Very young guy /older woman thought process on sex.

[princessevils]

I am late 30's {20 years older} started a casual intimate only relationship with an 18 year old out of fun. First it was all good, but he pre-ejaculated. I told him its no big deal, happens. Then he starts with I feel guilty I like this girl at school, so you can give me head. Talks his talk how it takes a long time. Well, I am grown so of course it didn't take long. He talks dirty with me all the time. Then suddenly I decided nothing cause I really like this girl. I know its not about some little girl. But how nervous or intimidate do young guys get with older women . I know I know he is too young, but talked a good game so it was just for fun on both sides. Not life altering just wondered what goes through those young guys head with older women. Its not attraction or bored or that other big boy crap.

[daveyjones]

Sometimes there is genuine attraction, but I remember when I was 19, the girl was 33 and the attraction was mutual. I always prided myself on fantastic conversational skills (I sold wine at the time), so my whole focus was on trying not to come across as some eager, excited idiot. Thankfully I didn't and spent one of the best nights of my life with her. I would point out the girl in question - I really liked her, probably even infatuated a little but I could tell she wanted someone closer to her own age. Needless to say it didn't last and but we remained friends.

I think young guys enjoy the idea that they think such an encounter might lead to sex and are excited as they've already convinced themselves it will be amazing. However, they get nervous because they might feel they're being scrutinised more and feel under pressure to perform better.

If you're going to have an encounter with a younger guy, judge the level of conversation and if you kiss him, see if he responds with any degree of confidence, not just excitement

[BrettH]

Ive never understood the fascination with young guys going for older women i.e. 20 years older. but I know its usually along the line of they want someone experienced I guess its an ego boost. they think if they can get someone older and more experienced to have and be in pleasure than they can get anyone their age to be pleasured. I think its a foolish thought. but hey its not me going for them. that's why he broke down cause he was going for the ego boost and failed didn't know what to do and since ur probably as old as his mom he confided with you.

[princessevils]

OK, OK..I caught the disapproval..not like I troll schoolyards. But I think you are right that ego boost and he failed. Did not even think of that. Afraid if he did try again and that happened again..OMG.....Good answer., I don't know the fascination either, but majority of guys (cant say men) that approach me are in their twenties. I don't get it either. Believe me I do think on it.