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This is *NOT* a creepy incest question about my step dad, so please don't think that! I have a question about nude photography?

So my mom and step dad have been together for almost 7 years. I have a great relationship with both of them. I can talk to my mom about all of the "girl" things, and I'm much closer (on a friend type level) with my step dad than my real dad, but I love them both the same. I saw my step dad naked when I was 15, and it was the first naked man I had ever seen. He didn't know I saw him at the time. Over the last few years, I have seen him naked or partially naked a few other times, all by accident. My mom has a real thing for pen*s, to the point where she will pause and rewind a movie if she sees a naked guy on the screen so she can see it again. She likes to look, but I don't think she's a perv, she just likes sex. Her and my step dad seem to be very much in love with each other. She doesn't know I've seen him naked. But once about a year ago, I accidentally walked in on him fully naked and there was nowhere for either of us to hide. So we actually stood there and talked for a couple minutes, and it was no big deal. So here's the big question. Recently he asked me if I would take pics of him for a Playgirl type calendar for my mom's birthday. Totally non-sexual. He's not asking for me to be naked, or to touch him, or anything like that. But he knows I've seen him naked before and he feels comfortable with me. I'm not sexually turned on by him at all, but he's not bad to look at, and it doesn't gross me out or anything. In fact, I prolly had a little crush on him when I was 14-15. I haven't told him yet if I will do it or not. But I won't tell my mom either way. If I decide no, then it's no. I would like to help him out and it won't bother me to do it, but at the same time I'm having a hard time with whether I should or not. Girls, would you do it if you were me? Do you need to ask me anything else before you answer? Guys just don't make it creepy about incest.
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It looks like most people are saying no and I appreciate everyone that took a minute to reply. I understand why some people would think that it's creepy, and it's impossible for me to explain here why I know its not. Thanks again to the non haters.
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I guess maybe I asked the question the wrong way. I don't have a problem with nudity, and this is totally NON-sexual. Would any girls say yes if they knew it wasn't going to be sexual at all? Just taking pics of a guy friend naked if not a relative?
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Still haven't told him yes or no. The update is that he's been working out more than ever and I feel like he wants to do this before he thinks he's too old to look good. Again, I understand why some people say he should hire a professional, but that's not what he feels comfortable doing. Thanks again to the non-haters that are not accusing me of being a troll when this is a serious question for me.
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UPDATE: I have decided to go ahead and try doing this for him in a couple of weeks. I will be cautious of what's going on, but I don't expect anything other than taking some tasteful naked pictures of him. I guess I will try to update here afterwards if that's possible (?). Thanks to everyone for their opinions - well at least the people who were nice about them - no matter what side they came down on.
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  • I understand that this all seems very innocent to you but I'm a little concerned that you feel so sure there's not something more going on here. I don't think most guys would ask their stepdaughter to take nude pictures of him unless he's trying to put the moves on her or at least wants her to see him sexually. I also think most wives would flip out if after they found out who took the pictures as well. Do you think your mom would see the situation the same way you do?

    I think it's important to ask yourself a few questions. For starters, how does a teenager "accidentally" see her step-dad's penis multiple times? Does he walk around or stand in open door ways naked when he knows you're home? Have you ever considered that he might have wanted you to see it? I can see it happening accidentally once, but multiple times begins looking less and less accidental. If you honestly didn't think there was any problem with it then why did you have to come on here to ask for our opinion? If there's any chance at all that this could be a misguided way of seducing you, don't do it.

    It could very well be innocent, but there's still a good chance it isn't. If you take the pictures, you're taking the chance that something could go wrong either with his behavior or with your mom's reaction. If you don't take the pictures, nothing bad will happen. And let's not forget, you're not his only option. There are tripods and photographers for this very kind of thing, so why ask his step-daughter?

    • thank you for your reply. I do have some stuff to think about for sure

  • If it is nothing sexual why should it matter? you are like best friends, and age does not matter in friendship. If you are really as comfortable as you say do it. but the fact that you asked the question means that there is something bothering you. find it, if it is a logical reason that is unconsciously make you doubtful then follow it and do not do, And if it is something unimportant that will not have any consequences then wipe it from your mind and do it for him as a close friends. everything you want to do do not think about morals or bad and good, only think about the reactions comes after your action and if they will harm you or not, and if harmless nothing is bad or wrong to do. done.

