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How to tell someone they gave you an STD?

So I stopped dating this guy about 3 months ago because I had suspected him of infecting me with an STD knowingly. I asked him several times was he clean and he claimed he was but yesterday I went to the hospital and they confirmed I have a std. It was from him for sure because he's the only I've done this year, I get checked up frequently and I don't sleep around. Anyways my bff said I should confort him face to face but I think that's not wise because I'm rather upset and if he says anything smart or rude to me I will slash his tires lmao jk but I'm just too angry right now. Any suggestions on how I should confront him? I'm just in shock still I have plenty of friends that get around and none of them have std's! Why me? I've only had 2 partners my whole life and this happens.
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To answer everyone's question: yes what I caught is curable thank God its Tric. They gave me a shot in my butt and 8 pills that killed it same day and once the condom broke which I guess is how I caught it ugh
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Most Helpful Girls

  • sorry to hear this happened, std scares are awful and it happens to good girls because unfortunately a lot of guys are dogs and pieces of shits! my close friend got HPV from the guy she lost her virginity to! and she was devastated! I hated the asshole for it she was really sweet. she deserved better. thankfully the Dr. told her it was cleared up/gone so she felt relieved but I felt bad for her. all I can say is definitely bring the subject because this is your health! and fuck him if he gets snappy or smart! a backhand would be appropriate in that case!!! I can't stand cheaters, and don't get me started on lying cheaters.. no patience. don't take no more shit let him know what a piece of shit you think he is and be OUT! good luck sweetie! :)

  • When my ex gave me an STD from his previous girlfriend, he called me over the phone. Then I had to go see the man I was currently dating and I told him in person. He was very relaxed about it surprisingly. Given, it was a curable infection, but still I had expected more of a reaction. I think a phone call would do though... Let him know he needs to get tested. You don't need to have a conversation about it but you do need to tell him. You may be upset but there is nothing you can do at this point. Just let him know what is up...

  • what std did he give you? I don't know if confronting him would do any good. its not going to cure it and he probably will deny it. but I can see why you would want to tell him off. in your case I would do it either in person or on the phone, but not through text or email where you could later be embarrassed if its put out there

Most Helpful Guys

  • In a non pleasing manner, it's not ok to lie about STD's and even worse not to get it fixed when it can be fixed.

    Some like herpes is incurable, but as least be honest about.

  • I'd slap the fuck out of a person who knowingly infected me. Fact I might do worse then that. I think you can sue my for that honestly

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  • You should let him know and approach it with the angle like, "Hey, just for your own health and personal sake, I wanted to let you know.. XYZ." I think he would appreciate it so he doesn't go around infecting other people.

  • It depends on the stds, sometimes you don't notice it. So, are you sure he knew it?
    Then, you always have to use protection. If you're getting serious, you have to wait three month and do blood test because you never know.

  • "Hey fuckface, you gave me an STD. See you in court, asshole"

  • What evidence do you have that he knew? If it's enough for a reasonable suspicion, you need to report this to the police.

  • you just have to be straight with them lol. no other way around it and the sooner the better, for his health obviously.

  • Get them out for coffee and tell them in their face and show them your std letter!

  • Did you use any form of protection while having sex with this man?

  • The baseball bat tells it best.

  • I have herpes genitally and found out while in a long-term relationship. That relationship is over and now I find myself having trouble dating. Actually I can find dates no problem, it's moving to the next step that's hard. Once I've dated a guy and it comes to the point we want to have sex, I have 'the talk' with him. Most guys either tell me they can't deal with it or I just never hear from them again. I feel that I will never find someone who wants to be with me despite my disease. Then i had a try to a herpes dating site herpesmeetup. com. i was not hopeful of getting something here. But i found many which are really helpful, the information about the virus, the friendly friends. They can listen to your experience and give you some suggests. Maybe you have a try.

  • Eh, maybe, maybe not. Depends on how serious of an STD it is. But I sure as hell would tell any and all women he's involved with that he gave it to me.

  • What is the STD?

    • Chlamydia?

  • Sexual intercourse.

  • "YOU FUCKING DICK! YOU PAY FOR THIS SHIT TO GO AWAY!"

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