My boyfriend likes to make me cry during sex is that normal?

[EddelChristopher]

So we where trying anal (wasn't the first time) and it always hurts too bad so I stop him. The very first time I was on top looking at him and I cried and apologized that we had to stop and he said it was okay and he was so sorry for hurting me. So we tried again with me face down on the bed and it hurt so bad he couldn't get all the way in and I told him to stop and he told me he was cuming and I started crying and he kept going till he was finished. After, he told me that hearing me cry was a big turn on. It wasn't rape or anything we have a safe word if I need him to stop. So is it normal for guys to like making a girl cry during sex or should I be concerned?

[Anonymous]

I would tolerate this. But you shouldn't worry if it's normal or not, you should think if it is ok for you. I would have tolerated this because I like to be dominated and trying to enter in his psychology, I would understand this too. Also when a person cums strange things go into his mind. I have been surprised from my own mind. I wouldn't be worried only for this, if I don't see other signs of a psychopath. (This is not a sign, it's just something sexual and tells nothing about him)

[cahdee]

Well put. On paper it sounds bad. But we are the same way. She regularly cries and I don’t stop until I finish, that sounds bad but she prefers it this way as do I so people can butt out. We don’t really do anal but same concept. She used to ask her friends but it just made her feel weird around them. She likes letting me do what I want and I treat her good so she is totally content. Why listen to what other people do? Most marriages are no good.

[playdates]

It's a fetish, but I wouldn't call it S&M or bdsm or anything. If you safeword and he doesn't stop, you need to have a non-sexual, very serious conversation with him. It is very very important when people have fetishes out of the norm to take safewording and their partners discussed limits very seriously.

[bunnyy]

one time my boy friend almost cried because he hit my cervix bu accident during sex and I said "owww" and he thought he hurt me really bad and he got really upset even though it was only like a second of pain he was really worried. I prefer my situation haha that sounds scary..

[cahdee]

Personally i dont stop until i finish. But my wife is fine with that. She does cry if i am a little worked up or if its been a while. Its not a turn on but it does instill a sense of urgency. If it is hurting bad enough for you to cry he should at least finish asap. But i will say this, when she doesn't cry now it is unusual and it makes it harder to finish. Its not a preference of mine, just that sense of urgency is missing. not sure, us guys are complicated.

[sawno]

Like everyone else its eigther a fetish or a fantasy he is having and thats completely normal.
Nothing to worry about unless he ignores your save word, he knows he can go his way with you until you use that.

[asknaughtyguy]

Does he like that with anal only, or also with other activities (make you cry...)?
About anal, and the fact it hurts:
c'mon, there are plenty of "instructions", nowadays! take your time, lots of lubes, and practice! it can be a LOT of fun AND it can be a pleasure for the both of you!!!
i wonder if he be turned on more by you crying for pain or you turning around, butt in the air, and telling him"please, fuck me in the ass"... and actually enjoying it!
;)

[kheserthorpe]

It's not that odd if you two enjoy s&m.

The fact you have a safe word suggests... that for you two, this isn't so strange.

[KBob93]

It's just a little S&M.

[theperfectdater]

Your safe word isn't stop... If getting off is more important than hurting you he has issues.

[EddelChristopher]

Its not more important. If I had said the safe word he would have stopped immediately. I've used it before I let him finish because I like to make him feel good and I could take it for the half a minute more that it took to get him off. I just wanted to know why me crying was a turn on or if a lot of guys liked that

[theperfectdater]

Because a lot of guys are sick fucks

[Gnome0]

Seems like a domination fetish. Are you okay with it?

[EddelChristopher]

If it makes him feel dominant yes. In our relationship I'm very loud and out going and he just follows behind but I'm very submissive sexually and he wasn't exactly dominant when we first started dating but he's gotten a lot better so if it's just a dominant like fetish its alright with me

[Elliot0_07]

It's complety normal girl!

The majority of guys like to make the famela cry, it kind activates the "male instincts".

So all you have to do is keep doing this for him even if it hurts.

[Adviceletsgo]

No concern, he probably has some sort of a fetish with sex and pain.

[Lonewolfproductionz]

Just a kink

[Anonymous]

You told him to stop he told you he was coming and you start crying and he kept going till he finished. How is this not rape?

[EddelChristopher]

Its not the first time I've said stop and he hasn't that's why we have a safe word. Stop never really means stop to either of us. It's the first time I've cried, I was just wondering why crying was a turn on to him. If I really needed him to stop I would have said the safe word and he would have that's why its not rape. He had my consent

[Anonymous]

thats really freaky to me.. cries of pain should be looked at as serious and not a turn on ;\ talk to him and tell him it really hurts you and he should find something else to get off on

[Anonymous]

That seems really strange to me, but maybe he's into SM or what ever its called.