    • Thanks. That''s what I'm trying to figure out is why I'm hesitant in the first place. I appreciate your reply.

    • I think you still have a crush on him. But its still cool looking isn't touching. go for it.

  • Definite No No. I think it would be a little bizarre, and I'm sure your mother wouldn't be comfortable knowing you've seen her husband naked. Also, why does it have to be you? Just because he is comfortable? There are places I'm sure where he can go and do this professionally. It would not be a good position for you and him to be in a room alone, with no accountability while you take photos of him in a provocative way.

    • Thanks. This make the most sense of any NO answers I've read so far. Yeah I think it's bc I have seen him naked a few times, and we are both OK with it. Nothing has ever come close to being sexual or inappropriate. Plus, there's three kids in college at one time, so I doubt he has extra funds for a professional studio. Thanks for saying no without hating.

    • For sure! I think the underlying reason for my no, was more of the position that it would place you guys in with regards to accountability. Good luck on your decision!

  • i think it's fine. yes it's a strange situation but overall i think your mom would feel better if you took the photos than some other woman. she seems to embrace sex and you guys are close so im sure it will be fine. as long as he is not doing this to provoke anything (which it doesn't seem like that's case) then you should be alright! good luck :)

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  • Given that it's a playboy-style calendar for your mother, I think it counts as sexual, and you probably shouldn't be involved in their sex life.

    In an ideal world nudity would be no big deal, but this is still a grey area, I think.

    I recommend against it on the basis that kids should not, as a general rule, help their parents have sex.

    OTOH, if you want to see him naked and are okay with possible sexual tension, go for it... well, still iffy, given the power differential, but you're an adult and can do as you please!

    (As a guy, I will point out that it would be terribly difficult for me to be in a situation like that and not be sexually attracted to you - you're the child of your mother, to whom he is definitely attractive, so you probably have some of her traits, and are at least somewhat attractive to him. Weighing against that is society saying "ew!" I'm pretty okay with nudity (and would be in front of my kids), but I don't think I'd go as far as photography. But those are just my thoughts - your father may feel differently)

  • Im really undecided over this, in some european countries its normal for practically all the family to wander around nude in saunas/swimming pools and beaches and no one cares. But only if there is no sexual element whatsoever.
    But on the hand, this guy shouldn't be asking his daughter in law to take nude pictures of him for her mother. I can see this getting out of hand, what if he "needs to get an erection" for one of them and starts masturbating, I can't help thinking there's another agenda in his mind and that he is using the guise of this calender to cover it up. You choice either way but just know how sexually wired men are please before you get yourself into this.

    • Thanks. I appreciate what you've said and I get why some people might think that.

    • How did it turn out?

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  • I understand you don't want it viewed as creepy but it is a little 'off' for him to ask you to do this. Plus - what happens when it might become he needs you to photo him while erect? You'll at least need clarification on this. Whatever you do please BE CAREFUL!

    Also if you are not going to tell your mother about this please keep one person you truly trust informed as to what he is asking. Tell them the whens, whys and hows so you have at least one person that can state that they were aware in case things happen to go badly. I say this only for your own protection and I hope you fully understand that. Good luck :)

    • Thank you. Also, I'm pretty sure he's looking for more tasteful and seductive pics, not p*rn, but I will ask more about that.

  • You shouldn't be the one taking the pictures even if he asked. The explanation to that is you shouldn't be seeing your mom's lover in nudity to begin with. Also, if you're the one taking the picture, then she'll be wondering who is seeing him and who was willing to take the picture. Even though it wasn't awkward between you and your step dad, it would be weird between you and your mom. No matter what it's going to come off the wrong way no matter how its explained. So you would have to decline even if you wanted to be generous. Hope this helps :)

    • Thanks for not making it sounds terrible. I hear what your're saying.

    • You're welcome! I just don't want you to get hurt and be able to see it from a greater perspective.

  • You can SAY this isn't creepy. But it is.
    He is trying to cleverly seduce you and has been subtly grooming you for years.

