Should I go to a hooker or an escort since I am 21 and still a virgin? Isn't 21 too old to still be a virgin?

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I am a 21 year old guy, still a virgin, I will be 22 next year in January, I am still a virgin, never had a girlfriend. I've tried getting a girlfriend before, but I fail whenever I take the initiative and pursue a girl. Almost all the time, all the girls I were interested in had a boyfriend already,I have asked girls out before, but they were taken or they rejected me, and the other times they let me have their real phone number, but they never answered or called me back. Also I am not very outgoing, I don't get many opportunities to meet new people and socialize, I don't have a lot of friends. Anyway, is 21 too old for a guy to still be a virgin? Should I go see a Hooker or an Escort?

eatokash · Accepted Answer

-part 1-

Darn I've got to repost the comment because of the character limit.

WRONG! WRONG! WRONG! WRONG! WRONG!

EEEH!

"You just lost your chance at a brand new car!"

Ok, enough with the joking here.

The RIGHT answer is: "IT'S ALL IN YOUR HEAD"

If you lack the social skills then it doesn't matter how many pros you have sex with, YOU ARE STILL NOT GOING TO BE ABLE TO GET LAID AGAIN by a girl you'll meet or know.

You lack the skills. period.

Work on that first. Socialize as much as you can with girls WITHOUT trying to bed them first.

That means NO FLIRTING to begin with.

First get used to being friendly in a "non-threatening" way (flirting instantly puts you in the category of being a "sexual threat" - it's like flipping a switch in their head that puts them in into the challenge mode... which is what seems to be your FRUSTRATION)

Then after you get used to actually being around girls and being friendly with them, then you can work on exposing your weaknesses.

Here let me give you an example. (Oh, and BTW I'm probably going to get some flaming from this.. but who cares.)

I personally don't believe in sex before marriage AND I'm not married (you can believe of course whatever you want). You do the math.

At your age I went through what you're going through.

My social skills were so low that I had an 80K porn collection back when the internet wasn't even filled with the stuff. I used to go to strip clubs, porn shows, etc with my friends just to fit in with the guys and because I figured that that was the only way to get it.

THEN one day, the girl I liked, (which I must say really had some balls as far as girls go) straight out told me my problem and basically how to fix it (though I didn't understand at the moment)... and then I didn't get to see her again. (long story)

You believe that having sex is basically your weakness and that if you don't get it "fixed" it won't ever happen. That's not the way it goes.

Girls can sense your weaknesses and they'll avoid you for them.

When I was 22 I had a girl I really liked ask me if I as a virgin with a trick question! Which at the time I answered truthfully, and I even felt hurt because I thought (back then) that she didn't have to resort to trickery to rip a personal answer from me like that.

They figure it out. They just do, trust me.

My life was pretty miserable up until 23 when I had a new friend teach me the most important principle a MAN should know about manliness.

I thought "no... it can't be!"

It's so simple it's pathetic and I wonder how many guys don't know it.

"A real man is DEFINED by his SELF-CONTROL"

If you can control yourself then the girls will actually squirm all over you.

A few months after learning this principle (and trying to figure it out - dude, I was thinking about it constantly. I mean why is it about self-control? What does it mean? How do I do it? etc.) I finally got it and tried it out at a strip club I went to with some friends.

Guess what happened? -next-

archer86 · Accepted Answer

While everyone is telling you to wait, nobody is giving ideas on what you should do because you don't want to wait any longer. If you really wish to go by way of the sex industry, let me fill you in on the life of sex industry in North America.

NEVER get a street whore or lot-lizard! This is just trouble. They are strung up on drugs, smell really bad, have no respect for themselves and certainly don't give a damn about you. In addition to the risk of diseases, you risk getting arrested by undercover cops. "Strolling" is illegal everywhere and dangerous. With that said, there are better options.

Escorts are much higher class than any strollers. In the US, they are models, college students and just everyday kind of women who are "moonlighting" on the side. They are much more expensive, ranging from $250 per hour on up depending on style and location. The thing about escorts is that in the US, you may not get laid at all. The escorts are there for your time, what they agree to do with you is ultimately up to them. This is where you must do some negotiations; if you can't agree to your terms, let her leave. I'd say, roughly 40% of American escorts give "full service". They are cleaner, educated and not so eager to rip you off but it's never a guarantee. Canadian escorts are the exception, you will always have fun as the sex laws there are different. Basically, you can be a sex worker there, but not openly. I have NEVER had a bad experience with the Canadians. Two types of escorts: independent and agency babes. The women at the agencies are safer to trust as the do have to answer for any misgivings to any customers...for the most part. But you must pay a service fee for the agency AND give tips to the lady for "services". Independents operate alone, which means every penny you fork out goes directly to them so they tend to be more energetic. But you risk a greater chance for getting ripped off. Again, the Canadian women are better.

