I've been seeing a guy with a really... really small penis. I can't believe how small it is and it doesn't satisfy me at all. What do I do?

[Anonymous]

I've been seeing this guy for 2 months now and he is literally perfect. He has the best personality and we get along amazing. He's so much fun, not to mention ridiculously good looking and has a lot of similar interests as me. I love being with him. One major problem though... he has the smallest penis I've ever seen in my life. It's not normal. And I hate that it affects me so much because I feel like a shallow bitch. But it really does bother me. When it's not hard it's like an inch and a half long. I'm not even exaggerating. Sometimes he can't even get it hard. I'm a very, very sexual person and this is really bothering me. I don't want to say it's a deal breaker because that just seems so rude of me, but I don't know how to deal with it or if there's anything we can do to fix this little "problem." I can barely feel it when it's inside me. He's amazing when it comes to pleasing me with his mouth and fingers, but I want to be able to have sex with him and thoroughly enjoy it. I can tell he's really self conscious about it too but we've never talked about it. I don't know what to do. I feel terrible that I'm letting something like this bother me but I don't know what to do. Is there anything he can do or take to make it, I don't know, work better? Be bigger? Thanks everyone for any advice.

[Realistic07]

Lets talk about sexually compatibility Because that is the issue you are having right now. First off do not feel bad or treat yourself badly because of this Sometimes people even the best of matches mentally are not so much a match physically, or sexually witch is the case. You have sexual expectations of a man because you have developed wants and needs personal to yourself there is nothing wrong with that it is just a personal preference and choice that you have made for yourself. Sex is a major part of a relationship and if one person is not pleased with it that situation can begin to wear or even break the best of mental matches. As humans we need sex it is a primal urge to want to mate and feel closer with another person. It is a normal reaction that and if those urges are not satisfied in certain way specific to ones self or ones own needs as a human it begins to effect ones psychological balance suddenly you may feel more aggressive, depressed, angry, sad, or annoyed with the situation; even to the point where those feelings begin to were on your opinion of the other person or the relationship in general. It is not your fault that you have certain needs that he can not meet and it is not his fault that he can not meet them do to his own personal size issue so do not feel bad or be made feel bad. It is simply a lack of sexual and physical compatibility t'is nature it's just that simple. The question is do you feel that in this situation you can continue being with him in this relationship? Don't feel bad if you say you can't and don't feel committed to be with someone out of any form of guilt because that is just as bad. Simply make a choice for yourself. there are women out there that not only like smaller men but do not have the vaginal capability to handle larger men or even average sized men so there are women out there for him should you choose to end the relationship.

[Realistic07]

If you stay know that you do it not out guilt, but simply out of the want to be with him that you will sacrifice that part of yourself knowing what i said may happen or come to pass. So make your choice with out worry of guilt.

[Realistic07]

so what would you like to do?

[Asker]

I love him as a person. He is amazing in every single way I can't say one bad thing about him. He's an awesome, fun, hilarious person. But I am a very sexual person. I love sex. We have amazing chemistry when we hook up.. I need to be able to FEEL something physically, not mentally, when we're in bed together. And I don't. He satisfies me in other ways, but I wish he could satisfy me with his penis. I don't know if it's really going to be a deal breaker because like I said he is an awesome person and good to me and I love spending time with him. We do have a very strong sexual chemistry so that's not the problem. I don't know if it's some sort of medical condition... I feel like if it were he would have talked to a doctor about it and filled me in. So I don't know if I should bring it up at all. It's very awkward.

[Realistic07]

I get where your coming from, but try to understand a lot of the things you have describes are the descriptions of a friend that you may have or do some sexual activity with. Not necessarily what by your definition of him that you would consider a boyfriends sexually compatibility with you. Don't get me wrong he probably is everything that you describe him as nice, kind, fun all that jazz, But that being said you have options. Now you can talk with him about it that's for sure Just remember he could be sensitive about it so don't be hesitant in asking just be strait with him. a lot of times people think to sugar coat it or talk around it but it's better to be not extremely direct, but a little bit quicker to the point. Your right Maybe he can see a doctor there are also penis shaped sleeves he could where over his penis that adds thickness and length to what he has now so that would help your satisfaction but maybe not his. Sit with him and talk to him and together make a choice.