    • There's no way. I see how you could think that, but if he tried to touch me or anything, I'm sure he knows that I WOULD tell my mom. He's not up to that. I'm sure of it.

    • you're either brainwashed or incredibly naive. not sure if srs.

    • I am serious and I'm not brain washed. I'm not even trying to talk myself into it or out of it. And I'm 20 years old, not 15. What if he was just a good friend? Would you possibly say yes then if you were sure he wasn't after sex?

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  • It art, though it's your stepfather.

    • Thanks. So you voted yes?

    • Yes. My grandparents are hippies and raised my father as such so I was brought up around naked artwork and taught that the human body is beautiful, which it is. It's sweet that he wants to make this for your mother, though some may see it as "weird" or "gross" that he asked you. But you've already seen him nude and he feels comfortable around you in that setting BECAUSE there's no underlying sexual tension or hidden agenda. Do whatever you feel is right, but I don't think it's that strange. Besides he'll most likely be covered for the pictures like a carefully placed pillow or a humorous flower bush.

    • Thanks again I really appreciate a different view from someone that knows a little about it.

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  • That's a tricky one. did you ever make a decision on it?

    • I haven't yet, but after so many hater posts, I'm not talking about it here.

  • I say if you can't tell your mom your the one who took the photos then that's your answer right there.

    • yeah... that's kinda what I'm struggling with. I'm not sure if she would or wouldn't be OK with it, she might be. But I don't feel comfortable asking that question.

  • Sorry, but he needs to buy a tripod for his camera. Most all cameras have a timer on them for taking pictures by yourself for stuff like this. Whether his intentions are innocent or not, I think you taking them would be inappropriate.

    • exactly

    • Thanks. I DO appreciate the people that are saying NO without being mean. I haven't decided. That's why I asked in the first place.

    • I think you are genuinely a good person and want to help out with the creation of a unique gift for your mom. I just think at the end of the day your step dad being naked like that is really only something that should be shared between him and your mom.

  • Yeah, this one is tough to really comment on without knowing all parties involved. I do some amount of photography including a small amount of experience working with nude models. I can tell you that I was far more concerned with lighting and shadows and composition and trying to convey something than with the fact that there was a naked person of the opposite sex in front of me. That said, there is certainly potential for it to be weird between a step dad and teen (even if you are in your last year as a teen) step daughter. I'd suggest that he turn to a professional for this. Here is the thing there, most serious professionals (and many serious amateurs like my self) have had at least some exposure to nude photography. It shouldn't be hard to find someone for whom it is simply no big deal at all. If you live close to a big city there are surely photographers for whom this would not be seen as weird or anything. If you were in art/design school and had experience in this area already it would seem less out of sorts for him to ask but again it would take really knowing both of you to know. If you do agree to do it, perhaps suggest that you will need an assistant (of your choosing) to help. It is not at all uncommon for photographers to have assistants and it isn't that uncommon for models doing nude work to have someone with them. I'd think that the refusal of a photographers assistant or a models assistant would be a warning flag.

    Now... he may want to think about if he really wants these prints out there. It is hard to take back if they manage to leak out. If he is going to have them printed, what prevents an extra print being made or the image being stolen? Also he will have to ask questions to have nude photos printed. For example, you can't print nudes (even the most tasteful, artistic, furthest from p*rn ones) at many places like Wal-Mart where non-professionals may go. I'm not uptight about nudity (mine or others) but no way I'd want nudes of me taken.

  • he can find a real photographer and someone who's not his step-daughter to take these pictures. how do you think your mom would feel knowing that her daughter was taking p*rnographic photos of her husband?

    • It's not p*rn but I understand what you mean. I wish I had time to go into more details but it would take forever and people still would think something was up. And I get why some do, but there's not.

    • i don't think anything is up. I'm just saying that it isn't appropriate for an 18-24 year-old to take pictures of her father in the nude. again how would your mother feel? or how would you feel if you had a bf who asked your mom to sit in a room and take nudes of him? it is 100% p*rnography (printed or visual material containing the explicit description or display of sexual organs or activity, intended to stimulate erotic rather than) I'm not judging or saying you're bad or anything. I'm just saying it's not appropriate especially when you consider all parties involved

    • just have an open mind and try not to just look for the opinion that confirms what you want to hear. there is a lot more involved than whether it is incest or not (which it technically isn't).

