How many sexual partners does the average college girl have?

[Anonymous]

I recently read a survey which said that women have an average of 3 sexual partners. Now it didn't confine this to ages and didn't explain the statistics, but I think this is a very inaccurate portrayal of the average woman today. College offers suitable social conditions and an ample supply of the opposite sex to have lots of sexual partners, if you so wished. Now it can be reasonably accepted that the average woman can gain a sexual encounter than the average man (note the word average). I'd like a girl to tell me honestly how many sexual partners they or their girlfriends tend to have in any college year. I'm aware that girls tend to underestimate their sexual history (and guys overestimate). Some girls tend to cry foul about this, that they will be "judged" as loose. Well I'll be honest here, I would judge a girl who has a long list of casual partners. I would not be impressed by it. That's just me; I can't speak for other men though I'm sure many think the same way. Leaving that aside - we're on the Internet now and it's pretty well anonymous - I'd like girls to give me an honest figure for statistical purposes. I'd say it's quite commonplace for the average college girl to have (a) a lot of sexual partners and (b) a lot more than guys tend to. Insight and honesty appreciated.

[Anonymous]

I am female (recently turned 24) and I spent 5 years at college. I really believe this depends on the individual and their circumstances. As you say, college offers suitable conditions to have lots of sexual partners. In my opinion, alcohol is the single biggest cause of promiscuity among college students in Ireland. Alcohol consumption causes inhibitions to be loosened and often results in a person sleeping with someone and not being able to remember the experience the next morning and regret it. I believe that if someone is intoxicated, they are not in a fit state to consent to sex with another person. Sadly, many men and perhaps women take advantage of people who are intoxicated which I believe to be morally wrong. I personally have had 7 sexual partners, one of the 7 I attribute to being 'taken advantage of' while stociously drunk. Of the remaining 6, 4 partners were guys I liked and had been dating (I was not seeing anyone else while I was seeing them but they were not committed relationships), 1 was a drunken one-night stand with a guy I knew and the other was a casual fling with a friend (always drunken). All of these sexual experiences have been throughout my college years. Female friends of similar age have slept with between 4-12 guys. I have also spoken to females of the same age who have slept with 20+. I believe that many young women will not be honest about their 'number' because they feel they will considered 'promiscuous' or labeled 'easy' by guys. This is a completely honest answer, hope it shed some light for you.

[annwyl-cariad]

Well, I'm not friends with a lot of the stereotypical "college girls," but a lot of us aren't stereotypical and you're looking for an average so there you go. Among my friends, we tend to have either 0 partners or just 1 partner in a given year. I'm in my second year of college and have had no sexual partners over that time (or ever, for that matter); the same goes for my two best friends. My roommate last year was the same. Another of my close friends has only ever had sex with her current boyfriend, and even then not until they had been together for nearly a year.

It's not that I hang out with a particularly religious crowd. Although most of my friends are, they don't cite that as the reason they abstain from sex. Most just do it because they feel that sex is more important than people tend to value it today, and because of the emotional attachment that goes along with sex for them. And also, for the record, I attend a large public university where it is considered the standard thing to go out and get drunk and get laid on the weekend, and I don't believe that there's anything wrong with that life choice. There's just lots of us who choose not to.

While I see and agree with your point, that a girl who wants sex can probably get it without too much trouble as compared to a guy, the fact that guys don't have hundreds of girls lining up to have sex with them just shows that on average, girls take sex more seriously than guys, and are more likely to wait for a person they care about. That's how I see it anyway.

[Asker]

I would think the exact opposite actually. With far more possible partners, women are more likely to have a frivilous attitude to sex.

[Xzero77]

Women have it easy. They have guys lining up to meet them, hoping to get something. The hardest thing a woman has to do is select her partners. She does not have put out any effort at all, especially if she is even remotely hot. As the other commenter said, (paraphrased) more partners leads to a more frivolous and/or promiscuous attitude towards sex.