[Realistic07]

He may want to change things about himself and see a doc but he may not also. You have to really at the end of it all make a choice for yourself.

[Realistic07]

it sounds selfish and maybe it is a little but every one has preferences and needs that they with in themselves know they need. So it really is just a persons own needs and nature that determines the sexually preference.

[Realistic07]

So don't feel bad about what ever you decide.

[Asker]

ugh thank you. I really like him a lot so I don't think his size will be a deal breaker. If he lies or cheats or does something completely disrespectful.. that will be a deal breaker in my eyes. I'll just have to find other ways to be sexual with him :)

[Realistic07]

well if that is what you choose. I suggest bringing toys in to the sexual relationship you have with him and maybe trying new things in bed like different positions that will shorten the vaginal canal so you can feel him more like laying on your side in the cradle position with your legs closes and him kneeling and entering in the vagina from the back. that will tighten the canal and shorten its length considerably allowing you to feel him more.

[WCM78]

... & this is why a lot of guys have penis insecurity...

Honestly, you shouldn't be too hard on yourself. Sexual satisfaction is important in any romantic relationship; anyone who tells you otherwise is lying to you. And while I really feel bad for this guy, he can't help what he was born with. And there's nothing safe he can do to change it.

If you two aren't willing to try toys (I hear there's penis shealths now), then just end the relationship. Make up an excuse, though it's a safe bet he'll know why you're ending it. Chances are, he's had to endure this before, so he'll likely find a way to get over it.

Do what you feel is best for you. Just remember, he did nothing wrong. Things, sometimes, just don't work out.

[BertMacklinFBI]

that's what im saying lol. fucking end it or deal with it.

[Asker]

"fucking end with it or deal with it" ok chill out dude I was just seeing if there was anything he could do to maybe fix this not only for my sake but for his as well because I'm sure he'd like to fix it if he could

[BertMacklinFBI]

its hard to convey tone through text, im actually quite tame right now:D I should've added emoticons lol.

[WCM78]

There really isn't much "fixing" that can done without risking permanent damage to himself. And he knows his penis size, he's simply doing what billions of women around the world say to do: Try to be confident & work with what he has. It's clear your pleasure is important to him, based on how much work he puts into other aspects of sex, but sometimes it's not enough. It just is what it is. It really does come down to 3 choses: deal with it, introduce toys (which, actually can be fun regardless of penis size), or end the relationship. I DO NOT recommend an open relationship in this case, as that would cause his insecurity/anxiety to spiral out of control. I've seen it happen, in talking with clients at the counseling center... just don't.

[Asker]

I would never even think about having an open relationship with anyone... especially because someone isn't as "equipped" as I'd like them to be. That's just horrible. I'd like to introduce the idea of toys, but again, I don't know how to go about it. I know either way I will end up hurting his feelings a little bit and I don't want to. Either way, it's an awkward situation.

[WCM78]

Of course it's an awkward situation. And this situation is one of two where men & women can never truly understand the other side. You say he's an amazing man. You know this is an issue for you. I promise you, however bad you feel about it, it's worse for him. He knows what he was born with isn't ideal, let alone average. And he likely has already seen a physican about it. For him to talk to you about it, he HAS to know he can trust you not to hurt him. Keep that in mind. As for the toys... start off with vibrators & work your way up. Look into penis shealths. Go to a sex shop together, for the sake of "taking your sex life to a new level." If you love this man, you will find a way WITHOUT risking your satisfaction or his ego. Be tactful, but be brave.

[EllieLucy]

Well you've got three reasonable options in my eyes.
1. Leave him. Sex is a pretty big part of a relationship. Don't feel bad for letting it get to you... connecting sexually with your partner is a massive deal!
2. Talk to him about it. This is the hardest one (no pun intended). If you really care and want to stay with him, tell him the truth. Try out some toys etc. It'll obviously affect him, but at some point someone will tell him.
3. Deal with it. Don't say anything and enjoy the foreplay.

Good luck!

[JHAYES317]

@ellielucy no guy would ever consent to a penis extender unless they were literally micro

[SquishyHarpSeal]

REALLY?

Someone can have a once inch penis?

I thought 5 inches was small...