  • That is wildly inappropriate

    • I get why you would think that bc you don't know me or him, but do you just say that it would be wildly inappropriate for anyone and everyone no matter what?

    • If "anyone" was a grown person trying to get a 15 year old to photograph them naked then yes. No matter what.

    • I'm not 15, I'm 20... we are BOTH adults.

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  • Absolutely not. This is a bad idea

  • I'd buy him a tripod instead so he can take those photos by himself =)

    • Thanks. He has one and he said he would try that if he has to, but we both know it would be impossible to make some really nice (tasteful-sexy) ones without someone helping take the pics. Appreciate a comment from a girl, bc I think a lot of guys are gonna assume he's perving on me and I know he's not. He could have been doing that for 7 years and he never once has!

    • I'd still be creeped out if I were you. How about you hire him a professional photographer instead? Tell him that you know this guy who knows his stuff when it comes to nude photography, which you know nothing of.

  • lets say even if you did agree to take the pics, wouldn't your mom wonder who was taking the pics?

    • we would take them so that it would look like he could have done them with a tripod and timer. Guys, please don't make it creepy. I understand why some people would say NO. That's exactly why I haven't given him my answer yet.

    • okay well if you already have your backup plan when your mom asks who took them then do as you feel. but I would personally say no.

    • she wouldn't be asking me, and he would never tell her it was me. We already know that. I;m just more worried I guess in my head about whether I should or shouldn't. I think of him as a second dad, but he's also a really good friend.

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  • I make no judgement here. But you should go into this with some perspective on the breadth and scope of possible (mis) interpretations of motivations. I would only recommend saying "yes" if your mother is ok with this. Otherwise say "no" -- to avoid provoking (severe) relationship difficulties by having to explain the situation after-the-fact.

    • Thanks.

  • The question is you shouldn't even be considering it. Should have said NO straight away. He's your father even if not by blood. Your mother is with him so he is a father to you. Would you take pics of your own father. Its disgusting to even think about it and yet here you are asking us if you should go ahead or not. Not only that you've seen him naked and you stood there talking - makes me want to puke - yuck - why not walk away

    • It's easy to be a hater on the Internet I know. I was just asking for opinions. You don't have to be ugly about it. But it's cool. I'm not a hyper sensitive baby, and I knew ahead of time that some people would respond this way. I'm just trying to sort through the more thoughtful replies, whether they say yes or no. Thanks.

    • just cause I said the truth makes me a hater well idc are about that. I'm not being ugly - if you call truth ugly then yeah I am and I'm happy about that. But with my morals etc the way I've been raised this is totally wrong. In my culture stepfather or blood father - as far as your mum is with him - he automatically becomes a father to the child. That's what you've grown up calling him. That's his role in your life. Yet you have seen him naked and are to some extent ready to take his nude pics. A right that only your mother should have. Well in my eyes THAT is beyond disgusting. If you don't like what I say then its not my fault

    • I hear what you're saying. Just didn't need all of the "disgusting, yuck, puke" comments to make your point, as you don't know him or me. Thank you for your opinion. It is noted.

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  • Well I don't know what your mom is gonna think when she asks who took the nude pics. Oh wait, I have a good idea...

  • Why the hell would a mother want a nude calendar of her own kid? seriously wtf is wrong with this world.

    • Dude... it would be a calendar of her HUSBAND. Don't be an a$$hole.

    • its just wrong, accept it :)

    • If youve already made up your mind then why even bother asking

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  • FYI, what your step father is asking, is not, none-sexual as you say. It is in fact very much a sexual thing. Why else would he ask his step child to photograph him naked? Tell him to hire a photographer, and he will see how creepy he is. If your under age, tell an adult you trust about his request.

  • if u have to think twice about doing it then don't do it!

  • If your comfortable with doing and there's no incest involved like you said, go ahead and do it.

    • thanks. Still gonna think about it for a couple days.

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