My best friend has the exact same problem. I've tried telling her over and over that she needs to STOP pretending to orgasm when he fingers her. He sees the way she responds to him just sticking his fingers in and out and then he believes that is what gets her off. Either show him yourself or stop acting like it feels good. If you stop responding, he'll start to play around more and try to figure out what feels good. When he hits the spot, you'll put out some REAL noise, and then he'll keep doing what makes you respond.
0 1 0 0Tell him what you want. If you're not shy enough to have sexual contact with him it shouldn't be that big a deal to tell him you want him to touch your clit instead of your vagina. Tell him that it hurts when he does it the other way. Just say it, it's not like you're gonna hurt his feelings or anything.
0 0 0 0Rather then tell him do what I did. Take his hand and show him. Move his fingers over your clit how you want it. Speed, pressure, that kind of thing.
Let him know you like it by moaning. :)0 0 0 0I've done that and yet he always wants to go to the jabbing of the vagina. Ahh.
Well if he doesn't get it. Just stop fake moaning. If you aren't making any pleasure sounds when he is doing this then he will get the hint. It's supposed to be about you anyways. So he has to learn what you like.
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I don't understand. You are perfectly willing to naked in front of him. You can spread your legs and let him stick his fingers in your pussy, but you are too shy to talk too him? That doesn't make sense. If you think about this you will have to laugh at how stupid this sounds. You can give him free access to your most private intimate bodily orifice, but you are to shy to tell hi how to rub your nub.
2 0 0 0I've never officially been naked in front of him and vice versa. I'm just scared I'll make him angry or upset that I 'sorta' lied with a fake orgasm. I don't know if I should tell him THAT, but, I just need advice on how to make it feel good for me - he seems to only want to shove his fingers in my vagina like he's digging for buried treasure.
I can identify with what's happening. He is inexperienced.He perhaps does not know you have a clit and definitly doesn't know where it is. Do you masturbate often, know what feels good? Just let him start, then say ouch that doesn't feel good. then you take his hand and guide him to your clit while you tell him to rub it gently and guide him on what you like. He doesn't know what he is doing, he will likely be happy if you would help him learn. :)
tell him communication is key. my girlfriend tells me how to make it feel better all the time. also she puts her hand on mine and helps me do it and that has all added into helping me be a little better at it. altho I'm a hell of a lot better at eating her out so if that's an option we skip fingering and I go straight down. she loves it.
0 0 0 0He HAS offered to give me oral, but I'm scared since I've never had it done to me and, also, he told me he's never done either. Since he's an amazing kisser, I don't think he'll be bad. What I AM worried about is how he might not like my "situation" down there. I know I'll trim it up a lot, but, I'm scared he'll be grossed out and/or wish that it was hair free (which really hurts and itches). What do you recommend?
Well just be trimmed I prefer trimmed to shaved because I know how badly shaved hurts and even if you are shaved there always seems to be hair there. so just trimm it up and take a fine tooth comb and comb down there a bit. try and get the loose hairs. and then do this before ur boyfriend eats you out. also tell him to suck your clit and to lick around your pussy. get used tot he taste and texture before he dives straight in with tongue and all. get him to read how to eat out and what to do and not to
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0 3Clear instructions rarely fail: "OUCH! Don't do that." "Play with my clit. More. Don't stop,"
1 0 0 0straight up tell him
1 0 0 0when he does it next time
say oh babe do it like this and moan and say that feels amazing
i love it when you do it like thaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat moan0 0 0 0As I said, I'm shy, so, I'm not much of a "noise-maker" - I'm so used to having to be quiet when masturbating that I don't moan. So, when I've simply thought of "making noises" - it makes me feel fake since that's not my "normal" way/response.
Well then when ur about to get fingered say hey babe or hey sweetie I was wondering if you could finger me a little bit different this time. I'm feeling EXTRA HORNY (put a lot of emphasis on EXTRA HORNY) and then show him what feels better for you
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