Girlfriend is a Virgin?Taking Her virginity? Advice?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend and I have been going out for 3 years.I'm not a virgin,but she is,and she brought up the subject about a month ago,and she has decided she is ready for sex.So,yea,um,Advice? This is what I'm thinking.Foreplay for about an hour,kissing,petting,touching,or until she is wet and ready.Then,I give her oral sex.She is on birth control pills(for something else,female "issues")Then,for added comfort,may be I should add some extra lube to she and I,i just don't want to hurt her at all.We've talked about positions,and she wants missionary,so were going to do missionary.I will go super slow and be very gentle,and I will pay attention to her reactions and whatnot.Would this be good?Advice?Especially from girls

[Fruuze]

First of all, your girlfriend has chosen you to be the one to take her maidenhood away. That should be considered an honor. The loss of virginity to most self-respecting females is a serious matter. You seem like a very caring gentleman, and it looks like she has made a good choice.

Second, as others have stated, slow and gentle is the key! Don't just push her legs apart, lie on top of her, and thrust away!

Also, don't go too long on the foreplay, but take enough time to ensure that she is nice and well-lubricated. Using extra lube is a good idea too, since it will make it a little easier for her.

Since you are going to be doing missionary, you have total control. Enter her slowly, and don't hesitate to ask her how she feels . If she tells you to stop, then STOP! Don't force her into anything she doesn't want to do.



As for pain/bleeding, each girl is different. For some girls, it hurts like the end of the world (and some even cry), but others feel no pain at all, or just some mild discomfort. And some girls bleed quite a bit, while others don't bleed at all. Most women tend to be very self-conscious about the pain/bleeding issue, so if she's hurting, ask her if she wants you to stop. And if she bleeds, wether a little bit or a lot, it's just a part of nature. Don't act grossed out/scared, because it will only make her feel even more self-conscious/uneasy. For my first time, it hurt pretty bad and I bled enough to make my boyfriend recoil in fear and become pale white. I felt bad enough that I had ruined his bedsheets, but it only made me feel worse when he saw how bloody the sheets were and started acting like he had killed me/I was dying.

So, keep it slow, gentle, and caring. Slow/Steady wins the race!

[fireofsunriseyahoo]

Take it very slow. The first time can be very painful for a woman. If her hymen hasn't been broken yet, it could spell disaster. A lot of guys get so hot and bothered that they start moving too fast and you could wind up hurting her when you penetrate. If you really want to start slow, try oral sex first. You two can do it to each other. Be patient with her.

[alioup]

That sounds about right. there isn't really anything you more you can do for her. but she might feel some discomfort but she will expect it, so ya that it.

P.S don't forget condoms.

[CerebralCaustic]

I think it's an error to assume you can do this in one evening, scheduled like it was a business meeting. Sexuality rarely works like that.

SLOW DOWN.

There's no rush.

She might need more than one session to get comfortable and prepared.

She might not want to do it like clockwork.

Her body might react in an unpredictable way.

Have you asked what *she* wants? If not, ask her. But also remember that she's a virgin, so it's a bit like asking a lifetime vegan about their favorite steak.

Your #1 goal should be on her comfort.

No, your #1 goal should be to prevent pregnancy or disease. Your #2 goal should be her comfort.

[Asker]

Well,i just thought it through cause I don't want to ruin it for her or be pretty clumsy.I know my first time was,mm,bad.I have asked what she wants,and she has already told me,that's everything I said.And we've both been tested for STD's/HIV,she went to the gyno,i went and got checked.And she isn't just some chick I'm going to bang,so I'm putting more thought into it

[Dela1111]

Well I'm not a girl but I do have experience with this. You might be a little long on the foreplay, you don't want her to lose her arousal, since she'll be pretty excited. Good luck, and don't stress yourself out worrying about making it perfect, since you'll have plenty of time in the future.