He wants me to be wild...and crazy....and kinky?

[Anonymous]

So I'm seeing this guy right now and I'm kinda new to sex. lol He says I'm too quiet and he had to ask to see how I felt...which was kind of distracting. He wants me to moan and scream and be wild. But I'm not so sure what he means by wild, I asked him but he can't explain things very well. And he wants me to be more kinky and try crazy things. But I'm not so sure I know how to do all that. We just started having sex and I'm still trying to just get comfortable. So I guess I was wondering what kind of wild things do guys like girls to do in bed and what do you do to drive him crazy? How am I suppose to be more kinky?

[Anonymous]

First of all, there is nothing to be embarrassed about being new to sex. We all started somewhere and over time that won't be the case. It is funny that he says you are too quiet. I had a boyfriend who thought I was too noisy, he would have loved you, lol. But all joking aside, our sexual preferences are personal, everyone's boat gets floated differently and it is good that he can tell you some of what he likes but he needs to respect that you are not just there for his personal amusement either.

So, I have always been a moaner and some guys love it, other guys not so much, but it doesn't really matter, because I love it and I can tone it down but I prefer not to. However, it would be good to find some way of letting your guy know if what he is doing feels good to you or not. I think he just wants feedback to see that you like what he is doing.

As far as what he would like that is kinky or wild, if he cannot explain it ask him if he has some porn or you can both watch some online to get an idea of what his idea of kinky is. Kinky is a vague and overused term and covers a lot of things. I consider myself kinky and I have definitely seen some stuff that I have no interest in. Just doesn't work for me. Same for you and your guy, you need to see what he is talking about.

Finally, you need to find a voice. Stand up for yourself. Don't apologize for your lack of experience. Why should you? Think about what you like. I know in the beginning women often do not reach orgasm from intercourse. You may even be too uncomfortable to ask him to do different things to give you an orgasm. But you will be a more exciting involved sexual partner for him if you are having fun and enjoying yourself.

[ilovelegs]

So do you mean by just seeing this guy that's it's a hook up or a relationship? But since you're having sex already it sounds like you don't know him all that well. If I were you I'd just forget all that stuff he asked about being wild and kinky and just be yourself instead like it sounds is what you're doing. Once you go outside your comfort zone you won't feel comfortable anymore and it not going to be as much fun for you. Guys that ask their girl to be that way right upfront have some sort of a sexual problem. They're into sex way too much for the good of any good relationship. They're probably pretty hooked on watching porn, and instead of enjoying and wanting a decent girl to have a relationship with they rather have porn type girl so they get her to anything they want as far as sex. You don't need to be able to drive him crazy by being kinky unless that's what you wanna do. But once you start that, whatever you have gong with him will turn to more and more kinky sex. If that's what you want, then ask him what porn sites he's watching so that you can watch the same ones as him. I don't recommend that but if you're willing to let him call the shots, that'd be the fastest way to learn his way of having fun.

[p-guy]

Just imagine that while he is pumping away that you are in a 5 start resort looking out over the beach and you are eating something wonderful while at the same time the man of your dreams is giving you the best head you have ever felt and you just want to groan and scream out loud because if feels soo good and you are so tantalized by everything.

That scream and that moaning and groaning of pleasure is what he wants to hear. He wants it to sound like he is imparting this kind of pleasure to you...

Does that help?