[EyeAmNiceGirl]

OK mr. mathematical genius. When speaking of heterosexual people, the AVEAGE number of sex partners for men has to be roughly equal the AVERAGE number for women. The reason is simple -- each time a guy has sex, a girl has sex, and vice versa. There are roughly the same number of men and women in the "sexually active" years. There are more women than women in total, but that's because men die younger than women do on average, but until age 40, the number of living people is about the same, and it is prior to age 40 that most people rack up all those different sex partners (most over 40 people are settled in and doing it with just one person, or if they are really old, they don't do it at all anymore). Women do tend to be on the lower side, or the much higher side. By that I mean, there are a lot more women that are saving it until marriage (thus only one lifetime partner), and at the same time, there are a lot more women who have been with more than 20 people (like the high school slut that took a bunch of guy's viringity, or the college party sluts) or a prostitute who has been with way over 100. Guys tend to not be in the "saving it" category nor the "over 20" category as much as women. Still, the AVERAGE for both men and women is virutally the same.

[TheMechanic]

That's assuming that it's a different guy and a different girl each time, which any guy will tell you is not the case. I remember a statistic floating around that says 30% of guys have sex with 60% of the women, or something close to that. I think most guys would admit this is probably true. Therefore The average girl has more partners than the average guy but the above average guy has more partners than an above average girl.

[EyeAmNiceGirl]

@ TheMechanic -- you are one dumb dude. Go back to sixth grade and learn math again.

[Vtjbduh]

you are such a dimwitted dumbass you know that

[Enigma07]

I believe women tend to have sex with the good looking guy, leaving the average guy left out. So when a girl have sex, the good looking guy have sex. So 100% girls have the equal amount of sex of the top 20% of guys. That's the reason after girls 35-40 years of age want the to go back and want the other 80% of good honest guys and then those 80% don't look a the women so special anymore. Unfortunately. If you are girl and over 40 years of age and still have the top 20% then 2 things; 1) you got lucky that he loves you (very very rare) 2. (most common) they see you as a item not as someone to love.

[AlexSmith1010]

The average woman has more sex and more sexual prospects than the average man does and has.

[salvation1982]

wow just wow i have read these female comments i am not surprise by there comments but it is sad, women like my mothers gen. had more self respect for themselves i am 35 i have only had 1 sexual partner not because i am not good looking cause I am and i am very charming infact if you saw you would think that guy has had sex with a lot of girls nope because i am not a male slut harsh yes it is that is what i think when i hear that a young lady our any ladys age has had sex with more than 10 guys, i hear oh sex is just for fun really no sex should be for your future husband i would never date a girl under 30 that has had more than 2 guys i mean do you not know how much stuff you are spreading around, sex is a very intimate thing you are during so to just say sex is no big deal then you have no morals in my book. ps i know there is some good girls out here and girls who are slutting around why do you think these good girls are gone because us guys know they are hard to find and that is sad, and this goes for the guys to, i mean my god we all know smoking is bad for you, so you girls should know what the good guys think about how many guys you have been with and just cause you are pretty dont mean crap in my book, girls i am telling you its a big thing knowing my girl is a good girl and she is mine it feels like we have won the lottery, it is a very big deal in a guys mindset

[Enigma07]

I hope you are already married. Do me a favor brother, make sure you let her know that she's the few, the proud, the non-perfect angles left. The truth is, If you find a women around 35-40 that has less than 7 sexual partners you should add their names into the Guinness world records. Now with easy private access to dating/hookups we will never find the true number and we never will, those numbers are going to their grave with them. Girls are tired of one night stand.

[Anonymous]

Wow all these woman are complete whores... I'm 28 and grew up dirt poor.. and while everyone else was out being whores apparently I was trying to get family out of poverty .. and id rather die alone.. than lose half my wealth and all my self respect on little miss pass my p**** around.. you bitches nedd some self respect and self control

[ionlife]

Averages would depend on your environment and who you hang out with.

