My Boyfriend Makes Fun Of My Body and Comments on It?

[Anonymous]

I'm 18,and been with my current boyfriend for 2 years.He the only person I've ever been sexually active with and I gave my virginity to him.Well,I'm 5'3,115lbs and I wear a 34B Cup bra.I work out 2 hours a day,7 days a week and I eat healthy.My boyfriend makes comments about my body all of the time.He told me my boobs were too small,and that I look better with a push up bra on rather than being bare,he's told me I'm too heavy for the woman on top position,and that I need to run around a football field a few times,he's told me I'm not normal or attractive "down there".He's also toId me I don't look good in bikinis,or anything like that.I hate my body.I hate everything about it.I always act confident around him cause I've been told insecurity is a turn off,so I don't show it.He's compared me to Megan Fox and other celebrities and has told me I'm a 1 compared to them.He's told me that I'm a turnoff to have sex with cause I look extremely fat in certain positions and stuff,so usually I try to wear clothing or whatever.But I can't do it anymore.If I could,I would get plastic surgery,but I don't have money at the moment.But I hate to even look at myself in the mirror. What should I do?please help?

[emmee]

I would just like to say, in response to anonymous, that is THE worst answer I think I have ever seen on here, and I had an account before this current one, so I have been reading questions for over a year.

There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you or your body, and your boobs are most definitely not too small for your body. 115 for 5'3" is a completely healthy and attractive weight, and if your boobs were any bigger, they probably wouldn't fit your body very well.

The problem here is not you, it's HIM. If my husband did even ONE of the things you mentioned him doing, he would not be getting any kisses, sexual favors or a bed for at least a few days. What he's doing shows a lack of respect and appreciation for you and your body, and if does things like this, you should get out of the relationship, NOW. He does not deserve you. Your man should love, appreciate, WORSHIP every inch of you. At least once a week, my husband kisses me from scalp to toe and says what he loves about every inch of my body. EVERY woman deserves this in a mate.

Go find someone who does this for you, who makes you feel good about yourself.

[littleturkey10]

You sound beautiful no matter what a jerk guy says (aka your boyfriend or the anonymous user who posted that rude comment and who is probably your bf's twin). I understand after two years how you would be very much attached, especially since you lost your virginity to him. That creates a bond that is not easily broken no matter how much abuse (verbal or otherwise) he puts you through. You are not alone but you definitely need to take charge. From what everyone has said you obviously know this guy is a jerk. You need to take time to yourself and realize he doesn't love you, he's simply in the relationship because he feels the need to be built up and so he puts you down. I've seen it so many times, the whole 'but he loves me, he just doesn't show it some times." The truth is, he doesn't love you. Please break it off with this guy. It'd be cool if you found a guy so much better than him right away that would make you happy and him jealous at the same time, but believe me, you'll be 10 times happier just being single than with this creep. Remember, you're beautiful!

[Anonymous]

First of all, there is absolutely nothing wrong with your body. (ANd I suspect that deep down, you know that.) The ONLY issue here is that you are being emotionally abused by your boyfriend. And it would be considered abusive NO MATTER WHAT your body type. He's cruel. And for reasons that are not fully clear, he has some sick need to keep you feeling insecure and inferior. You need to leave him. He won't get better with time. He'll only get worse until you feel so completely weakened and insecure that you feel incapable of leaving him (which is maybe what this is about in the first place).

[Anonymous]

I think you're looking for sympathy but you don't deserve it,and here's my advice,it's your issue.If you need to lose weight,then workout more,go run around a football field,sign up for a gym membership,if your boobs are too small,get plastic surgery or wear a push up bra,stop wearing things that make you unattractive.It's that simple.And stop acting insecure,it IS a turn off,work on your personal issues before entering a relationship

[pepsired]

Sadly enough not only does you answer make you sound like a loser, but your lack of balls that caused you to post anonymously proves you are less that a real man. but it is ok, everyone that read you lame ass comment knows that I am simply stating the obvious.

[Opinion Owner]

Look I'm simply saying the truth.Some of you are trying to sugar coat it for her.Don't do that

[loveee]

Grow a pair. you're just some pathetic loser who sits on your computer all day acting like a hard a** ANONYMOUSLY over the internet. you're obviously insecure if you're going to say stuff like that! she works out 2 hours a day you idiot!

