I have a fetish... and it's not something most women won't do, but most don't "get it."

[SomethingElse]

I think everyone's heard of women being freaked out by meeting a really nice guy who just happens to have a really "weird" (by various standards) fetish, like wanting girls to pee on them or even something like latex. I have a fetish, and I've been with two girls recently, neither of whom have found it to be particularly... displeasing or hard to act out. Some of them even appreciate it. But, they don't understand why it's sexy to me, and... yes, this is picky, but I really want someone who understands and agrees that it's sexy, and not just... incidental. Let me explain in more detail. I grew up with really, really liberal parents, and I still share a lot of those values. I mention this both because it may be at the root of why this fetish seems so taboo to me, but also to clarify that I don't think any woman should be *obligated* to do what it is I think is sexy in this case. What frustrates me is when women do what I find sexy, but they don't comprehend why it has fetishistic qualities for me. Specifically, my fetish is for woman dressing up and doing "traditionally feminine" things, at the cost of minor inconvenience. For example, taking time to put on makeup is sexy to me, because she has to spend all of this time getting the makeup on, and so she's sacrificing her convenience to pay attention to her appearance. I like high heels because they mean she has to walk slower and more carefully, but she looks the way she wants to. Again, I don't think that there is anything that says this form of "beauty" actually makes women more beautiful... but I've read enough feminist theory to understand that this sort of traditional dress for women restricts them. I find things like bondage sexy too, but this is even sexier... because it's basically bondage you can wear in public. So, basically, my issue is that there are TONS of girls who probably wish that guys would appreciate the work they put into their appearance. But at the same time, very few people seem to understand why I find this sexually arousing. Does this make sense to anybody?

[jak0b]

I like it when women dress classy, stylish and sexy at the same time, with top tier make up, patent leather pants, stilettos, good manicure. But for me it makes them look powerful.

[homer2324]

It makes sense.

people are attracted to different things. you have your rationale, which is nice, but others don't have to agree with your rationale for your rationale to be valid.

[Anonymous]

no.