Finally, there's the legal prostitution work in Nevada. Out there, the women range in many times: young and old, hot and not-so, fit and seen better years. The price ranges from $100 and up depending on the ranch that you visit, but sex is a guarantee there. They always practice safe sex, eager to please and will care about you until it's time for you to leave.

I hope this helps should you go this route. Don't wait much longer

AskTheHotChick · Accepted Answer

First off, let me say that I can understand the pressure you must be feeling to be "sexually experienced" because I grew up with two brothers. However, if you are considering going the route of having sex with a prostitute just to get it over with, then instead just tell people you're not a virgin so you feel more comfortable.

The thing that you should be most focused on isn't "not being a virgin" because the girl you want to end up being with will find it attractive that you're saving it for someone who you care about.

The big key for you is that you have to focus your energy on IMPROVING YOURSELF and YOUR STRATEGIES FOR DOING BETTER WITH WOMEN, so dating and sexual situations will present themselves. Unfortunately, a lot of the advice on here may sound good, but won't get you the results that you want.

You need to understand that Rome wasn't built in a day and you need to take baby steps. It is a process. Whether you're virgin or a player, everyone takes time and effort to improve.

I would say that to get more comfortable with women, the first thing you have to realize that if a woman rejects you, it may have NOTHING to do with you. As you mentioned, you ask out a lot of girls ALREADY in relationships. She may be PMSing, having a bad day or whatever.

You have to focus on things you can control and give yourself a break because women love guys with great personalities and sense of liking themselves.

So, first, make sure your clothes fit you okay and you are making yourself look presentable. Working out will make you feel amazing and give you more self-confidence -- which whether guys realize it or not is the most IMPORTANT THING. That's why women love "bad boys" because they have the attitude that they are something special and the prize instead of every other guy who just kisses the girls ass.

The other thing is making sure you are comfortable talking to women.

Start by literally talking to strangers. Guys or girls. It doesn't matter. You just want to make it fun and light with NO EXPECTATIONS. I know it sounds crazy, but this will make you so much more comfortable talking to girls because it will take the pressure off.

You can also check out my website because it gives real, concrete strategies that ANY GUY CAN USE to improve themselves and their results with women TODAY.

www.AskTheHotChick.com

After you check it out, let me know what you think.

Best,

Tracey

GDBonline · Accepted Answer

In my opinion, 21 is not too old to be a virgin.

At this point I don't think you should be looking into escorts but look into finding a nice girl to share your first time with. Dating websites, blind dates through friends, etc. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin and a nice girl will not be put off by it. After all; it's easier to teach a person something new then it is to change an existing habit. So you might lack in experience but have not learned anything yet that your future lover will not enjoy. Your lover can mould you exactly the way she wants.

However, if you would have been a few years older I would certainly recommend you to use the services of an escort. I can imagine it can be rather frustrating and problematic to be a virgin at a certain age and if this frustration and problems can be solved by having sex, then it's an easy choice for me. But if you're gonna do it, do it right.

I am currently in The Netherlands and there's a company here called Society Service and they founded a thing called the Virgin Experience (in Dutch they call it Ontknaapservice) many years ago. It doesn't come cheap but from what I've seen in the media and read online in terms of reviews, it's suppose to be an amazing experience. They write on their website: "Our escorts are sweet, understanding and sensationally beautiful ladies, who will take ample time to give you the best (first) intimate experience of your life. In addition, you will learn how to please a woman in bed. This will give a boost to your confidence, so your opportunities in the dating circuit are guaranteed to increase." Anyway, you can read for yourself at on their website. You can find it by googling for "Society Service Virgin Experience".

Hope my advise helps!

what-do-guys-want · Accepted Answer

OH NO!

please don't go to a hooker, or get an escort.

and, please don't be ashamed or uncomfortable being a virgin, there is nothing wrong with it( :

you will meet the right girl, and if you hire someone to take your virginity, then you could be a bit upset you didn't wait. and after you do it, you could feel a bit dirty and ashamed that you did it with a chick who has had it with a million other girls.

there would be no intimacy or anything... and I don't think you, or anyone would want that as there first time experience.

i mean, wouldn't you rather look back and smile that the lady you did it with was your girlfriend, and whom you trusted and loved with all your heart, and you knew she felt the same?

or looking back, and cringing at the thought of "paying" for something which is meant to be shared between two people in love.

just wait, and it will happen(:

and plus, I think its sexy when you hear that the guy you like is a virgin.

your like a canvas, she can teach you whatever she likes.

be positive honey, she will come around and you will be so glad you waited for her.

hehee good luck( :

P.S

NO HOOKERS OR ESCORTS!

lol

beatabeatrix · Answer

I agree with everyone else, lose your virginity with you want to when you want to, don't go to a hooker just for the sake of getting rid of it there's nothing wrong with still being a virgin at 21!