If you are quite sexual active then you're perception would be that girls seem to have a lot of partners.

If you are abstaining then your perception would be that many of the girls are saving themselves as well

We tend to seek out people who are like minded for friends so it is quite hard ask for "averages" in my opinion. Take spring break for an example. If I were to survey how promiscuous women were, spring break would be the wrong venue to base an opinion on.

[Asker]

No it wouldn't be because it would contribute to the overall average.

[americangirl2010]

I slept with 14 guys. 3 in high school, 10 in college, and 1 after college. I was in a relationship that lasted one month or longer with 7 of the guys. The other 7 guys were "one night stands" and I had no friendship ties with 3 of those 7 guys. Also I don't remember 2 of the guy's names. I cheated on several of my partners. I wish I would have been more careful about protection because I have HPV and I need surgery to remove cells from my cervix that have the potential to become cancerous ;(

[Belleza]

Me + sexual partners = 0 That is my honest opinion - I don't have any sexual partners at the moment and I'm in college. My friends however in a year if counted altogether had over 2 tops!

[Lesae]

I had one sexual partner in college. I married him. I hate saying this but, I wish I would have had more so I could have experienced more. I am not a hoe by any means, but I wish I would have dated around. I had friends who would sleep with a different guy every weekend. I lost respect for them in a way.

[EyeAmNiceGirl]

I think it is best to find a balance somewhere between "only one" and " different guy every weekend". But then, if my first had turned out to also be my forever guy, I guess that would have been OK. But truthfully, if my first was also mymforever guy, I pobably would have found a way to string him along while having some side adventures. I am more than happy to be settled down (and faithful) to just one guy at this point in life, but there is no way I could have done that my freshman year of college (i. e., when I was 18).

[PrettyMochina]

After high school and before college tends to be a wild time. Full of freedom and exploration. For me personally I did tend to have a lot of sex with different guys. I don't know how long this phase tends to last. I still really enjoy it to this day. But with only one man. So to answer your question. Yes college is definitely a sexploration time. Will it last. That depends on the woman.

[smilezz]

since being in college, I've only had 2

[johnsmith2116]

It depends. It is a small community college, or a big university? Is she shy, or outgoing?

In 4 years, it could be anywhere from 1 partner, to 40 or 50 partners. There's really no average on this type of statistic.

[Asker]

Normally some sort of statistical average does arise. Culture and cultural trends happen in waves - they don't happen in isolation. I don't quite get the reason for denying an average exists - which in fact could represent a large amount of the female college population. Obfuscation? Fear of "judging"? I don't get it.

[Metallicaman]

My god your husband is supposed to be it! You know what it feel like to know your wife had sex with 30, 100. My wife slept with 5 including me. And she regrets ever one of them, later in life things change! Guys to tho they need to keep it in there pants my wife is my only.

[AideeGG]

I'm 21 & I'm still in college, I've been with 15.

[ObscuredBeyond]

15 possible future sources of blackmail when you enter professional life.

[Danimal007]

Mostly one night stands?

[shahpranav]

im 23 and I'm virgin.

[MikeTheBartender]

I'd say 10-15

[Robertcw]

It’s crazy to see these posts 10 years after they were written.

I wonder what all these people are up to nowadays, but this definitely seems like a more honest set of answers than the poll I created.

Seems like 10-40 is normal. That makes sense if you have a string of uninterrupted 4 years in one place.

I think transfer students are the ones who get the short end of the stick, ultimately, due to moving around a lot and being juniors when first meeting people (read: not there for freshman year).

[chic701]

Well, I lost my virginity at 16, he was 38. One boyfriend in high school, and 4 one timers bc they turned out to be a holes. 1 more boyfriend after high school that cheated on me so, naturally 2 more frogs to kiss lol. Finally dated 2 guys for a few months and married the one I liked more. I was not yet 21 when I got married.

[JennieF]

I had 7 through college, plus 1 in high school.