I don't think I can offer advice besides either put up with it, maybe toys, or move on.
Unless he is willing to have another dude join you who is well endowed. heehee

[JHAYES317]

@squishyharpseal…5 in is average so you need to get a reality check

[whattothink]

You can't change what he has going on. But even if it seems horrible if you know you could never be satisfied with what he has, it is best to end it before you either cheat on him or resent him for leaving you so unsatisfied.

[JHAYES317]

@whattothink if a girl leaves it on the guy to make her satisfied…then she shouldn’t have been in a relationship in the first place…it is not up to the guy to make her happy she needs to be happy without anyone else’s involvement then he adds to it

[Azara]

he can wear a strap on. they make them for small guys to put around the penis but still exposing the bottom so he's feeling your vag.

[JHAYES317]

@azara unless the guy is literally micro, no one would go for that

[katiesmuff]

Ask him if it would be alright if you got a few FWB's with big dicks because that tiny useless thing he is packing isn't doing the trick.

[GrowStrong]

LMAO! so if say your vagina was the size of a bucket, would it be okay if your husband got " a few fuck bddies" because with your vagina its like throwing a sausage down a hallway? what a dumb ass. you know how many mental scars that would leave? the poor guy would kill himself!

[Insaan]

Useless women. How the fuck you became master here. You are a class less characterless women.

[Encolpius]

@GrowStrong I know, right? Could she be any more insensitive?

[katiesmuff]

GrowStrong maybe he should! And yes a guy should if he had a woman with a pussy like you describe.

[katiesmuff]

Insaan Maybe but I am the MASTER so guess your opinion is somewhat worthless

[WCM78]

No reason to jump down the woman's throat, fellas. It make be insensitive, but this is the internet. You have no baring on each other's lives.

[Insaan]

@WCM78 I have no problem with her choice of men or any women's affinity towards big dicks. Also i had not criticized asker because i have understanding that small size like 1or 2 inch is unsatisfactory. But the way this opinion owner decided a man's worth by size of the member and terming it "useless" and telling her to compromise the relationship by getting fucked by other men while in relationship shows how shallow she is and probably the reason why these women nowadays are treated like sex object by many men frequently. Yeah bro , this is internet and have no baring.

[WCM78]

@Insaan I get it. What she said is what a lot of guys deal with, or worse. Women with that menality aren't worth much but a cheap thrill. But 1) She was trolling & 2) If she wasn't, so what? Simply do to her what guys all around the world do to women like that: ignore her. I'm inclined to believe she was just trolling.

[JHAYES317]

@katiesmuff any self respecting man would dump you on the spot for that suggestion

[GrowStrong]

ok if your ever n the situation to talk to him about this. refer him to www.pegym.com its a forum of men who exercise their penises to get bigger. iv done these exercises and iv grown 1.3" so it DOES work. but takes a lot of time and effort to get the rewards from it. im now 7.5"

its nothing to be ashamed about not being satisfied with a smaller penis. a lot of men on here are going to judge you for it though since they dont know what to fook its like to be on the recieving end but size does matter to most women to a degree, generally average and above is what they want, nothing smaller.

[SandPlanet]

If he can't sexually satisfy you, I'm afraid a relationship with him will not be possible.

[JHAYES317]

@sandplanet…false…plenty of women are in relationships with paraplegics who can’t have sex…the guy still has a tongue right? Unless she can only come from intercourse, she’d be shallow af to dump him over that

[Leavesbound]

Short of surgery, there is not much that can be done permanently. But there may be some things that can help you out with this. find a good penis pump. Get the kind that is made for medical treatment of E. D. they usually come with clips that go around the base of the penis. Follow the instructions. They work temporarily and should add an inch to the length and perhaps up to a quarter inch or possibly as much as a half inch to the diameter or 3/4" to 1.5" to the girth. This will give him added pleasure while he is fucking you though often it is difficult for a guy to cum when using one. These can make a small one average or an average one big. they are not a perfect solution but may make the difference between keeping him and breaking up with him. Also, doggy style will add friction. another solution is they make extensions he can wear that can make it feel like he is fucking you with a larger penis

[gblue25]

height has nothing to do with size. But if you enjoy being in relationship with him and he treats you very good. You might be able to make suggestions and talk to him about it

[cavmanier]

I realize he's perfect now but you've been dating 2 months. Wait till you live together :p Okay he may be perfect besides his penis regardless but I don't think you're wrong for wanting a regular sized one. Lots of girls are okay with more oral and lots of others have very low sex drives. Maybe he would be more compatible with them. I see zero wrong with this being a deal breaker. It's your life :) If you want other people to control how you live it by making you feel bad about your preferences, go for it.

