Naked pictures of your girlfriend and masturbating, but in denial about it?

[Bunni26]

So my boyfriend who denies that he ever masturbates since I busted him a long time ago (read my other posts!) Is still asking me to take naked pictures of myself..HE recently bought a camera and took a few graphic pictures but I don't really tell him to bring it over anymore, Still if he wants me to send him naked pictures of myself and I am sure graphic shots what ELSE would he do with them besides jerk off to them? I totally never got, after watching Pam Anderson & Tommy Lee's sex tape, why guys want to Film their penis's going into a vagina, after I saw that and after he did the same thing using my camera, I'm thinking, I could never find that attractive it's just a penis in a vagina! ( I think this is why he bought his own camera, because he can take whatever pictures he wants with his instead of using mine) So the question is why does he deny that he ever jerks off, even to pics of me? How do I get him to come clean?

[Feelinfrisky]

Several points: First, it sounds like he is not a live in, so he (and you) have a certain amount of freedom. Do you have a problem with him masturbating? If so, why? If not, does he know you don't care? If you sound negative to him when you ask, then he might think it bothers you, so he won't admit it. If he jerks off to sexy pictures of you, then obviously, you get him excited. Finally, if you don't care, and he knows it, then he has some hang-up about admitting it. In that case, maybe you should ask him if looking at graphic pictures of you when he is alone, makes him horny. Ask him if he fantasizes about you, and what his fantasy's are. Then you could say,does looking at your naked pictures cause him to masturbate (the idea is to have him feel you really are excited about it). If he says yes, then ask him to tell you what he does. This could lead to some very hot sex for the two of you. I hope this is helpful.

Also, I noticed that you are not to impressed by watching graphic sex. Not everyone is. I am just hoping that you don't try to make him feel bad about it. Many times sex partners (who have a relationship) have different sex needs. If they care enough about each other, they don't mind trying so satisfy the other ones needs.

[Bunni26]

Yes both of us only have certain amounts of privacy, That's just it, I do not mind at all if he does it He is too embarrassed to admit if he still does he adamantly denies it because he had a problem with it in the past, which he lied to me about, If he had just shared this with me I would of have no problems whatsoever. His issue is that he thinks I'll be upset if looks at porn or pictures of other women , the only reason I got upset about in the past was because he hid it from me and lied about

[jerseyse410]

what why in the hell does your guy have to deny masturbating? There is nothing to come clean about, jeez woman back the hell off and stop making your guy feel ashamed because he likes to pleasure himself. If you have a problem with porn then guess what he has to move to other visual stimuli and instead of coming on here and bitching about not being able to control what your guy does with own body you should feel flattered and sexy that he wants to jack off to you. I don't care what he jacked off to before, the point of the matter is, it's his body, not yours, now back the hell off.

[peace-love-couture]

Oh my,someones a little feisty.Although I do agree you might be making him feel guilty and ashamed about masturbating.Almost everyone does it.I think he keeps denying it cause you're calling him out on it and not everyone is open about that subject

[jerseyse410]

No it just bugs me when I hear women bitching about "oh I don't like it when my boyfriend masturbates" and "its disgusting" and "why do they do it?" PLEASE, we don't care if you masturbate or not and its not a big deal to us. The porn thing I can see, it would bother me if my girl was pleasuring herself to fabio's bedchambers 3 but don't nitpick and bitch about him masturbating, its just infuriating.

[peace-love-couture]

LMFAO@"it would bother me if my girl was pleasuring herself to fabio's bedchambers 3" That was funny I'm sorry I don't hear too many women complaining about guys masturbating.I don't see why a woman would complain,it's just masturbation,but I'm guessing insecure ones do.

[peace-love-couture]

Lol

OMG,your boyfriend doesn't know how to lie

But guys are visual so the picture of HIS penis entering YOUR vagina is a turn-on.It's a close up shot of the action

But I mean it's just masturbation,so I would just let it be,there's no need to "bust" him cause you already know he does it and you might just be embarrassing him

I'd hate to suggest anything bad,but there are guys who post naked pics of their girlfriends just to show off what they have and whatnot

[l-hedoniste]

Why does he deny that he jerks off? That's how denial works. If you're ashamed of something you do, deny you do it, *poof*, problem solved. (Actually, problem submerged, to re-emerge elsewhere in some f*cked up, twisted fashion.)

How do you get him to come clean? Let him know it's okay, you don't care that he jerks off, or what he jerks off to.

If you can't say this, and mean it, then he has good and obvious reasons to lie to you.

[MartinIsAMartian]

Why does he have to lie about masturbating?

[MartinIsAMartian]

You're trying to bust him on doing something that's normal.you're embarrassing him and making him feel shamed and you don't even get it

[Anonymous]

why don't you try telling him what ur telling us?