I'm 20 and I'm proud to still be a virgin :)

mouse26 · Answer

I don't think you should be going to a hooker...but that's just me

I was 20 when I had sex for the first time and I felt a but odd sometimes as everyone else seemed to be doing it already...

I had a couple of boyfriends before but never had actual sex with them

but when it eventually happened I was very happy that it was with someone that I cared about and he cared about me a lot. (it was his first time then too and he was 21)

I much rather wait for a bit longer to have sex with someone I know and like/love rather than some stranger

so I personally wouldn't

don't focus too much on,...go out, have fun...I am sure you'll find a girl that's right for you...and you'll have amazing sex!

Kindawiseguy · Answer

No 21 is not too old to be a virgin, no ones lost anything by waiting a little loger than others. Besides what's the meaning of having to pay someone to lose it. Have some pride man. We're men. Pride is just as important to us as are blood.

eatokash · Answer

-part 2-

Every freakin' female in the place was trying to get their hands on me!

Even the stripper, right after the show, stopped by and sat on my lap with her wet dildo in hand that she used for the show.

When she sat on my lap my first temptation was to put my hands everywhere. Then I remembered that principle, you know... about the self-control, and I just laid back even more and put my hands on the couch.

That absolutely drove the woman wild.

You could smell what was going on with her hormones and stuff down there.

That night my confidence skyrocketed... and I didn't lay a single finger on her. Just kept the conversation interesting.

I could tell you an incredible amount of other experiences like these that I've had with all sorts of girls practically standing over a slippery little puddle. lol

But let me tell you this, I get to chose who I want.

And I chose my fiancee that I intend to marry pretty soon. She's not a virgin, and she's hotter, more intelligent, and a lot more fun than all the girls I've ever had smothering me in the past. Super-supermodel hot stuff.

And she's loving and caring, and guess what? She sure doesn't mind the fact that I'm a virgin myself. And she already has a pretty interesting plan on what she wants to teach me. hehe

Dude it takes bigger balls to admit your weaknesses than it does to hide them.

Try this exercise ... when you feel comfortable talking with girls in a friendly way, just tell them (on a one-on-one basis - no need to go shouting it in a crowd) that you're a virgin and see how they'll react (keep it civil though - otherwise the girl will think you're using it as an excuse to bed her - which is a pretty lame excuse IMO - shows desperation ). Once you get used to the idea of being comfortable with your status then very likely you'll become a chick magnet.

On a side note, I'm a pretty good looking guy... but when I was under-confident and desperate, ALL the girls would AVOID me.

Dude, work on your social skills.

eatokash · Answer

Dude, keep your squirt gun in your pocket...

Why are you making such a big fuss over it?

What's the fear? Do you think you're going to be made fun of for being labeled a virgin?

I know plenty of girls that actually think that a virgin guy is really hot and they want to teach him.

Do you think your self-esteem is going to skyrocket because of some "professional" faking it for you because she's getting paid to do it?

Look, your first time is probably going to suck for the girl.

Let's just say than in 99% of the cases that is reality.

BUT...

If you first do it with a girl YOU like AND that SHE likes you then, she'll overlook your inexperience and actually HELP you get good at it.

A "professional" doesn't really care... as long as she's getting paid you can keep on being a sucky lover for all your life.

Is that what you want?

I'm pretty sure you'd prefer being considered on your actual ABILITY instead of on what you're paying for a fake.

archer86 · Answer

Take my earlier advice and travel to Nevada. You have made it plainly clear that you no longer wish to be a virgin. Internet swingers sites are not as good as they used to be because of all the liars, spammers and fakers. Just approaching a woman in person risks sexual harassment or public embarassment by being told "why not"...in addition to it being a bit rude. All you want to do is simply rid yourself of the virginity disease. Not a problem.

The women in the Nevada brothels are professionals. They are all mature women of around late 20's and up who have done this business for a while now. They can smell a virgin 26 miles away thru experience. Once you confirm this with the lady of your choice, they will pamper you and take care of you, probably better than a "normal" woman. Follow the rules and go sober, you should have a wonderful experience. The woman are clean, pleasant and good looking, particularly in the brothels out in the west such as the Chicken Ranch, the Sagebrush Ranch in Reno and the Famous Mustang Ranch. Avoid the Bunny Ranch, way too expensive. Take with you about $500 to 700 as they charge by the hour. Believe me, an hour of sex goes up way too fast. Never accept their first bid, talk them down to a reasonable price and be sure to ask first about any do's and dont's. You will have a variety of women to choose from, just pick one in a lineup. And go during the weekdays during daylight hours as these places get filled up in a hurry, especially on the weekends. Finally, be a gentleman. This may seem obvious but sometimes us men just don't know how to act when a hot woman is naked in front of us. Next to Canadian escorts, the Nevada women are the best I have experienced with, particularly the Mustang and Chicken Ranches.