[Opinion Owner]

Seriously?Ms Feminist,take your bs somewhere else.She asked a question,i answered it with an answer

[Amber1123]

I do not think she is looking for sympathy but validation. When someone is abused like this a new narrative is formed from the manipulation because of the lowered self-esteem. I have been here although not as drastic. I can say I am a beautiful women and have confidence.. even in my abusers eyes ("I was the most beautiful women he dated" he said).. Yet when someone is insecure themselves, they tend to wreck havoc on others to validate their own self-worth. Your post is disgusting. The truth is no one will ever have all of their "personal issues" worked on unless they are enlightened. It is easy to be single and be happy with oneself, that's why relationships can be helpful for growth. In my opinion she needs to trust her instinct that she should not be treated this way, and in doing so, she will validate herself and build her self-worth. Right now her self-worth is not only being tested by the partner, but she is devaluing herself by staying with someone like that.

[Amber1123]

You cannot speak the truth for someone else. Get out of your own patriarchal notion of how a woman should be treated (or anyone for that matter) and get some fucking empathy.

[l-hedoniste]

Has it occurred to you that your boyfriend's an *sshole?

He deserves to be, if not dumped outright, cheated on. And almost said something about teaching moments, your need for reassurance, and your winning personality.

But I will instead say the smart thing: Think. A good boyfriend, who cares about how you feel, doesn't talk this way. Only an enemy, a rude one, talks this way.

Warn him, then dump him.

[guats]

This does not sound like a guy who appreciates you. I don't think there is anything wrong with you, the problem is him. If he's not attracted to you, let him go and find someone who is. He's not worth your time.

[jimmajam]

Why are you with him? It sounds like it's time to drop this loser. If he's not attracted to you and can't love you for the way you are now, he doesn't love you at all.

[jimmajam]

If he loved you he'd be encouraging you not discouraging you and beating your self-esteem down. Dump him.

[m1988]

what should you do? dump him!

[dave216]

No problem at all. Your boyfriend is an idiot. Replace him with someone with a bit of maturity.

[jerseyse410]

many other guys would be absolutely great with your body type. My girl is 5'5 and near your measurements and she is perfect to me. Dump this asshole before he gets physically abusive and find a better guy. And please, don't hate to look at yourself in the mirror, you sound fine the way you are.

[Jermaine1502]

you sound fine the way you are you don't need plastic surgery!

[MrWizard]

Definitely sounds like he has some emotional problems. These type of degrading comments are not normal or healthy. He needs some professional help. Sounds like a relationship you would be better off without.

[click11]

OMG I really hope your kidding because your body type seems nothing short of perfect. were the same height same weight but I'm an A I"m sure you body is completely fine your b.f is a jerk with control issues or something else is up but seriously there's probably a lot of guys checking you out.

[Jarett]

what do you mean what do you do? I have a hint, STOP BEING STUPID. Dump him!

[pepsired]

your boyfriend is being mentally abusive toward you. plain and simple. he knows he has control on you and preys on you insecurities to get you to do what he asks. this WILL lead to an even greater unhealthy relationship and has the potential to turn abusive in the future if you don't do what he says. he does not love you, he loves what he wants you to be. if he said the you turn him off sexually then you can bet he is already getting it elsewhere. drop the zero and get a hero.

[here4you]

wow douche bag

he doesn't deserve you at all

you should def get rid of him

and respects you for the beautiful woman you are =)

[loveee]

wow get rid of this guy!

why would you want to be with someone who treats you like this? It would be bad enough if someone random said such awful stuff to you, yet alone your BOYFRIEND!

seriously you shouldn't be with someone who doesn't like you for who you are.

[TheWatchtower]

he's a f*** head sorry to swear but its true dump that and get a real man who will appreciate you for who you actually are. A beautifuly formed, well built women.

[Jocoro]

This Sob needs to drop off the earth you are beautiful and he is a peice of sh*t 😠😠😠😠😠

[Anonymous]

he's a jackass. you shouldn't be with anyone who doesn't appreciate who you are.

you sound normal and no one should have the right to say such mean things to you.

dump his sorry butt.