Besides that there are a few surgeries that aren't that appealing IMO. Obviously talking to him may be necessary. I feel really bad for him. He's not doomed though. Like I said, many girls are okay with the tongue or sex twice a year.

[Asker]

he's a very sexual person though like when we're together he can't keep his hands or mouth off of me lol. I don't think it's really a deal breaker for me since he obviously pleases me in other ways. I just was wondering if there's anything that can be done to sort of improve his situation.

[cavmanier]

I've heard of some new experimental surgeries overseas where they are putting silicone in it and making it longer. I don't think it's available to the public. Here right now you basically cut the suspensory ligament and get maybe an inch and the other is sewing cadavar tissue around it to increase girth. I believe that one lowers sensitivity though because that skin covers his. I don't know much about the stretching thing guys are doing but it seems like that takes years and there may be side effects because it's new. Other than that stick with oral IMO. You two will figure out a satisfying sex life.

[BertMacklinFBI]

there is no problem with him, that's the body he was born with. the problem is all on you, he probably doesn't care he has a small dick because he knows how awesome he is and when he truly is with the girl he that deserves him it definitely won't even be on the list of things to be concerned about.

nothing to fix here about him honestly:P and if you're considering penis enhancement that could be detrimental to his health in the future, depending on how you go about doing it.

it sounds like this is a bigger problem than you make it out to be so i honestly would suggest you make a decision soon either be with him for all he has or don't. cause you're not being fair to him or yourself. no matter how great he is, if you're not satisfied then keep looking, otherwise you're only setting yourself up for disappointment in the future.

[lukino]

Is he skinny?

[Asker]

no he has an amazing body he's a baseball player... he went to school for free because of baseball. he's about 6'2".. very muscular. it doesn't make sense to me.

[lukino]

That is very strange. A guy with his height, along with a jacked body should be the opposite

[lukino]

Have you considered that his blood flow isn't normal? Like any health problems he may have

[GrowStrong]

wtf are you on about height and body type has nothing to do with penis size -.-

[lukino]

Height and body type does play a role though. A doubt a 7' basketball player has a tiny

[Encolpius]

There's absolutely no correlation between height and penis size.

[Asker]

I've considered the possibility that its some sort of medical condition or something because it just doesn't make sense at all. But I also figured he has to be aware that the size of it is not normal so if it were some sort of condition he would talk to me about it but he hasn't. So I don't know what to think.

[lukino]

He's definitely self conscious so he doesn't want to talk about it, but I don't blame him because any guy would feel the same way. You need to bring it up to him and tell him he should ask the doctor if it is a medical condition. It would probably help if the doctor was female

[Asker]

I have no idea how to bring it up to him though. I don't want to hurt his feelings.

[lukino]

Bring it up because it will hurt him more if he knows you are bothered but aren't truthful

[Asker]

how?

[lukino]

Well when you are sitting down and just talking to him I guess. If you do it before you have sex, it'll ruin the mood... so maybe on a night when you're just in bed?

[Asker]

I just don't know what to say or how to even bring it up.

[lukino]

Do you remember when you were in 4th grade and you had a crush on that one boy going down the slide? Instead of flirting with him you probably made fun of him. This is gonna take that same kind of courage and I believe in you

[QuickC]

No you can't increase the size of a cock.
If he agrees you should have another partner.
Better cock.

[DeadBattery]

It is your decision to make. Depending on whether you prefer love or sex.

[Anonymous]

I guess you should consider sex positions that makes the vagina tighter for him to penetrate.
m. sofeminine. co. uk/sex-sexuality/sex-positions-for-small-penis-d49607. html

[Anonymous]

"He's amazing when it comes to pleasing me with his mouth and fingers" If that's not enough for you perhaps you could consider getting him to use a dildo and then just take turns satisfying each other.

[Anonymous]

How big is it hard?
If that's the only issue you have with the guy and the oral sex and foreplay is good I don't see why you would leave the guy. Your just gonna keep talking to guys and they won't be as good as this guy. Most of your time is going to be hanging out with him and not banging him

[Asker]

I agree. I think it's something I can work past.

