Why do some guys stare at the girl when he is fingering her?

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Guys: Why do some guys stare at the girl when he is fingering her? Does it turn you on or are you just trying to see her reaction?Girls: How do you feel when the guy stares at you when he is fingering you? Does it turn you on?I ask this because I was fooling around with this guy and he was fingering me and kissing me and stuff during it. There were times when he would get on his knees while fingering me and just watch me. I was just wondering why he did that. My eyes were close as I was enjoying it and whenever I would open them he would look away from me.

Sensiblelady · Accepted Answer

It's a visual thing. Guys naturally are more stimulated by visual. That's why they instantly get s boner just by seeing a girl in a small dress. So, while he's just watching your reaction:

One- to see if what he's doing is right.

Two- because it's a turn on for him to see how much he's pleasuring you.

Three- it boosts his ego and self esteem knowing he can bring you pleasure just with a couple fingers. You know how guys are.. Hahah.

I personally love it when my boyfriend watches me. It sounds creepy, but it's true! I LOVE the fact that he is getting turned on just by seeing me all hot and bothered. And not to mention, I feel loved because there's that bond. And when I actually do open my eyes, I see not only the lust, but also a lot of love in his eyes.

So if you ask me, it's totally natural and definitely not creepy. Especially if you are in love. Hope this helped! :)

aly-marie · Accepted Answer

I guess I like it, especially just the eye contact. He'll usually just stare into my eyes if I'm too distracted to kiss him haha, so it's nice. He told me he likes to do that because he can kind of see the pleasure in my eyes, but he also likes when I can't even keep my eyes open lol.

defygrav12 · Accepted Answer

I like him staring at me, to be honest, 'cause I feel like it's turning him on, and so that turns me on, etc. etc. :) Mine sometimes will touch me as I touch him, and I've noticed him watching my face a couple times, so I think it's just some kind o visual stimulation.

DutchAtheist · Accepted Answer

I saw an experiment once where they tracked eye movement of men watching p*rn.
Everyone expected the men to focus on the genitals and breasts, even the subjects themselves.
Truth was, the men spent the majority of the time looking at the girl's faces.

When they did the same experiment with women, they found that they indeed focussed on the penis.

The explanation given was that in a man, you can tell he is aroused by his erection more than anything.

In women though, the biggest give away is facial expressions. Men seek for confirmation that the woman is aroused and thus focus on her face.

sadnddepressed · Accepted Answer

i don't necessarily stare but I do look for the reactions, its the only thing that lets me know if I'm doing right. If I am and the reactions are what I expect them to be then it turn me on. Either way I'm good at it so I guess its just another way to get more into it.

TheoryOfAvarice · Answer

I've always kinda wondered that too. I assume they're just watching your reactions.

I guess it does turn me on, though more so if we're making eye contact. Hah, and yeah, if my eyes are closed, it's not going to make much a difference if he's staring or not.

jpk1976 · Answer

Both reason are correct. It's to see your reaction to what he is doing, if what he is doing, does he do it a bit longer then if it is something you don't like? It's a turn on for him knowing that with just a fingering he can bring you pleasure.

bec-jess · Answer

it changes but my ex would stare sometimes because watching my reactions would turn him on. i didn't find it creepy at all I kinda liked see his reaction to me getting off...

SavannahBanana · Answer

I'd prefer to just be making out with them. I think the guy just sitting there staring at me would be creepy. Or maybe staring in my eyes. That's about it though.

scnbabe89 · Answer

maybe he wants to see your face while your getting turned on lol

Dela1111 · Answer

I don't really stare at the girl when I'm fingering her, the guy should be kissing you or something.  Jeez what a creeper.

OliviaCx · Answer

i think it’s sexy haha they just wanna see you moaning

Philyouup · Answer

we are visual and we love looking at sexy stuff.. :)

manmeat · Answer

ye he's trying to gauge if he's doing it right and giving you most pleasure

Tburg · Answer

It's very sexy to watch the expressions

schizotypical · Answer

Emotional connection

Seppelson · Answer

Knowing her reaction and of course it make them horny

Cheyna-rox · Answer

My boyfriend fingered me , when I was on top of him he put his hands down my panties, touched my clitoris turned me on , he inserted his finger inside of my vagina (I got wet down there really quick) he was watching me , he said I was sexy moaning and he kissed me and fingered me at the same time. Damn it felt so good

william901 · Answer

Most guys are absolutely fascinated by the vagina. That may sound bizarre to you but believe me we love how it looks, feels and yes - smells. For us the perfumed aromas of an aroused vagina is maddeningly erotic and arousing. Nature has built us that way no different from a peacock displaying its feathers to attract a mate. When you find him staring don’t be anxious, he’s loving it. He may look away from embarrassment but take pleasure in his curiosity and desire for body. Good sex.

Anonymous · Answer

Her facial expression

Anonymous · Answer

I never notice because I usually close my eyes or have my head back, but I don’t mind.

Anonymous · Answer

Same! This guy was fingering me on my bed and he first looked at my pussy while his fingers slides in and out and then he would just like daydream into my face and look at me moan. I don't know if i should try to hold my moan in or ask him whats wrong