[dmomma]

im not in college even yet and I've had like 18 or 19. after a breakup with my 1st boyfriend, of 2 years, I had a crazy drunken stage and within 3 months had about 12 new guys. wish none of that ever happened but it just happened.. but I agree. I think its a lot higher than that survey said because I know so many girls with at least 7 partners, and they are under 20 years old

[mrtakeyohoe]

Bitch you dirty hope u know that

[azuritephox]

I'm in my third year of college. I lost my virginity at 16. I will be turning 21 soon and right now my current number is at 17 partners, 12 of which I've had while in college. About a fourth of them are friends with benefits relationships and only one of them was a boyfriend. The rest were one night stands. I'm currently trying to get myself to slow down because I actually want to settle. Hope this helps!

[insightful]

That is a lot I think. But if you are happy with it and enjoying yourself and being safe its totally cool !

[Anonome]

This sounds fimilar. You play the good girl role well. At least your honest. It helps for long term if you plan on settling. But don't play that role if your not that role. Don't presume one look and actually be the other. Call it for what it is so no one's confused. Some good people out here may be looking for long term while your looking for sex. Nothing wrong if it be known up front. Hearts get involved. Causes problems. Especially if they know what they want. ... energy is deep. Information helps!

[mrtakeyohoe]

Lol you a True Thot fell for fuck boys you deserve it

[MadameCarnivale]

I am only 25. I may be old fashioned, especially for a girl on the south shore of Massachusetts, but I graduated high school a virgin. (It didn't last too much longer than that, but hey). For my first few years of college I had one steady boyfriend who I had sex with on a regular basis. After college I had one lover who I saw casually after the first relationship had ended, then, a couple of years later I entered another long term sexual relationship, which brings me to where I am now.

That makes 3 for me, so far, at 25. Compared to most girls I know my number is pretty conservative.

That being said, I LOOOOOOVE my sex life. It is very active (i.e. more than 7 times / week) and I think very fulfilling. I don't think less of girls who have had more partners than I have, but I consider my way best for me, and I feel that the way I act is respectful to both myself and my partners. For me, its about the quality, not the quantity.

[baxterbunnie]

Before coming to college I had only had sex with one other person which was my long term boyfriend. The first week of college I broke up with him and had sex with someone else. Its now the end of my first semester, and I've accumulated 5 new sexual partners. Although none of these people were one night stands. And after having sex a pseudo-relationship ensued, but the tempts of college with all the freedom and independence has made me remain single.

[Northern_Ireland]

I'm 24 now and I first started having sex when I was 22. Quite late for an average girl.

However, in these 3 years, I had 12 sexual partners. That, too, considering I was in a one year relationship that ended last month (never cheated).

[imrlynotaslut]

I'm 18 years old, a freshman in college and my number is 11. I lost my virginity at 16 to my boyfriend who I was in love with. We broke up right before I left for college and I proceeded to sleep with 10 boys that semester. My best friends number is 9, my other good friend is at 7, one of my roommates is at 10 and two of my roommates are virgins. Everyone is really different and I don't think you can judge anyone based off of their number.

[mrtakeyohoe]

Ya some hoes what STDs you got mhmm

[Jenah]

I started masturbating at the age of thirteen. At the age of 15, I had such a strong sexual drive that masturbating was no longer enough for me. In the same year, I lost my virginity to my best friend just to satisfy my urge. In high school I was insatiable, and I had sex with 7 guys. In college I had sex with 15 guys and one girl (I was experimenting). I wasn't in a relationship with any of them, I just had sex to satisfy my insatiable wild desire for sex. I have no regrets because I enjoyed it and would do it all over again. Youth is short and should be enjoyed as much as possible. College provides a great environment for a rich sex life. My friend, who was very shy and innocent in high school, after coming to college was influenced by the free atmosphere and not only lost her virginity in her first year, but by the end of her studies she had sex with 10 guys.

[Anonymous]

200 to 300 or more