He Won't Let Me Give Him Oral Sex?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I are not virgins,i lost it to him and well,he was a little bit of a man whore before we got together(no joke,he's been with a lotta girls) anyways.When it comes to oral sex,i have no problem with it,and neither does he.So,he goes down on me all of the time,and he's damn good at it.So,i have given him oral sex,and before I was with him,i had given oral sex to previous boyfriend,so it wasn't new to me.Well,i love my boyfriend,i love pleasing him,he does so much for me,but he's always hesitant on letting me give him head.He has made statements,when we're watching porn,that he feels it degrades women,and he has received oral from his previous gfs/women,but he said,he really loves me,and respects me and thinks that it would be degrading for me to give him oral.I would love to give him oral,it's no problem,it's my choice,but I want him to understand that I don't feel degraded giving the man I love oral sex.Advice?

[Fitzcarraldo]

First, the moment you voluntarily put your mouth to someone's genitals, you're not a virgin.

Second, you two seem to have an odd relationship. You watch porn together, but he thinks "it" degrades women. Do you mean that he thinks oral degrades women, or porn degrades women? And whichever answer is accurate, why would he watch something he thinks is degrading?

Third, if he doesn't want to receive oral, that's *his* choice.

[Asker]

Ok if you aren't going to actually answer with out assuming,then don't answer.simple question

[pasoccer]

If his reasoning is sincere that's amazing.
Now for the other side:
(These are just my thoughts. This isn't necessarily what is going on with him.)
I find it a bit odd that he can go down on you, but not you on him.
Also he may be trying to let you down easy, and he doesn't think you're very good at it.

[Brookie]

I think its sweet of him to say, maybe he had a bad experience or some girl told him it was degrading. If I were you I would be happy because not many guys are cool like that. Most guys will practically demand head and give you nothing in return or do a half assed job. Your man is good at it and cares about you. Keep him and let it be. You and your guy sound like you really respect and love each other. Good Luck : )

[loveLIFEgiveLOVE]

It seems as if he has sooo much respect, admiration, and love for you that the thought of you giving him oral just turns him off. First, I'd say that he seems to be a good catch. But since you really want to give him oral and give him pleasure, just let him know that you don't feel degraded because of going down on him...you just want to make him happy and please him.

Hope he changes his mind ! Good luck!

[jammers]

tell him that you don't feel degraded and ulike making him feel good...and its ur choice to do it...maybe he feels bad or something, talk to him about it though see his side and why he thinks is degrading. I mean he does it to you a little 69 don't hurt!

[Love2Jackit]

Cause he's a man whore. That means he don't want u tasting or smelling another girl. That he may have been with. By him not letting u suck his dick. Then that's a sign of his guilt. Cause if u start having oral sex with him. Then sooner or later u will either smell or taste who else he's been with. I would cut him off. Then see his reaction. If he wants 2 keep being a man whore. The best thing u can do is cut ties. Break it off before he gives something u can't get rid. I know it might seem mean 2 break it off. But if it's meant 2 be. Then set them free. If they come back. That's a sign it's meant 2 be.

[KarinMcDonald]

Some men are just like that. My husband is the same way. He'd much rather go down on me, for as long as I want him to than have me reciprocate and give him oral. It turns him on when I sit on his face and tell him to do all those dirty things. He's always enjoyed it when I talk dirty and take charge, so maybe if my mouth is busy doing something else, it's less exciting? I don't know. But I'm glad he loves giving me oral!

[p-guy]

I would tell him flat out that you "enjoy" giving head and you want to do it. I can't believe he won't let you, that's an odd one!

[klpic]

In no way is it degrading if your doing it voluntarily and happily. I agree some porn is completely the other way round. good luck

[girlygirl2]

hmm. you are lucky =]. most guys only want there girlfriend giving them oral.

or maybe your teeth are nasty.

[Asker]

My teeth aren't nasty...They're straight,clean and I definitely don't use them during oral

[Snowball0l0]

You are gorgeous

[TheRealQuestion]

I tend to agree with your boyfriend, I wouldn't want to have a girl i care about put it in her mouth, it feels like it would be as your boyfriend said, "degrading", It just feels wrong to me.

[standardguy]

I can't give you another advice than to accept his point of view. It's a very good attitude from his side. I feel the same.
Giving head is degrading and if a man really loves his girlfriend or wife he will hinder her though she even wants to do it mandatorily.

[Hardworkingguy]

That is so weird.. getting oral Is like a dream come true

[robocop666]

He is an idiot

[Justababy]

Hmmmm I take some if he don’t want it

[Kristoffff]

surprise him when he is asleep or something, he wouldn't mind. maybe after a few times he will let you to give him the head

[Anonymous]

Lol you shouldn't give advice I would just want you to squirt your juices
in my mouth