[Opinion Owner]

It seems like most girls prefer great oral than great sex

[Asker]

not me, I prefer great sex. I'm way too sexual of a person I need both of us to be involved together

[Opinion Owner]

How small is it hard that it makes it so bad?

[Asker]

like 3.5 inches :( I think he has a "micropenis" as someone mentioned on here. I guess it is an actual condition.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah that's a condition. I dont know if 3.5 inches counts as that or not but regardless it's small

[Encolpius]

A micropenis is 2.5 standard deviations from the mean penis size, so I don't think 3.5 inches would be considered a micropenis from a medical standpoint. Just below average.

[Asker]

but does that mean 2.5 when it's hard?

[Encolpius]

Yes.

[Encolpius]

Well I mean 2.5 standard deviations, which technically works out to around 2.5 inches hard.

[Encolpius]

It depends on what the average size is.

[Anonymous]

So what I've seen from your comments... 6'2 very muscular etc, but tiny penis? Do you know if he maybe uses steroids?

[Asker]

he definitely does not use steroids. he's been very tall since we were kids. and he's not a meat head looking type of guy at all. he's just nice and toned. definitely no steroroids.

[GrowStrong]

lol steroids doesn't make your penis smaller im know from first hand experience. the shit some people come up with...

[Opinion Owner]

Hmmm okay t'was just a thought :)

[Anonymous]

I'd dump him and move on to someone more physically pleasing.

[Anonymous]

If he's really that size, then he should talk to a doctor about treatment for micro penis. They can do surgery (or maybe hormone treatment if he's young enough).

Short of that, there's not much that can be done. If he's not willing to see a doctor, then you're best off ending it, because the lack of satisfaction will eventually wear you down.

[Asker]

I don't want to make him go see a doctor. He's never mentioned it to me like we've never talked about his size so I'm not sure if he's just too embarrassed to talk about it or if it genuinely doesn't bother him. But I can tell it does because he gets frustrated sometimes. I love hanging out with him, he satisfies me in other ways so I don't want to leave him based on his size. That's not fair. Should I suggest seeing a doctor? This is awkward.

[Opinion Owner]

Micro penis is a legit medical condition, and it can be treated. I don't really know how you could bring it up without hurting his feelings, though. I would try to make him understand that he's perfect for you, and that you want him to be healthy.

[GrowStrong]

micro penises is something under 3.5" so he might not get treatment. the doctor will likely tell him to use a penis pump of sort which does nothing for length anyway. like i said refer him to the website i showed you its a goldmine for penis enhancement

[Opinion Owner]

Oh, I just saw that he was an inch and a half soft, not hard... How big is he erect?

[Opinion Owner]

@GrowStrong It's my understating that micro penis is more like 2.5" and under.

[GrowStrong]

does that constructively change anything from what i said?

[Asker]

when he's hard it's probably like 3.5 inches... but sometimes he can't even get it hard

[Opinion Owner]

Well, that's depressing to hear... I'm 4" :(

[Opinion Owner]

I've been worrying a lot about whether my girlfriend will be okay with mine. We're both virgins, and she says she doesn't care, but...

[GrowStrong]

www.pegym.com
nuff said you can exercise it to get bigger i grew 1.3" im on that website with the same name. whether or not you decide to check it out is your fait but it turned my life around. just saying

[Opinion Owner]

@GrowStrong Dude, I've looked into that stuff a million times.

[GrowStrong]

if you looked into it a million times then your not doing it consistently then are you? i only had to look into it once then carried on doing it for months and months to get the rewards from it

[Anonymous]

Next time we men should include our banana size in biodata. Lol

[Anonymous]

That sucks, have you given him a bj yet?

[Asker]

I've tried... he couldn't even get hard. At first I thought it was something about me so I was taking it really really personal. Before we even started hanging out I heard rumors that he had a really small penis but didn't really think anything of it because it just sounded like stupid gossip to me. I don't know if it's like some sort of medical condition or something... but I don't know what to do about it.

[Opinion Owner]

He sounds like a great guy but if you're not satisfied in the bedroom... that is a pretty big part of a relationship. If you do decide to leave him thought don't say its because of his dick size