should i tell my boyfriend about my ex?

[Anonymous]

i have a boyfriend and i really like him alot. we've been sexually active for three weeks now. my ex and i were together for three years and sexually active for two of them and we've been friends ever since we broke up. my bf doesn't know we dated and had sex many times. i've been feeling bad i didn't tell him, but i don't want him to feel bad. the first time we had sex he told me he wasn't secure with the size of his penis. and i have to be honest, it is small, but i really care about him and he tries his best. i feel guilty and want to tell him everything, but i'm afraid it would crush him. my ex boyfriend is very well endowed, at least two inches longer than my new bf, i don't think he could get past this. i don't think he would understand i only wanna be with him. i just feel guilty all the time, i don't know if he should know or if some things are better left unsaid.

[TadCurious]

I wouldn't bring up your ex with your boyfriend. Your previous relationship shouldn't be relevant to your relationship with your boyfriend. Now, if your boyfriend is the one to bring up your past, then that's more tricky. You don't want to act like you're hiding anything, but I would try to emphasize that it doesn't matter to you two being together now. And I know you know that there can never be any mention of size difference, 'cause that could really mess with your boyfriend's self-esteem. I know, in a perfect world it shouldn't, but in the real world most guys have insecurities about the size of their penis.

[Red_Arrow]

He will likely find out that your friend is an ex-boyfriend, and he will probably learn that you had sex with him. Beyond that, nothing matters. Be honest about having a relationship, including sex, if it comes up. Trying to hide it would look bad. But don't go beyond that. If he pushes, just tell him that you do not kiss and tell. And when he brings up his size, tell him you do not know where he compares size-wise, but what he does with it is really great!

[Anonymous]

You shouldn't feel bad. You should tell him about your ex BUT UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE SHOULD YOU TELL HIM YOUR EX WAS BIGGER. If he asks LIE! Its better for the both of you

[Snkrhoss]

Terrible advice. You should be able to talk open and honestly about anything sexual with your partner. You think you’re doing the guy a favor but your dishonesty will do more harm than good long term. Big reason why so many women are unsatisfied sexually in relationships or not able to orgasm is because they can’t be honest with their partner. If girls quit faking orgasms and teach a guy how to give you a real one it would benefit you and other women

[Blondiee2014]

Rule one never tell him his penis is small ever.
Rule to never tell him you have had bigger ever.
If you have to say you slept with the other guy the fine he won't like it but you can be nice enough to tell a white lie and say he is the biggest you have had and its big enough. That will boost his confidence enough and prevent him forever insecure with you.

[summiter]

I'm sure he has figured out that you were not a virgin by now. Why bring up the past? Does he please you in bed? If he needs some help, teach him to use his tongue on you. It will make up for a small penis and can give you great orgasms.

He does not need to know why size your ex was.

Is he able to have sex several times in an evening or is he a one shot wonder? Hang in there

[Le_Franglais]

Talk to your current bf about your ex and the chances are that he'll start to worry about if you're over your ex or not. One thing will lead to another and he might even end it with you.

Sounds like you're not even over your ex anyway...