I'm asexual, should I kill myself?

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So I'm asexual and I'm VERY concerned about that, and even planning to commit suicide as an option because of my asexuality. I'm asexual and I hate masturbating (A few asexuals do this and like this.) and sex and think that they're gross. I don't even like nudity and think it's gross. I want a girl to spend my life with in my life because someday my parents will die, get too old to take care of me and all, and I want a girl to love and share my life with. I feel that EVERYONE will automatically write me off because of my asexuality because even though sex is only 1% or 2% of life, a small part of life, I think they still need it sometimes and that asexuals aren't their type to be in a relationship with. I feel that no sexual will want to be with me and that I will never find an asexual because they're so rare. Only 5% is asexual and that 5% is little and rare and must be EXTREMELY hard to find. Will I be lonely forever because of my asexuality? Am I worthless junk because of it? If so, I don't know what to do than just end my life. I haven't really talked to anyone about it except my mom who's sexual just like my dad and she said "You can't say that you're asexual, no girl will want to be with you if you say you're asexual. You have to say that you're sexual and wanna have sex and sexually masturbate sometimes! I'm sure that this is just a late phase you're going through, you'll become sexual and have desire to have sex and maybe masturbate.". I'm pretty sure that this isn't a late phase like she said and all, I'm pretty sure that it's permanent, and I can't lie saying that I'm sexual when I'm not and the complete opposite, asexual. And no, I haven't tried dating any girl yet, I don't have any experience of dating at all and I'm very shy.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

i think what you are lacking is something in life that is FULFILLING. i was divorced and did not date or have any sex or anyone in my life for years after. i somehow didn't miss the sex (and i have a big drive) but i had something else in my life that fulfilled me. You may just be lacking that. Don't think that one thing may necessarily be another person. It may be something you like to do, Keep looking but don't limit your looking to a person or a type of person. Expand it to try out things in life, travel, try different jobs etc. things where you meet people that are all different. For instance they say waiters and waitresses meet such a big variety of people. you may not be exposed to the type of person you want to meet, but they may expose you to something they do in life that piques your interest. Don't give up. Open your mind to more than what you are currently seeking.

angryspongebob · Accepted Answer

Please don't kill yourself! Sex isn't everything and there's so much more to live for than that. Maybe you could try being in a relationship with someone else who is asexual, with the internet and whatnot it is so much easier to meet people. Honestly, sex isn't that important, and there are better ways to feel close with someone. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being asexual, best of luck to you in finding happiness!

manyQandAs · Accepted Answer

One of my closest and dearest friends is an ace. She doesn't believe she'll find anyone either. Maybe there are ace dating sites and communities out there you could get into? Find some hobbies and passions to fulfill you in the meantime. Find love for other people and things in your life.

abzence · Accepted Answer

You should be happy that your dick doesn't control and run your life like it does for many guys.
Embrace your ability to think clearly and ability to form meaningful relationships with other people not only based on lust and desire.

If you are a little open minded then a possibility would be that you actually have a relationship with a girl and let her have sex with someone else that you know so you don't have to find a girl that is asexual. Or perhaps she will be fine with handling that part herself with masturbation alone as long as you love her and are affectionate in other areas outside sex. At least I think that would be a better option than suicide.

ajay143 · Accepted Answer

See at some point of time everyone will think like you only. So that reason u shouldn't kill urself. Be confident on u and behave like a guy. consult a best doctor or physiologist for this reason u can resolve it soon. See everyone having problems and depressions, God gave everyone strength to high and be happy. U also think in that way and go ahead. Life is crazy dude, we shouldn't disappoint for silly reasons. Or u just get some call girls and sleep with them for few days definitely u will get a change. Take care.

Paris13 · Answer

@ChloeStarfire "And OH, Aunt Em!!!"xx

Love61268 · Answer

I think u should just find some one u love girl or guys does not matter and if they love u they might be ok with it don't kill ur self just find some thing u rely want to do with ur life any thing works just find it and live of that if it's to work to making something or righting a book to help people In ur sitchwashion just don't kill ur self ur hear for a reason and who knows what is after all this it could be shit compared to this world just don't kill ur self

Emma_Edw · Answer

Your sexuality is a part of you. You should NEVER think about killing yourself just because of who you are! I myself am asexual. It used to be hard to adapt to life with my sexuality, but you get used to it. I am much happier than I was before, and I believe you will be too.

kheserthorpe · Answer

You're right. If you're asexual, most sexuals will not be happy married to you.

