Are You Sick of *Meh,* Whatever, Sex?

[Queenbeast22]

Like seriously why are we bothering with it if our sex life is *meh*?

First of all it used to be there wasn't big brother internet to share so much of our intimate lives so truth is meh sex is probably just as prevalent as it was since the invention of sex people just didn't combine by the millions to openly discuss it.

Secondly Photoshop is making extremely unrealistic expectations for the male penis and the female genitals. Like excuse me how could that guy would find a pair of pants to fit him in real life.🤔 Is he permanently handicapped by his lateness? Riddle me that cause the answer to that question is more interesting than watching that kind of bad porn.

Thirdly- nowadays everything is NOW. If you can get it you can get it faster. You want more or less? Always more.

What we have lost sight of is that quality takes time and practice. I learned furniture making a ways ago and if I had to make a dresser I could. There are millions of identical dressers for sale at a click of a button. So why make my own? Why spend years learning craftsmanship on something I can get instantly?

Because I hate to break it to you Generation Z and millenials- but quality means hard work. The same goes for a sex life. It's hard, it's awkward, its embarrassing and full of ups and downs but the truth is if you want better sex you need to work on it. Trying new things, new fixes, won't bring the lasting results communication and safe healthy practice will.

Also seriously the store stuff is usually crap speaking furniture wise. They use low quality items, assemble them cheap, and sell it high. I don't know about you but who wants that drama? Can do it myself just fine. 😏

[ChurchOfIron]

You improve something if it's not that good, yes.

Here's my thing. Is it "society" which is making these "unrealistic expectations", or is it an individual's mind? Are these actually "expectations"? Or are they just "ideals"? What came first? Societal influence of people, or peoples' influence of society? Those desires for perfection won't just "go away" if perfect-looking airbrushed models stop existing. The reason that airbrushing works is because that is what people want, on the inside. That is their desire. That isn't changing, because we all want perfection. At the same time, most of us also realize that we're not going to get it, and can still accept people who aren't perfect. No?

-_-;; Millennials work harder and longer than baby boomers ever did. Work hours have gone up. It's even commonplace for millennial to work--for free--in internships. That didn't exist back in the day.
But according to a new survey by Project:Time Off and GfK, Millennials are actually more likely to see themselves — proudly — as “work martyrs” than older workers, and less likely to use all their vacation time.

Millennials are also more likely to forfeit unused vacation days than other groups — 24% of Millennials, 19% of Gen Xers, and 17% of Boomers forfeited time off that they’d earned.

hbr.org/.../millennials-are-actually-workaholics-according-to-research

This idea that millennials are lazy just came from baby boomers. Just like "The Greatest Generation" said about the baby boomers. It's just old people bitching that young people are worse than they've ever been. It's nothing but self-superior delusions of grandeur.

Anyways, I agree that you have to work to get what you want. A lot of people do still tend to just throw out these "wishes" and expect to get things, without taking steps towards getting them.

[Cornputer]

I guess it depends on the person.. I’ve been with one guy, but throughout our 5 years, sex was always great. Some don’t prioritize it all that much though. Which is why it becomes “meh”.

But I’m still confused about the furniture omg.

[sapphire3506]

Even if someone's sex life is bad with their partner, they still do it to feel closer to each other. Don't you think making a connection is better than pleasure?

[passinby]

All of this is solved very simply. Just walk away from the internet and don't look back and you shall discover another human culture out there that stays away from it as well. Then sex and important things might have a chance of meaning something to you.

[Ellie-V]

I personally don’t make sex a priority so... I’m not gonna be chasing “quality sex”.
Good take tho.

[ChocolateCheesecake]

Grumpy pants

[Anon-ymous1]

Uh... okay.

[Secretgardenblood]

Good take

[bamesjond0069]

The best sex requires intimacy.

[1Tony5]

Yes smh

[TurlBirb]

Okay, I don't want to come off as sounding like an ass, but...

Look, all sex becomes "meh" if your priorities are in the wrong place. I guaran-fucking-tee you that if you're thinking of sex as "a nice way to feel good with someone else", it WILL become meh for you. If most of the time, sex is done for the excitement and the rush and the adrenaline or the pain or... whatever it is, you're looking at it in a temporary light, and you WILL get bored of it.

If you want sex that lasts, you need to seriously consider your... ugh, hate using this word, but... "spiritual" connection to the act. Emotional suffering, I think most will agree, is far worse than physical suffering. The same goes for emotional heights. Things like bliss, gratefulness, joy, intimacy, and even passion. These things should exist in great abundance for you AND your partner. Lust is fine in small amounts -- butt-pinches, sexual teasing, etc. -- but just don't make your sex just... sex. Make it a journey every time. Make it a reminder of the love and passion you both have. You should lose yourself entirely when you're in the throes of lovemaking, and then, sometimes, when he decides to pick up the pace and absolutely destroy that pussy... that's the icing on the cake.

Your love life will not diminish if it becomes a "soul-binding" event for a good ~85% of the time.

[Anonymous]

I love casual sex.