What do you consider "kinky"?

[Anonymous]

I've been thinking. I've never really considered my tastes particularly kinky, and I don't think I would get anything out of S&M or bondage, but I do like a bit of mild pain. I tend to bite when I kiss (not during BJs though, that would be mean) without even thinking about it, and I want to be bitten. I mean, not to the point of lasting teeth marks, but more than nibbling. I also want to be bitten or pinched in my nipples rather than kissed or licked, because they are quite insensitive, and I don't really feel anything from soft touching. I guess that after a while in a relationship, lots of little quirks and tastes are considered ok, but is it ok during first time sex with a guy, or would he be totally weirded out? Would you feel very uncomfortable biting or pinching someone? It's not that important to me to feel totally satisfied during first time sex anyway, because it's more about "omg we have no clothes on! ", I'm just generally curious where you draw the line.

[Anonymous]

For me, bondage isn't even that kinky, honestly. I haven't been with a great deal of girls, but the ones I have and the girlfriends of my friends I've talked to about this stuff all indicate that light-rough sex (biting nipples, spanking) is one thing most girls seem to go for. Most are into much rougher stuff. Trying to balance the line between being totally honest and yet tasteful, let's just say that people are having some crazy sex behind closed doors, that's for sure.

For what it's worth, girls who go wild the first time I have sex with them really put me at ease, because if she's comfortable and into it,then I can be too.

[Asker]

Wow, is that so? I'm not sure that would apply to my friends, but who knows, in all honesty I've never asked them. Thanks for your answer!

[Opinion Owner]

Well when I said "most", I should have said "most who I know", because most of the girls I'm around are, well, sluts; while I think most girls in general are not.

[juice]

Well if you like it "rough" then that's who you are and your partner should learn and understand this because that's the only way he will please you because if he does not please you and you don't tell him that could be a huge blow to a guys self esteem but tell him and find his points of view on the matter by TALKING! Then once you know what he is willing to do and once you find out where his line is drawn then you don't have to suffer embarrassing quarrels during sex so bring it up in a conversation

[Asker]

Thanks, I'll think about that. :)

[juice]

Your welcome and I would agree with the dude over my answer if a girl goes wild at first everyone would be more comfortable

[epavlova]

I don't think your tastes sound particularly kinky at all. If it's a one-night-stand or fling, why not go for it, and do what you enjoy the most? But if you see potential for a long term relationship, I'd keep it more vanilla the first time or two or three. You need to get to know each other, and to know what each of you likes. I mean, in a long term relationship, you have to discover what works best for both of you, right?. As your relationship deepens, inside and outside the bedroom, you can and should experiment more with, umm, "variations". But it's sort of like a strip tease -- it's best done slowly, revealing one layer at a time.

[Asker]

This is more the case of a budding long term relationship, I think, and you have some good points. Thank you for your answer!

[nothingtosee]

Oh, so many ideas to suggest. For example:

Threesomes (with another man, or a woman), daring him to do something naughty, kinky or taboo, like... asking him to eat his own cum, or asking him to let you finger or fuck his ass with a dildo, asking him to have bi sex, phone sex while you two are having sex, handjobs or blowjobs while he's driving during the day with lots of traffic all around. Him giving you a handjob while you are driving or as a passenger during the day with lots of traffic all around you. Asking a friend to watch you two have sex. Ruined orgasms. Asking him to be your sex slave for the night. YOU volunteering to be HIS sex slave for the night.

[deadwait]

Bringing animals or vegetables into bed is where I draw the line.

Biting and pinching is fine and not kinky in the slightest - trying to put a carrot up a guy's bum or getting a kitty for your kitty is just plain weird - If that were to happen I'd be like, "cya later. Forever! "

[Asker]

Hahaha, well, that is good to know. No carrots or kitties for me either.