So if its not a phase, start finding asexuals. Yes there aren;t that many. So what, they're out there, find them. Maybe you will eventually have to move to be with your life partner. That's hardly worth something to kill yourself over.

poppsypink21 · Answer

You have so much more to live for that. That fact you would even consider killing yourself because you are asexual actually really upsets me. Having lost 2 family members myself to suicide, I don't take people threatening to do it very lightly. Please just think about everything else in your life you have to live for. There is so much more to life honestly.

Jakey_Bodge · Answer

Create a baby even if it kills you! then commit suicide! The earth is growing at a rapid rate! One suicide along with millions of others won't hurt! One born every minute, one die every minute!

trippps · Answer

Of course you shouldn't kill yourself. There are other people out there that are disinterested in sex, and there are even dating sites for them. But please if you are thinking about killing yourself, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

yaddayaddayadda02 · Answer

You should not kill yourself at all. Yeah, the reality is that you're cutting out a huge dating pool because many people want sex. That doesn't mean it's impossible.

I'm sure there are asexual dating sties and services. Look into those.

chocolatedragon · Answer

Here's an asexual dating site. You're welcome.

Vviiccttoorr · Answer

Absolutely not bro; killing yourself is NEVER the answer because, you will miss out on the rest of your life and truly hurt the ones you love. Even though you might think the rest of your life won’t be good without possibly getting a woman; that’s not true. Someone with a good heart like you will always have a happy ending whether you have a girl or not. Tribulations only make someone stronger and is something everyone has; just know that happiness can come from a greater place. I would say try and find someone who is asexual or try to find someone who will still appreciate you and want a life with you even with your sexuality. Also something I would recommend I’d pray to God; the creator. Even if you’re not religious it doesn’t hurt please trust me with that. Go to a priest or spiritual director because, they have a lot of wisdom. Again even if you’re not religious it doesn’t hurt, give it a try and look for someone who will still want to be with you whether they are asexual or not. try looking at a dating site like that and LMK

GiveitaShance · Answer

A fellow asexual here: i used to feel that way in high school. I hadn't figured myself out back than and I always wondered what was wrong with me and why I was different. I know that parents want what they think is best and a lot of them expect grandbabies. If having children is not for you than dont force yourself out of your comfort zone. You are only going to hate yourself more for resenting the kids you didn't want. Otherwise, if you want kids they don't necessarily have to be biological. You can always adopt. As for partners, you have to ask yourself if it is actually something you want. If it is you have to put yourself out there. They even have daring apps for asexuals

beastman88 · Answer

it seems like you base a lot of happiness if not all of it on the opposite sex so it definitely doesn't seem like you're asexual. life is really tough though, but please dont give up. happiness comes from within not the outside world

Crazyced · Answer

Is there a medical reason why you are still depending on your parents and plan to be until they pass away? Asexual people can live a fulfilling life. But an adult should strive to be independent of their parents. I think it's definitely part of a fulfilling life.

TyLeeAndPink · Answer

Wow I came across this and it's old, but what the—who tells people to kill themselves? Despicable! As a fellow asexual, I'm glad you found closure. Also there is a dating app for asexuals called AsexualCupid. You don't need to do the nasty to find fulfillment and there are certainly women out there who will appreciate you even without—you know. The right one's out there waiting for you, and I hope you're able to find her soon!

BloodLust929 · Answer

I'm not asexual, but I have other limiting factors that will probably make it next to impossible to find the right person. Just try not to focus on finding a partner so much. I'm just concentrating on getting through school and getting my career off the ground. There is more than one way to have fullfillment in your life, and if you get some aspects of your life together, other's might start to fall into place.

the_imperfectionist · Answer

i'm asexual, ik what it feels like, but im not suicidal, its the last phase u end up when you've exhausted your full level of depression and have lost hope, dont. Its a lot to bear if you haven't found something you like to fill the gap, it sounds ridiculous but when i reach that lonely stage I eat icecream. for women, give it a try and dont start off with "i'm asexual" like it's some sort of warning, understand women or the orrientation that you may have interest in and see what theyre like

catsandbroadway · Answer

WHO EVER TF SAID TO KILL YOURSELF IMMA BEAT YOUR ASS

my_answer_is · Answer

no you shouldn't kill yourself, and dont you erectile any?

tearout · Answer

GOD is above the dome stop making excuses  you are no asexual  your feelings do not matter

BellendBob · Answer

Be happy, it's a good thing tbh

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