is probably just as nervous as you are, even if they have done it before. So don't be afraid to ask if you are doing things right, as long as you don't keep on asking it too much of course. That would just be annoying.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Thank you for this! i am still quite young & not ready at all but this is helpful not going to lie. Honestly kind of worried for the pain & I don't know I'm worried about if mine can even stretch to fit it, since I am too scared to even use tampons on myself. Any suggestions for that? Anyway, thank you! <3

    • Look you don't have to put in a tampon, I honestly started using a tampon when I was 19. First he will fit, really he will don't worry about that. You can if you feel better try fingering yourself during masturbation, you know stretch yourself a little, but don't do anything if you don't want to. And with time when you feel ready you can start trying tampons, first use the smallest one and just try a few times, personally when I started using tampons it took me 3-4 months to figure it out haha so no pressure! Don't pressure yourself, just be comfortable and give yourself time

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  • I take issue with only one part of your take. Pain is not necessary the first time. Hymens don't work the way you think. If a woman is experiencing pain her first time it is not because her hymen is being popped or torn. It is because she is not lubricated enough, not aroused enough and/or not relaxed. IT NEVER HAS TO HURT. Stop immediately if it hurts. Don't just "put up" with the pain.

  • What is missionary?

    • MAN ON TOP

    • The girl is laying down on her back with her legs open and the guy on top is laying on you between your legs with his penis in you.

  • gosh I wish i was a guy during sex, i wanna be a top lol

    • lmao

    • Never heard of cowgirl? It’ll change your life!

    • @Whyhellothar i wanna be the one to stick it in tho haha

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  • Preach girl

    • Well said 😂

  • Thanks, this is very helpful!

    I will still have no use of the guide, but thanks I guess...

    • Don't be that negative lol, you never know what will happen

    • I never had anyone close to me and I gave up, but at least I am not driving a wheelchair!

  • Nice take!.. These are good sex tips all around really..

  • I would say that this is well written. I think you covered all of the basic tid bits of advice that someone would give. This is well reasoned and thought out. I think any virgin reading this would benefit from the advice given.

    I am so thankful and honored to be the first to reply!

    • Thank you! I actually sat on this the whole day trying to make it perfect and hearing your comment is really great, so thanks! I appreciate it.

  • I would say above all don’t expect your first time to be this magical precious moment.

    It might be, but it may also be really awkward. You’re a virgin; you’re having sexy for the first time, you’re bound to not know all the tricks. Even if you watch porn.

  • I was drunk and barely knew if it was in or not LOL wish I wasn't in such a hurry honestly but peer pressure is a bitch

  • I wish you had added a few lines about STD protection , about birth control and what to do if BC fails or is missing.

  • Well I like the description and how lovely... all the stuff is explained... hatts off😇😇😇🥰

  • I'm a virgin and I read all of this o_o

    "Sex is really awesome and fun, it isn't not only for reproduction. We're human being with needs and there is nothing wrong with expressing those needs! Just don't hurt someone else."

    Indeed. I'm missing out on some action.😖

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    😢

  • Hmmm... Protection at first time? What do you suggest?

    Everything else seems crystal clear and simple. At least to me. :) So GJ.

    • I suggest condom and birth control, but it's up to the person itself

    • Thank you.

  • awesome take, loved it <3

  • This one is even better! A little to late but still a great Take

  • Really really amazing take!
    Mind blowing!!
    Thanks alot😊

  • What advice would you give for a guys' first time?

    • Take a few of them above, honestly I can't tell you much, I'm not a guy and I never had sex with a Virgin myself

    • I understand that. I honestly feel unattractive because I’m still a virgin at 18. I’m a late bloomer

    • No! not at all, you have plenty of time , I had my first time with 20 and honestly I wasn`t ready with 18, so don`t pressure yourself

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  • It's really good information for the beginner

  • First time doing what?

    • having sex

  • I don't mean to to criticize you, but after quite some other "first" sexual experiences, the only one I missed out on yet is the "put that in there" part. After all this, it doesn't even seem worth any effort.

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