Don't put this off much longer. You know what must be done. God Bless.

HAHAHAHAHAHA...God Bless, now THAT was a good one...heheh. I'm gonna burn in hell for THAT one!

markh110 · Answer

Also, here's someone similar to you...

markh110 · Answer

Dude, look at what everyone else is saying. Seriously, 21's NOT too old.

And if you want a chance to meet people, I suggest you save up some money, and go on a tour group or Contiki tour or something with a bunch of random strangers. It's lots of horny drunk people traveling around a country and partying everynight, that'll increase your chances three-fold, and the thing I've discovered is when you're on holiday or out of your country, that kind of freedom and independence is liberating and really gives you a sense of adventure that lets you want to try something new. Trust me, if you're THAT desperate, this could be your good opportunity.

But here's the thing, at 21, you shouldn't BE that desperate dude. I don't understand why it's such a big deal... honestly...

windyone · Answer

Ok OMG are you still going on about this? Either do it or don't already!

windyone · Answer

NO don't do that just be yourself. It will come for you. A guy who hasn't had sex and you can teach is a lot more attractive then a guy who has stuck his penis everywhere especially in a HOOKER OR ESCORT..

what-do-guys-want · Answer

THIS HAS GONE ON FOR 8 F***ING MONTHS. SHUT. THE. F***. UP OR I WILL REPORT THIS F***ING QUESTIONG.

what-do-guys-want · Answer

HONESTLY, STOP WITH THE UPDATES! ITS BECOMING RATHER PATHETIC. GO DO IT. WE DONT CARE

cliffyd159 · Answer

Im still a virgin. ANY of my friends I talk to that sleep around and get laid all the time all say sleep with someone you truly love first. It makes it the most amazing. If you ruin it on the first (and only) try then it is just a ruined experience. If I were you I would concentrate on trying to get out and do things (maybe more school) and forget about girls until one falls into your lap. Works every time for some reason. When you stop caring about it that's when it becomes available. Give it a shot.

boi818 · Answer

get over it already...

boi818 · Answer

Stop worrying about what other people are doing. It doesn't mean that you have to do something like getting a hooker to impress people. Just continue doing what you do and don't worry it'll happen when you least expect it. People that try so hard to get laid seem to take longer, and those who don't worry about it, end up getting laid.

I'm sure once you find a girl you really like, she'll like it that you're a virgin. Stop worrying about what other people say, everyone has their time come sooner or later.

My advice is just get close to girls, go somewhere where you'll have to socialize with females a lot and eventually you'll get close to some of them being friendly and once you can make a move go ahead and ask the girl on a couple dates.. and let things just happen from there..stop trying to force things to happen so much..

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NMMan · Answer

I wouldn't go to a pro for this - it's possible you could pick up "the gift that keeps on giving", and then all your future sexual encounters will be affected, which sure doesn't seem like a fair proposal. Plus, it wouldn't solve your self-perceived awkwardness around women. Instead of being a 21-year old virgin who wants a girlfriend, you'd be a 21-year old non-virgin who still wants a girlfriend.

l-hedoniste is right, get more practice talking to and being around women - whether it's small talk, flirting, whatever it is. Keep talking to them as much as possible until you get comfortable with socializing around women - then start to ask them out. It's a step-by-step process, but I truly you'll be much better off in the long run. Good luck, sir.

l-hedoniste · Answer

Never too old to be a virgin. Some people live very full lives while never getting around to having sex; Isaac Newton, for example, most likely died a virgin at 84. It helps to have something to do.

l-hedoniste · Answer

I wouldn't recommend it, not because I have anything against pros, but because they won't solve your central problem, namely, you haven't figured out how to socialize with women.

Enlist your friends, firm up your game. Learn the look and sound of a man women want to be with, get past your virginity. After your first few girlfriends, then decide whether you need a pro in your life.

cjwright79 · Answer

Anyone over the age of 15 who is a virgin needs to have their head examined.

jkmaxowls · Answer

dont be trying to get a hooker when your 21. Its not worth it trust me ull get a girl that is worth it.

Should I go to a hooker or an escort since I am 21 and still a virgin? Isn't 21 too old to still be a virgin?

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