Sex after childbirth: Is it terrible?

[Anonymous]

My sister loves kids and has always dreamed of becoming a mother. Her mind has recently changed because of something her ex-boyfriend said to her. I insisted she make an account and ask this herself, but she refused. So, I am filling in. He told her that after a woman has a child, her vagina is so far gone that sex will unpleasing for both her and her partner for the rest of her life. Is that true? I was just wondering if there were any girls who've had children or guys who've had sex with mothers who could answer this question.

[Anonymous]

I think its not as good but still pleasurable. If I could go back I'd encourage my wife to have a c section. She probably feels the same way but would never say it. I think the vagina does snap back a little but come on its never goign to be the same. I suppose the smaller the d*ck the bigger problem this will be which is probably why the Ex said what he said. He probably has a smaller one. For a guy with a big tool I wouldn't think this would matter so much since there would still be a lot of friction for both sides. I suppose the size of the kid probably factors into it as well. But in short, if you want to keep you p*ussy in primo shape have a c section.

[heyyy]

Stupid

[ocsweettalker]

I am a 46 year old married man. I have had affairs and I have been with women who had three kids and felt tight like a woman who had no kids. My **** is not giant but I had a hard time fitting inside her. I don't think having kids impacts how it feels inside a woman. I have been with a 40 year old woman who had no kids and cannot say she felt "looser" than a woman who had three.

He is an idiot to think sex will be horrible. Ninety percent of what makes sex and intimacy enjoyable to me has nothing to do with penetration.

[foxydaisy]

If sex was not pleasing after childbirth no-one would have have more than one kid. O____o

That is a load of complete crock, my friend. The only thing might be that she's a little looser right after (and who wouldn't be, after forcing a watermelon out of a hole the size of a grape?) But that is easily fixed. Kegel Exercises. Basically it's flexing the muscles down there so that they become stronger.

Her ex-boyfriend had no idea what he was talking about.

[Anonymous]

The thing about it is...you're supposed to wait to have sex until at least 6 weeks after the birth anyway, to give yourself a chance to reset down there. If your sister really wants to be a mother, though, she shouldn't be thinking of her own sexual pleasure but of the original goal of sex--to have children.

also, if sex stopped being fun after children, I don't think my parents would have had 5 kids...

[elvarain]

Actually my mother only started to really enjoy sex AFTER she had children! She said it felt so much better!

[mikesaracino]

If a dude has a big **** that normally hurts having a kid might loosen things up just right so that sex w/b better (less painful).

[noregret11]

Screw that, first off, if she has wanted to be a mother, then she should do it, not sacrifice it for a little sex. Second, intimacy can go beyond just intercourse...

[regular-guy]

As a father of 3, yeah, things change a bit, but sex is still great for both of us.

Sounds like the guy she was with was just a shallow jerk who primarily thought with his smaller head.

[jerseyse410]

the ex whatever is a jealous ass and said it out of spite. Ignore him.

[boi818]

YES..some women do change a little..but it doesn't make that much of a difference..

[jaejanga]

that is so not true I had a child 7 months ago and I've been told there's no difference it is still pleasing to both of us... even more for me now then before lol

[princessruby]

I have had a baby and not noticed any difference in feeling down there and sex feels good! I have had no complaints either in relationships I've had. You can do pelvic floor exercises after birth that helps to! x

[Anonymous]

After vaginal birth, women are a little looser; if the man has a small penis, and the woman had a large vag to start with, it could conceivably be a problem.